Where does it stem from? - Anal Play

When i was in kindergarten my neighbor, a boy, wanted to show me how good it felt to play with your butt. I declined but years later I found out for myself. I guess that seed sprouted.

I was born anally erotic. I just was! That's the best answer I can come up with. The fact that my mother, a babysitter and a nurse gave me enemas only brought my intrinsic fascination to my consciousness. My anal eroticism is very broad and has both adult and child like aspects. I probably spend more time enjoying my sexual idiosyncrasies than trying to discover their reasons.

Without a doubt it was getting my temperature taken rectally. I was sick a lot as a kid. Got my temp taken rectally at home and at the doctor. I was young when I started to get hard from the thermometer being inserted. When I hit puberty I started to explore more.

First, pediatric exams. Later, sleepovers with my bff.

I can absolutely trace mine to a certain glass mercury rectal thermometer 😃

But also like GraceT, pediatric exams furthered it along

I think my fascination began with, as many other I'm sure, gently exploring my body and then thinking, ooh, that felt nice when I got to my butt!

Not sure what caused it... But there was a fair focus on potty training on a scarey outdoor toilet... So I held on a lot...

And then going potty felt SO GOOD...

Fingers followed the pleasure, I guess.

Without a doubt it was getting my temperature taken rectally. I was sick a lot as a kid. Got my temp taken rectally at home and at the doctor. I was young when I started to get hard from the thermometer being inserted. When I hit puberty I started to explore more.

I was fascinated as a child from looking in a baby book with RT photos. And puberty made me into an expert of giving and receiving.

Sleepover in 1st grade. My classmate wanted to show me something, which was a small tube the size of neosporin that she placed in my anus. I told her about a boy that would pee in my mouth. No idea why I said that because the boy didn't but I had fantasized about it. I am not positive if that's where it began but it's my first memory and I remember many other things going in as the years went by.

Great to read everyone's contributions

My fascination stems from remembering being on the potty (approx 3yo) and not going to toilet and remembering my Mom saying if you don't go people at the hospital will stick a tube up your bum and put soapy water up there to make you go.

This threat never happened and that's the only recollection I have about my Mom as far as my memory goes, she never gave me an enema or suppositories. But my Aunty is a different story.... my 1st memory of her using a laxative on me was when we were on holiday (prob about 4 or 5 yo) and she laid me on the table on my back and drew up my legs to my chest, then I felt something at my bum hole and pushed in. It stung and made me feel like I needed to go to the toilet urgently.

Thereafter I have many, many recollections of me and my female cousin receiving countless soap sticks, glycerine suppositories and enemas. Happy to share these encounters with you privately, just PM me

I have an early childhood memory from when I was probably not yet even four years old. My family was living in a small home at the time with one bathroom. I was in the bathtub, and my father was also in the bathroom, shaving at the time. I remember trying to insert my finger in my anus. My father saw me do it and stopped me, perhaps shaming me in the process. I think I've an interest in anal things ever since then.

The anal stage is the second stage in Sigmund Freud's theory of psychosexual development, taking place approximately between the ages 18 months and three years.

@Rigel - Never read much on Freud but find the this tidbit interesting

Side note: (The anus is the first thing to develop on a human embryo). Maybe that has something to do with it too?

@arttemp - Really? That is fascinating. Going to look stuff like that now.

For me it was because the anus reacts when one gets spanked. Even more so when the bottom is bared - I often wondered if anyone could see my butthole during a bare-bottomed spanking. Now I know they do! Now the two go together beautifully and painfully!

Isn’t the buttocks in general, but especially the anus a primary erogenous zone - along with the genitals and the breasts (especially the nipples). The anus certainly must have a huge number of specialized nerve endings. If poked unexpectedly it gives you a real start.

Remember the feeling of being goosed for the first time as a kid. Like the other erogenous places an unwanted slight touch is highly offensive, while a wanted touch can be heavenly. There must be something really special about the innervation of those areas. Of course, the lips, neck, inner thigh, and ears also can give you a nice tingle but, at least for me, nothing as intense as the big three.

I think, what is different about all these areas is that under the right circumstances their stimulation leads to sexual arousal, a sexual response, and even orgasm. The anus just gets a bad rap for what comes out of it from time to time. For those who can get past that fact, great pleasure can be had from it’s stimulation. I would guess, that the reason many find it wonderful to play with the anus stems ultimately from the fact that it is wired to the brain for that purpose (among others).

@HerBottomsUp

Can't argue with that logic ... I think we are predisposed to anal play without fully understanding / recognising what it is from both personal experiences by any number of means & external influences gained early in life

I think there's some great discussion here, thanks everyone for sharing.

i do not think there is one simple, standard answer to this question. i subscribe to the theory that human sexuality is a spectrum. i've come to see that spectrum as multidimensional vs just linear. We all land somewhere on that spectrum and find others who live in the same neighborhood, but there are no two alike, we're all individuals. i do not believe there is 'a reason' for who and how we are sexually, but many reasons/causes working in concert to play our particular tune. i think one of the reasons humans need and seek relationship is it aids self exploration and self discovery. We can self reflect, but then we only have one (biased) perspective. We also can see ourselves reflected in and by others. Also, we are not static beings. Life is fluid. i think self discovery, as well as learning others in relationship, is a never ending, life long process and the only 'real' stasis is death.

Sorry for the long prelude lol. Here's some physiology/science information. i think it's telling that the same nerve that conveys pleasure and is connected to the penis and vagina, is also connected to the anus and rectum. We perceive/experience pain and pleasure in the brain, and i think that's where things get more complex and individual.

"The pudendal nerve is a major nerve in your pelvic region. This nerve sends movement (motor) and sensation information from your genital area. The pudendal nerve runs through .your pelvic floor muscles that support organs and ends at your external genitalia.

The pudendal nerve is crucial for sensation and function in your pelvic region, including the genitals and anus. This nerve is part of your peripheral nervous system. Peripheral nerves send signals from your central nervous system (brain and spine) to your limbs and certain organs.

The pudendal nerve’s motor function controls the movement of your:

Anal sphincter muscles, which help you hold in or release feces (poop).

Urethral sphincter muscles, which help you hold in or release urine (pee).

The pudendal nerve also provides sensory information about touch, pleasure, pain and temperature to your:

Penis (part of the male reproductive system).

Vagina (part of the female reproductive system).

Perineum (the skin between your anus and your vagina or penis).

Anal canal and anus (part of your digestive system)."

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22000-pudendal-nerve

I think, what is different about all these areas is that under the right circumstances their stimulation leads to sexual arousal, a sexual response, and even orgasm. The anus just gets a bad rap for what comes out of it from time to time. For those who can get past that fact, great pleasure can be had from its stimulation. I would guess, that the reason many find it wonderful to play with the anus stems ultimately from the fact that it is wired to the brain for that purpose (among others).

i think the same way. Cultural conditioning plays a big part in who and how we are sexually, but it's not the only factor, eh? It's a physiological fact that our anus is wired to the pleasure center of our brains, but for infinite number of reasons, how our individual brains deal with that info is, well, individual.

Reality is, every sexual organ below the belt is also used for waste removal from the body. One might compare a woman's monthly menses to a week long bowel movement. Both menses and bowel movements remove 'waste' from the body, and most cultures have attitudes of repulsion attached to both. The penis/urethra expel urine, the anus feces, the vagina the shed wall of the uterus. A difference is most peoples bowels move more frequently than the uterus does. i wonder how it might alter views if our bowels only moved for a week once a month, but the rest of the time were 'clean?'

I had to make my response to this thread three separate posts so as not to write a book. This is my more personal/individual response.

i'm a gay guy and have been 'wired' bottom with sub as far back as i can trace. Where did that "stem" from? idk, but i do know that it is. i spent the first half of my life fighting those parts of me because of religious cultural conditioning that had me convinced that how i am is "sinful, sick, broken, ad nauseam." Through my process of living and self discovery, i can see i was this way from a very early age and can find no individual cause. To me, it's become more important to know and learn how to learn with who and how i am than it is to try and figure out the 'why's' behind it. i doubt that's possible.

i was attracted to the same gender from as far back as i can remember. i had a crush on a neighbor Boy, Danny Newberry. In retrospect, i have been able to identify both 'dom' attributes in him and 'sub' in me, even at that age, and i think that is what drew each of us into the others orbit. One day while playing at Danny's house, He took me into His bathroom and showed me an enema nozzle. He got very excited as He described to me what it was, where it went and what it did. i already was attracted to Him, and i connected to Him and His excitement. Nothing beyond that happened between us, but as soon as i got home, i ran into our bathroom, locked the door and found our enema kit. Thinking of Danny and His excited description, i found the Vaseline in our medicine cabinet, and just as He described, i lubed and slid it into my anus. I was 7 years old.

For me, my anus has always been my primary sexual organ where i connect both physically and psychologically to another person. i do not know where it "stems from," but life long experience has demonstrated that it's an immutable and essential part of who and how i am.

"The pudendal nerve is a major nerve in your pelvic region. This nerve sends movement (motor) and sensation information from your genital area. The pudendal nerve runs through .your pelvic floor muscles that support organs and ends at your external genitalia.

The pudendal nerve is crucial for sensation and function in your pelvic region, including the genitals and anus. This nerve is part of your peripheral nervous system. Peripheral nerves send signals from your central nervous system (brain and spine) to your limbs and certain organs.

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https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22000-pudendal-nerve

@tallslenderguy Along with the pudendal nerve, the vagus nerve also comes into play for anal eroticism. Several articles address vagus nerve stimulation during both anal and vaginal sex. There are also tons of nerves arond the anus that make anal stimulation/sex etc. pleasurable to both men and wopmen - gay or straight. Both my wife and I love it! I've always asserted we were just wired that way - it was only a matter of time before we discovered those pleasures.

https://btfonline.store/blogs/blog/bringing-up-the-rear

"Anal stimulation is linked to the parasympathetic nervous system (PSNS). This system provides us with many of the sensations we experience every day, including cranial, spinal, and vagus nerve stimulation."

that urge to play with your butt where do you think it stems from?

Watching shows about gorillas; some of the big males were chasing the females around and going after their butts -- so I think anal play is something ingrain to our primal origins; and the way the females wanted no part of it seems ingrain to my first wife 😞

@tallslenderguy Along with the pudendal nerve, the vagus nerve also comes into play for anal eroticism. Several articles address vagus nerve stimulation during both anal and vaginal sex. There are also tons of nerves arond the anus that make anal stimulation/sex etc. pleasurable to both men and wopmen - gay or straight. Both my wife and I love it! I've always asserted we were just wired that way - it was only a matter of time before we discovered those pleasures.

https://btfonline.store/blogs/blog/bringing-up-the-rear

"Anal stimulation is linked to the parasympathetic nervous system (PSNS). This system provides us with many of the sensations we experience every day, including cranial, spinal, and vagus nerve stimulation."

Yes! It's speculation on my part, but i have wondered if my desire and response to anal penetration (and being fucked), is linked and fed by a vagal response? Psychologically, i love the experience of being taken, subdued, conquered, and can associate all of those with a vagal response.

"The vasovagal syncope trigger causes your heart rate and blood pressure to drop suddenly. That leads to reduced blood flow to your brain, causing you to briefly lose consciousness."

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/vasovagal-syncope/symptoms-causes/syc-20350527

Honest reply to this answer would be that I am a transgender woman. I have been with my wife for 15 years and have been living authentically as myself and preferences of she her pronouns for about 8 years. When I am penetrated analy ( as this is the only way I can be penetrated for obvious reasons) I feel like I can completely let go and enjoy, like the way I feel while laying there being taken. I come deeper and most of the time squirt and get chills throughout my body from being pleased so thoroughly. My hormones have changed a lot with my body. Besides the typical things like growing boobs it has also changed how I get excited. It is not like it was before and I cannot last as long as I could before. I prefer to be sexed analy and will allow my partner to continue until she is pleased. I can always take more and go longer, these are my reasons.

I think my anal curiosity started after mom forcing suppositories in me ever time I get sick when I was younger... so when I got older I thought "why not try that feeling again" and it felt really nice.

I really loved all the discussions about Where Anal Play Stems From. The posts by @tallslenderguy and @Rigel made me think a lot and even do some reading (imagine that) about the Pudendal Nerve and the Vagus Nerve and how these nerves carry sensory information from the genital and the anal areas to the brain and also result in motor commands from the brain back to the same and different areas.

But like so many people have posted, there also must be some way that things like - your inherited self, your culture, past experiences and things learned, your general thoughts and ideas about sex, as well as your current mood and degree of horniness - influence those nerve circuits. It seems clear that the same stimulation of the genitals and anal area (touching, rubbing, kissing, licking) can be felt and interpreted by the brain in either a very positive way or a very negative way in the same person but at a different time or situation. And then the same (or very similar) nerve signals to the brain can result in a very different response not only at the site of stimulation but in the actions of the entire body. When I think about it, a lot of things seem to work that way so it should not be too surprising.

It just seems that in matters of love and sex the differences in responses to the same stimuli can be greatly exaggerated. Maybe a tiny bit more in woman than in men but not nearly as much as you guys imagine. I wonder what others think.

It seems clear that the same stimulation of the genitals and anal area (touching, rubbing, kissing, licking) can be felt and interpreted by the brain in either a very positive way or a very negative way in the same person but at a different time or situation.

It is not so much the brain, as an organ connected to the nervous system, that interprets such stimulation as either positive or negative. It is a person's belief system or socialization that determines how such stimulation is interpreted and experienced.

If a person has been told again and again that anal play is dirty, foul, undignified, sinful etc, then that will most likely result in those attitudes being absorbed into a person's general set of beliefs how they should comport themselves and act, how they should feel. The brain as a recipient of nerve stimulation has nothing to do with this strictly speaking, since liking such stimulation or not is a learned (imposed by others actually) process that affects a person's beliefs and attitudes.

A person's parents, friends, schooling, religion and such is more determining how anal stimulation is interpreted and experienced. Because they are the ones imposing their beliefs about anal stimulation on to your character/personality when you are young and impressionable.

I agree interesting discussion. 👍 Re: comments from agraciar and HerBottomsUp below ….. - It is also interesting how the body can sometimes overrule the brain, re-contextualizing the initial experience! It appears many here grew up in situations where certain practices later experienced as erotic, began either as some sort of discipline, punishment, or were purely medical procedures. And even when it was a procedure, not initially not necessarily having any erotic connotation. Later, these experiences are almost reversed and reinterpreted as pleasantly stimulating, and erotic. So rather a reversal of the foundational experience. And then off course “the forbidden” has also also ever had a hold the erotic imagination. As does the surrender of control, or the experience of control. This is so evident, for example, in “pegging” as females get to experience some sense of the dominance role, usually associated with being “male” and the male gets to experience the release of control and being dominated, often associated with he female role, cultural cliche that that is. (For so many kinks there is the pleasure of he/she “made me do it” - the desired taboo… (apologies for so much of this being expressed in sexually binary terms…. I know gender is a continuum, and sexuality is even mor complex than that!….. it’s just easier to simply portray the point this way… 😉 And there’s the category of the inadvertent outcome. For example, in my case, I can trace my anal eroticism to early pleasant rectal temperature is administrated by my mother, and apparently I’m not alone in this. And from there its a short road to “playing doctor” and enemas …. 😉

My post further detailing my “origen experience”: > https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1289056

The muscles and ligaments that anchor the anal sphincter cross with those of the vagina in the area of the perineum. The anal sphincters are quite well innervated and the walls of the rectum easily detect and tell you when they are full. Another nexus of nerves is located for the prostate gland and those also exist anterior to the vagina between it and the rectum. If you measure the internal pressure of the rectum when an orgasm occurs it will approach the 50mmHg level. It is possible that can be channeled into a more pleasurable orgasm because of the large number of nerves that are sensing something. You will also notice that both men and women will clench their anal sphincters tightly during an orgasm. There is no question of the stimulation in kissing as the lips are also well innervated and sensitive. Same with the nipples, so any and all of these areas can be and are capable of stimulation and it can be of an erotic nature more easily than most realize. Being touched by an intimate partner anywhere will provide a warm thought or two the progression of which is natural.

I believe for me it had to be influences from growing up which emphasized modesty and only allowing the doctor to have access to my bottom. Then it was purely being subject to rectal temperatures and eventually a DRE just prior to attending college and thereafter as part of routine care. Along the way I began to fantasize and masturbate to imagined medical scenes. While in grad school, I dated a nurse who was very much into penetrating my anus as foreplay. She was sensitive, gentle, and very proficient at hitting my prostate and bringing me to intense orgasms. It didn't hurt that she liked to wear a nurse's uniform over her naked body! The idea of having my anus on view has remained an intense interest. So I imagine the origins for many related back to childhood. I had some experience with an enema but not often. That remained an association with pure submission and discomfort but has over time become more erotic. Still the number one source of arousal and reaction remains, "Let's have you undress, everything off for the doctor, and the I will need to take your temperature....You have to get up on the table and turn over."