How Could a Person NOT Discover Anal Pleasure?

I remember a guy talking about how he didn't realize his anus could be a source of sexual pleasure until a girlfriend he was with swiped during a blowjob. While I've had a situation where a girl got my asshole in a similar situation…

How can a person NOT realize their anus could be a source of sexual pleasure: Hasn't everybody felt some kind of pleasure or tickle when they were washing themselves in the shower or in the tub?

Some people, both men and women, find no pleasure in anal stimulation. They may think it’s dirty or gross or not “manly” and block it out, or their nerves just don’t get pleasurably stimulated that way. I enjoy anal stimulation, but have never been aroused washing myself in the shower.

I agree with what @gwhap has already written. Much of that probably is the result of personal history, how people were brought up and how they learned and decided to deal with all the influences of life. For me a major (if not the biggest) part of sexual pleasure is mental.

While it felt weird, there's good weird and bad weird. I was washing it, and I was supposed to, so if I enjoyed what I was doing, what's wrong with it?

I'm not sure when I started anally masturbating, but it probably happened when I started bathing myself.

Edited: I wanted to make it easier to read

The anus is a very close neighbor to both gender’s sex organs. The rectum is just on the other side of the vagina’s thin apartment wall. The rectum touches a man’s prostate. The anus clenches and puckers when sexual orgasm happens.

One of the oldest tricks in the ‘book for whores’ is sticking a finger in the ass of a drunken john who’s taking too long to cum.

I’m not sure why the waste dump was put so close to the playground, but that’s where it is!

It’s just part of the playground- so have some fun with it.

Everybody discovers anal pleasure at one point whether the little or older.

I totally love it. The more the better

I discovered this really early in life. I was maybe 5 years old I think. I was given enemas and had a doctor put his finger up my butt because I had problems going poo. I noticed whenever I was being given an enema I got a strange tickle feeling. It was hard to understand at only 5 years old but I found this wierd tickle feeling I got was surely something I wanted to try to feel again. One day I was curious so I started to poke around my bottom and play like I was getting an enema. At first nothing happened then I used a pen and started to move it around while it was in my butt. I sure enough started to get that tickle feeling and in a few moments the tickling became really intense. Then it felt like I could reach the tickle inside of me. It was incredible. I remember I was breathing hard and panting like a dog. It felt so great. I had no idea what I just discovered but I knew I wanted to feel this again. I haven't stopped since 😅 Needless to say I became hooked on this at a very young age.

I've done and enjoyed fingering but am always concerned I might damage the lining so tend to stop.

There's a lot of emotional baggage around that area: A lot of people have unhealthy attitudes towards sex.

If it feels good and it doesn't hurt anybody, so what's wrong with playing with it?

…..some people simply don't like the idea of anal sex……and don't wanna have any activities that involves anal play or sex…..

We just need to respect their decisions and have other types of fun.

Be safe

Za

I concur with zaboots!, well said. Some have more have an open mind towards things than others, some do not. To each their own.

What's the old saying- “you can lead a horse to water, but you can't' make him drink.”

I agree with others here. There are some people who have a lot of emotional baggage centered around their anus and what it is used for. Negative thoughts of odor and cleanliness and even embarrassment about having BMs with others around. And for some guys there is a whole can of worms associated with gay sex. Anything to do with their anus is considered a “gay” activity, which is threatening to their heterosexuality. So for some, any kind of anal play is a minefield of negatives before anybody even tries to give them pleasure by touching or penetrating their anus.

So for the rest of us who have found pleasure by going through the backdoor, just enjoy it and enjoy it with others who are like us.

Anal arousal just isn't for everyone. Those that do not find it may have other things that turn them on that others would turn their nose up at.

It is a personal choice as others have said. Enjoy what you enjoy. Just so it isn't harming anyone else or illegal.

Maybe just maybe, it might have something to do with where the poop exits the body? That just might turn them off. Just my opinion.

I love a Prostate Massage, it can feel so good, and give you a nice erection.

It's not a question of an open mind. How could a person not like burgers or romantic movies? Well just like that.

@arttemp One of the oldest tricks in the ‘book for whores’ is sticking a finger in the ass of a drunken john who’s taking too long to cum.

Had to laugh reading that - one of my past girlfriend would do exactly that - guess she read the book…. anyway, it always worked, and I like to add it also worked when I did back it to her 😎

So, I don't think that one becomes aware of the possible pleasures of anal stimulation without some type of introduction. There is definitely a stigma associated with it and perhaps a bias that only certain folks “do anal.” I don't find it surprising that it is still regarded as taboo or perhaps something one doesn't admit to readily. This forum surely allows for greater knowledge and exchange of ideas and practices. As such, it helps to lessen the angst associated with anal sex. This is a good thing. “Bottoms up!”

Everyone is different in how they respond, or don’t. For some cultures, anal pleasure is taboo, and forbidden, while for others, it’s expected to be enjoyed, if not to prevent pregnancy as well. Even in America, many women believe that a man is gay, if he enjoys anal stimulation. I experienced that, when I asked a few women for a rectal temperature. I also used to attend a bible study, and among many things, they expressed disdain for anal sex, even if done between two heterosexual adults . According to them, basically everything was a sin, but hypocrisy is their way of life.The anus was meant to be an erogenous zone, for both sexes. It’s been described in some of the earliest literature.

@JJM . . . I also used to attend a bible study, and among many things, they expressed disdain for anal sex, even if done between two heterosexual adults . According to them, basically everything was taboo. That’s why I extricated myself from the church. . . .

It was the same narrow-minded attitude in the denomination I was raised in. I left that organization as soon as I developed the capability of independent, rational thought.

It sure gives me an EARTH SHATTERING orgasm everytime.

@BigFatGreek Said:

….. How could a person not like burgers or romantic movies? Well just like that.

C'mon - Romantic Movies??? The Hallmark Channel is “blocked” in our house!!! OK - so Die Hard was a romantic movie - they kissed at the end!

@Enema_lovin,

I'm in that EARTH SHATTERING orgasm everytime bunch. My husband loves to love me like this. Been doing this for a long time!

If you've read any of my posts 🐱 I mention how sensitive my nipples are, that I can almost orgasm. I can be edged for hours with just nipple play.

My girlfriend told me she gets nothing. Zippo. She could read a book while someone caresses her nipples/breasts.

She says it feels okay when they are touched, but so does my shoulder feel okay.

I guess anal is like that, or if it never got stimulated early on, your body never made the pleasure connection.

Hopefully they have other things that melt their butter.

Turkey very well said. We all have that special spot that turns us on so very much. I too am a huge fan of sensual nipple play and I am a bigger fan of anal play!

Two friends of mine, each born with spinal bifida. Enemas were a way of regular life for them. People had to be patient with both of them. Because of their unique handicap, both were used to being the center of attention. Getting and taking help, was normal for them both. No entertainment, it was a necessary chore and not an easy one to help with.

Some of the men I've had in my early encounters were real roughhousers….couldn't take their time. But the greatest love of my life--I had him three years, by far the longest--I was totally free to take my time (and his) and do all sorts of stimulation. The two of us experimented with all sorts of anal and oral techniques. Go slow, go fast. By the time of our breakup, neither of us could proffer to be “as a lover, second to none”; but it made each of our menus that much more sophisticated.

Ah ah!! It's like a man who don't believe that women can't have orgasm!!

I never feel pleasure with my anus, I tried sometimes, and fantasize about anal sex, I have feeling about my sphincter contraction during orgasm, but feeling that at my anus.

I suppose it's about psychology problem and stuff..

@Gentle_Giant & @BigFatGreek, that's my view on the matter. It's so sensitive and merely tickling it and tracing the folds can bring an orgasm on without even inserting a finger or two and, while I thought I was a freak, it just felt too good to stop.

Plus, I soon found out that I wasn't the only one who enjoyed that kind of thing: I stayed with my aunt and niece during some of the summers. Unfortunately, my uncle died in a car-crash a few years earlier, so she wound up dating all sorts of guys. Many of them were younger than her (she was in her mid/late 30's, and they were in their late teens to early 20's) and, with some being careless in closing the door right: I once caught this one guy with her face all up in her ass.

It was a shocking sight, and I'm amazed I wasn't caught (I walk quietly, I had just barely opened the door when I saw that) though I was watching for a few seconds before quietly slinking away. At least I didn't feel like a freak anymore.