Doesn't even feel they were sexually assaulted by your doctor?

Hi - This is the first time I've gotten brave enough to actually post something instead of just reading things posted by others. I'm trying to see if there is anyone else (other than ME) who feels that you're a doctor has assaulted and/or taken advantage of you…even hurt you on purpose? I mean, as a kid, as a team, as an adult. Even if you're not totally sure… maybe this thread help validate or alleviate your fear.

We all know what happened with Dr. Larry Nassar and it was pouring Olympic victims. And sexual assault by doctors on patients are so much more common than the world knows - nobody wants to talk about it.

I AM NOT LOOKING TO GET OFF ON YOUR TRAUMA - I myself am a victim of this and I guess I'm sort of trying to create a safe space within the MedFet community to discuss these things amongst people maybe can relate. We all basically use fake names on here anyway, so I guess it's as safe a community is any to talk about something like this.

I AM NOT LOOKING TO GET OFF ON YOUR TRAUMA - I myself am a victim of this and I guess I'm sort of trying to create a safe space within the MedFet community to discuss these things amongst people maybe can relate. We all basically use fake names on here anyway, so I guess it's as safe a community is any to talk about something like this.

I have never had a doctor do anything improper. I think most are solid, upstanding citizens and the people that do this should be horse whipped and thrown in a hole they never get out of. It does happen unfortunately. I am curious, did this doctor ever get what he deserved for doing this. Maybe someone else called him on it?

Hello,

And welcome to Zity. We are a unique community of fetishists.

To start with, yes, this is a safe space. We are community based on consent, acceptance, and tolerance.

This community does not condone those kinds of actions - Nassar and that ilk are exactly the opposite of who/what we are. This site is BASED on consent, on the wonders of mutual appreciation. There are WORLDS to explore in that space. This is a site dedicated to helping our members experience those ideas.

And yet, there are worlds to explore in many spaces. If you are looking for unique experiences in this space, and wondering about where that might lead you? You may be in the right place. We are a fun community of people who will help try to figure out these ideas with you, at your pace, and based on your needs.

@Moppys_jalopy Unfortunately, it may take a very long time for justice to catch such people, if it ever does. There was lately a case of a gynecologist, supposedly an expert on endometriosis, in a major Paris hospital… he had done it for a long time. Same for Nassar. At least one Zity participant explains how she had been assaulted by her mom's GP, and as far as I understand the guy never got prosecuted.

@Moppys_jalopy Unfortunately, it may take a very long time for justice to catch such people, if it ever does. There was lately a case of a gynecologist, supposedly an expert on endometriosis, in a major Paris hospital… he had done it for a long time. Same for Nassar. At least one Zity participant explains how she had been assaulted by her mom's GP, and as far as I understand the guy never got prosecuted.

Unfortunately it does happen.

There was some concern about this topic but the moderation team feels that it is acceptable because it could help someone going forward.

We had a gynecologist in our city prosecuted and convicted for inappropriate behavior but the details were never disclosed publicly.

News stories pop up every so often about this kind of abuse. Often, especially in sports, there are enablers who simply turn the other cheek. This was true about the coaches and handlers who worked with guys like Nassar and Sandusky. These people are often disciplined or sued, but rarely prosecuted.

There’s a similar, some what different but parallel thread about pediatricians who use their “power” to exploit, harm or control their patients.

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=118008;firstnew

@Rigel Right. In all cases of persistent abuse, there are enablers, or at least people who close eyes.

A very well known French TV anchor committed sexual abuses for years and years. This was so well-known that the management of some schools of journalism avoided sending females as interns in the TV channel where he worked. Everybody in the field knew about it, it seemed (save some naive young women who ended up being victims).

Jeffrey Epstein had enablers, including Ms Maxwell.

The nature of the abuse perpetrated by Nassar was to take advantage of these young women while conducting their exams and/or treatment. He was very clever in how he gradually introduced inappropriate touching after having established a base of trust and confidence with them. This is the insidious nature of this kind of abuse. He betrayed their trust! The fact that it went on for years and others knew but did nothing is just as heinous. Had he not been caught, it's unclear what else and who else he would have abused. Being inappropriately touched doesn't have to involve force or pain for the recipient. In some instances, especially males, it can cause arousal, but not due to consent. This man along with others like him deserve severe punishment. Some may never recover from his actions.

A NetFlix documentary on Don Cline, MD is another powerful presentation of abuse perpetuated by a doctor using his own sperm to impregnate women who could not get pregnant from the husbands. As of this date, he has fathered 91 offspring. The law when this occurred did not cover abuse during the course of artificial insemination. These women thought that the doctor was using their husbands sperm. Another creepy example of how power and deviance causes heartache.

Welcome DrsVictim, I can relate to your questions and have discussed it here many times. I even found the only confirmation that the doc that took advantage of me was in fact abusive, he was never charged, was by meeting another victim of the same dr here on Zity…. Amazing.

And thank you….

There’s a similar, some what different but parallel thread about pediatricians who use their “power” to exploit, harm or control their patients.

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=118008;firstnew

I was going to point out this thread as well. Welcome, good luck!

@jme I am so so unbelievably sorry about your experience. I hope you're through - or at least going through the healing process.

And thank you to Zity admin for letting my post live - I seriously appreciate it.

This is so important and it happens so much frequently than anyone would believe! If interested, checking out the huge report that The Atlanta Journal Constitution did.

And to answer everyone's question - no, my assaulter is still seeing patients every day.

I was never physically assaulted by a medical provider, but yeah… it happens… we read about it in the papers. Seems like there's a few who do take advantage of their power over others… sadly.

My experience was different, with twists and curves. I was taken advantage of/exposed/managed/mildly sedated when I underwent some urological procedures outside the US many, many years ago (late 70').

I was urologically exploited in a foreign country, where medicine is still third world (sometimes 4th world). And as a foreigner, perhaps the ability to control and manipulate was another factor they used.

Equipment and devices they had were certainly nothing like we have here in the US and developed countries. Basic is a better word. I was catheterized a number of times and then taken for a cystoscopy. The audience that collected between my legs to observe the penetration and violation that was about to occur was beyond belief… everyone in scrubs and caps and masks… hidden from view, but eyes SO focused on the little fleshy slit that was about to be penetrated. It also felt ‘detached’… like only the organ was about to be used and the rest of the human wasnt there.

The torn gown they gave me to wear was falling off the side of me, and I was essentially naked on the table… legs in stirrups. I then realized this is how women feel when they go for their female pelvic examinations. The scopes were inserted in me a few times… I believe others were learning and being led by a female physician (urologist) who was in charge. And I watched all this from above as the overhead operating room light (those old style, domed lights) wasnt working, but the mirror finish just happened to be placed so I could clearly see all of the activity going on between my legs. When they got the information they needed, they inserted a larger catheter and seemed to struggle with it… my opening didnt like this invading monster. It finally went in. And it was changed a few more times during my stay.

How did I feel? Used, violated, penetrated, managed, overcome with medical power and control. I even felt “raped”… which is a very harsh word … but the method was the same, even though I consented and didnt complain. Clearly, they took away any manhood ability during my stay there… which I now feel allows me to feel how others interpret being taken advantage of.

The point of this is as follows… it clicked something in me, perhaps very deep, unknowing, unaware. I needed it (and other variations) again. Is/was it my medical submissiveness? My need for exploration? The need to feel exposed and managed again? All unknowns… but i have been craving it for many years and have explored greatly over time, and have used that experience to my own personal satisfaction… odd as it may sound. But it certainly doesnt give anyone permission to be used for personal, unconsenting activities. In MY setting, it did something to me that has allowed ongoing exploration.

@jme I am so so unbelievably sorry about your experience. I hope you're through - or at least going through the healing process.

And thank you to Zity admin for letting my post live - I seriously appreciate it

Thanks for your kind words. I'm in a good place now.

Sorry the abuser you mentioned is still practicing.

I do not feel like I’ve ever been assaulted by any medical professionals or para professionals but I do feel like I’ve been taken advantage of while under the influence of powerful pain medicine to consent to exams or observers I would not have allowed and also left exposed a lot longer than I should have been particularly following a car accident many years ago. I do think protection of privacy is a little better than years ago but sometimes there are still times where it is neglected.

I just saw this thread. Yes this is something that happened to me as well. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk about it.

I want to offer my sympathy, for those who were sexually violated, under any circumstances. I was fortunate, in that respect. On a different note, my doctor sent me to an in-house psychologist, who was in reality, a Phd student, completing his thesis. He was working in conjunction with the “behavioral health ” department, at UNC, in Chapel Hill, NC. Unknown to me at the time, this guy was more interested in making an impression on his professors, than actually helping patients. He misdiagnosed me, intentionally, I believe, and that became part of my permanent medical record. The departmental social workers, were complicit with him, as they were always trying to find new “patients” for him to “analyze.” It got to the point, that I had to get an attorney to remove the falsified information from my record. I work in a profession that requires you to have a clean mental health, and criminal record. This could have ruined me financially. So, yes, medical abuse doesn't always have to be physical.

This is a great post. Yes…growing up the doctor did do inappropriate things to me. I don't want to use the word “assaulted” or “abused" because I was not physically hurt but its all perspective of how you view it and how I adjusted to my past drama's.

I think Doctors and others, there is a level of sexual abuse. For example, my pediatrician always, always had to examine my genitals and when he did, it took a long time (or at least if felt long) and he would thoroughly examine my penis and scrotum. He knew over time, I did have a sensitive penis, even laying on the exam table in my undies, I had an erection so when it time for him to examine my penis, he would feel my shaft and scrotum, he would hold the base of my penis and with his other hand he would feel the head of my penis and slowly flick my frenulum unit I had an orgasm.

Many times my Mother would be in the exam room watching, when I started puberty, he would point out to my Mom, my development and show her my pubic hair and explain to my Mom about boys and puberty and masturbation and such and that is when my home inspection started.

Since then, from 12yrs old to 18yrs old, I have had this particular Doctor give my these type of exams along with my Mother doing home inspections on me.

How would I know? A few days ago I was in the ER where they did all kinds of tests, CT scan, ekg and they wanted to do a stress test but had to keep me over night for that so I had to be admitted for that.

They took me to the room where the nurse said hi and left, she already knew me, her assistant listed on the board wasn't there but another girl was. She had me lower my pants so she could apply the stick on pad to my back to scare away any bed sores. As she lowered my pants she said “you might as well take them right off because we're going to look at everything anyway”. She began at the top of my head and did a full skin check down to my toes. Spread my cheeks to look at my hemmers, turned me around and checked all four sides of my penis by pulling it every which way using my foreskin as a handle. Felt my balls pulling them to all four sides and rolling them in her fingers. Spread my legs/thighs to check my taint then down my legs to the balls of my feet.

In short she did everything my wife refuses to do. I almost fell in love with her so abuse never entered my mind. For all I know she might have been the person who empties the waste baskets but she was great. When another guy came in later for the other bed they did the same to him, so apparently the new policy is a strip search before they let you get in bed.

I've been there actually. I already have posted here about my experience. But anyway, I had some issues as a young boy and in my teens. Very strong cremasteric reflex and later in my early teens a tight foreskin. The cremasteric reflex made me literally swallow up my testicles, which was really painful and uncomfortable. It all started around the age of 10, My parents used to take me to many doctors. The last one they took me to literally masturbated me. She used to say everytime that boys are dirty and so is this stuff coming out of my penis. I was nearly 12, nearly 13 when I first saw her. I believe my parents knew what was going on there since my mom was standing literally behind a curtain. I had regular appointments with her until I was 16 or so. It was a really traumatic experience for me, which somehow I managed to “forget” for some time.

I've been there actually. I already have posted here about my experience. But anyway, I had some issues as a young boy and in my teens. Very strong cremasteric reflex and later in my early teens a tight foreskin. The cremasteric reflex made me literally swallow up my testicles, which was really painful and uncomfortable. It all started around the age of 10. My parents used to take me to many doctors. The last one they took me to literally masturbated me. She used to say every time that boys are dirty and so is this stuff coming out of my penis. I was nearly 12, nearly 13 when I first saw her. I believe my parents knew what was going on there, since my mom was standing literally behind a curtain. I had regular appointments with her until I was 16 or so. It was a really traumatic experience for me, which somehow I managed to “forget” for some time.

Personally, I would've LOVED it! 😜😃

Children are prone to fantasies and exaggerations. Probably for this reason, in our country, earlier all such examinations of children under 14 years of age were carried out exclusively in the presence of parents or persons replacing them. In my case, it was the scary adult stepsister. Male pediatricians were generally rare. But still they were. I was always assigned to a female doctor. According to the mother and her friends, the doctor's child may be afraid of men, but not women. Childish shame and embarrassment were considered just a whim.

Childish shame and embarrassment were considered just a whim.

Thats what predators count on.

I wouldn't say a doctor ever assaulted me, but I had a neurologist as a kid who definitely had “hungry eyes” while seeing me. He also has no sense of personal space and would sit right next to me on the exam table while talking to me. If he'd come any closer he'd have been in my lap.

At least he didn't actually do anything other than be creepy, even if only due to lack of opportunity.

Children are prone to fantasies and exaggerations.

It isn't just the children that sometimes do that.

I never have been, but my husband has a different take on the doctor’s attitude during one visit while he was accompanying me.

The doctor was attentive and, because of his thorough if-this/then-this approaches during my care. For example, he noted my cyclical migraines and the increased risk for associated heart murmurs, and sent me for a heart ultrasound. There, I learned that I do have a benign mitral valve prolapse. When I was pregnant, he noted I was large for dates, did a thorough examination and ordered more bloodwork that confirmed my HcG levels were high. He referred me to a perinatologist who confirmed not only a twin pregnancy, but also that twin-to-twin transfusion was taking place, setting the cascade for many more tests, monitoring, etc.

The reason why DH believes this guy was inappropriate is because he perceives that every time I went to the office, I was disrobing for a breast or internal exam. Looking back on it, he may have been correct, but only insofar as that is what actually happens when one goes to the doctor annually… and again after passing a pregnancy test. It tracks. But DH also perceived a slightly different tone of voice when DH asked a question, which led him to ask questions about his character.

In my/my DH’s case, nothing untoward happened. DH is jealous, and did not appreciate I had chosen a male doctor. But also, he avoids doctors - both male and female alike - like the plague. And when I got referred to the perinatologist and he realized uh-oh, something is actually wrong here, his attitude toward my caregivers changed pretty quickly.

All that being said, it is so unfortunate - unconscionable, actually - that you went through what you went through - and others have/do, too - at the hands of medical personnel who are supposed to be providing a health and wellness service and to do no harm.

Hugs.

I’ve posted about my experience in a previous thread but I re-visit it briefly here. I was Going into 7th grade and was seeing a new doctor for my “sports physical”. without repeating myself, I ended Up nude sitting on the edge of the exam table as this dr spent considerable time feeling my erect penis. He told me that it was an important part of checking my development during puberty and making sure I did Not have any sports related injury. I never Said anything about it because I figured It was normal. Interestingly enough, I dont by any means feel like a victim as it ultimately led to my fetish today And at the time all I experienced Was a little embarrassment.

I never Said anything about it because I figured It was normal. Interestingly enough, I dont by any means feel like a victim as it ultimately led to my fetish today And at the time all I experienced Was a little embarrassment.

Thanks for posting. I call this covert abuse, in my case I think it effected me the way it did because I suspected the doctor had ulterior motives, and that is the eye opening awareness to sexuality at 12 that caught me off guard. It took me years to understand this. At the time it just felt weird

I don’t feel I was sexually assaulted but some people may not see it that way.

I was in a London hospital having burned my hand and needed skin grafts from my thigh. I was in my early 20s at the time and in good physical shape. I had been given pre-op medication and was lying on a gurney with a male orderly who was preparing me for the op. He removed my pyjamas and put on me a short smock top then held up the shorts that went with it and said “You don’t need these do you? In my drugged state I just said something like “whatever” and he covered me with a drape and I was wheeled into the operating theatre.

When I awoke after the operation there was a young nurse by my bed with a sparkle in her eyes. She explained that she had been one of the scrub nurses in the operating theatre and they had got quite a shock on removing the drape after I had been anaesthetized and finding I was naked from the waist down. The orderly later told them he had sent me in like that “as a present to the nurses”. They all had had a good laugh.

I understand that front line nursing, especially in a burns unit, is a very stressful profession and that such “pranks” serve as a much needed pressure escape valve and I’m happy I was able to help.