I never have been, but my husband has a different take on the doctor’s attitude during one visit while he was accompanying me.
The doctor was attentive and, because of his thorough if-this/then-this approaches during my care. For example, he noted my cyclical migraines and the increased risk for associated heart murmurs, and sent me for a heart ultrasound. There, I learned that I do have a benign mitral valve prolapse. When I was pregnant, he noted I was large for dates, did a thorough examination and ordered more bloodwork that confirmed my HcG levels were high. He referred me to a perinatologist who confirmed not only a twin pregnancy, but also that twin-to-twin transfusion was taking place, setting the cascade for many more tests, monitoring, etc.
The reason why DH believes this guy was inappropriate is because he perceives that every time I went to the office, I was disrobing for a breast or internal exam. Looking back on it, he may have been correct, but only insofar as that is what actually happens when one goes to the doctor annually… and again after passing a pregnancy test. It tracks. But DH also perceived a slightly different tone of voice when DH asked a question, which led him to ask questions about his character.
In my/my DH’s case, nothing untoward happened. DH is jealous, and did not appreciate I had chosen a male doctor. But also, he avoids doctors - both male and female alike - like the plague. And when I got referred to the perinatologist and he realized uh-oh, something is actually wrong here, his attitude toward my caregivers changed pretty quickly.
All that being said, it is so unfortunate - unconscionable, actually - that you went through what you went through - and others have/do, too - at the hands of medical personnel who are supposed to be providing a health and wellness service and to do no harm.