My ex-wife, married 2005-2010, and I are both sexual Switches, enjoying both D/s roles with each other at different times, especially regarding enemas. We had extensive, lengthy talks by IM for weeks, then months, before wedding and she knew ALL my fetishes and was happy to take them and me on and enjoy them together. Starting a few months before marriage on a long stay at my home we started having vanilla then later very kinky sex, especially because she discovered she loved putting me through all 6 of my kinks together on a given evening as my Domme, especially multiple large, long enemas. We loved it together. Memory, which for me has been frankly atrocious all my life and no better now at age 70, is vague, but I may have given her an enema or two, but not many at all. She loved filling me and making me as vocal, embarrassed and humiliated as she could, being her sub for the evening, which we both loved.
A few months after marriage and many enemas she pumped into and out of me, one day out of the blue, unsolicited, she revealed she deeply wanted
a) to frequently be sexually submissive to me, and
b) even more importantly to her, for me to give her sexual enemas as her Dom.
Of course I was delighted and started giving them to her right away with great success. The kicker or maybe cherry on top was that this was her most secret, carefully guarded sexual desire for most of her life. She'd never revealed this to anyone before, especially her late first husband, who had spent his life’s work a minister in one of the major Protestant religions. She felt, perhaps understandably, that she could never reveal this sexual secret to him, and never did, waiting hopefully for a new lover or husband (me, in this case) who would accept her with this crucial kinky sexual secret in the open.
We eventually divorced for unrelated reasons after 5 years, but both immensely enjoyed our ability to satisfy the other’s sexual needs, especially the kinky ones. I‘m truly sorry we had to divorce, but I’ll always remember and be very grateful for those many wonderful intense sexual evenings satisfying each other’s vanilla and kinky sexuality.
TLDR: Here’s to being brave and comfortable enough with your partner to reveal important secrets.
Eric