Or would you avoid because it is a hidden fetish in your life?
Only with my wife as she spanks me 😃. However accidently I left a screen shot on my computer of F/M spanking and my daughter & son in law turned on the computer, so they know. (My daughter blamed it on my wife!) Oh and 1 female cousin that I told!
I didn't spank our kids (except once) not because of any hidden fetish I have - just didn't feel it was an appropriate form of punishment. No different than not giving my kids enemas just because I have a kink for them - but never saw a medical reason to give them one.
@maria_fetish ‘s question raises a couple of thoughts: 1) Do you see spanking only as a fetish and not as a form of child discipline? 2) Are you afraid you might implant your spanking kink on your kids and are ashamed of it or simply want them to develop their own kinks? or 3) Are you afraid you might enjoy/feed your fetish by spanking your kids like you do with your fetish partner.
Need to think on this a bit more. As far as using spanking as punishment for my wife - nope. We roll-played it as discipline, but it was experimenting with a fetish - which we tried a few times but it never caught on.
We have not needed to resort to spanking, so the question was moot.
If the family member (female-only) enjoys the same fetish, I would politely asked and performed it in secret with me. It would be our secret.
I spanked my own children and nephew. It wasn‘t fun, fetishistic or anything at all like adult spanking. It was usually over in less than a minute and it’s something I hated doing. However, it was very effective and life was back to normal very quickly. None of the predictions of anti spanking “experts” came true, my kids were nearly always complimented in restaurants, able to hold conversations with adults, non-violent and continue to have good relationships with me in their young adult years. And the majority of the time there was a restorative effect afterwards where they would be very close for a while.
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In general, though, I will say that even though things may become fetishes or interests as an adult, it doesn’t invalidate their use. People have all kinds of weird fetishes, and for normal people it doesn’t translate when you’re dealing with children especially your own.
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