Did you prefer one gender first?

I was thinking earlier about how I knew very young, like 12 years old, that I wanted to see other girls undressed. I got a book from the library about sexuality and learned about sexual identity and being bisexual.

I was wondering if other bi or pan people had an overwhelming preference for one gender or another when they were first exploring their sexuality. I just thought it was interesting that I had sexual feelings towards other women at 12, had my first sexual experience with another girl at that age, and didn't have my first sexual experience with a boy til I was 15.

Interested to see if there is any conversation about this.

I think it is probably a lot more common to explore sexually, and sometimes have feeling for your own gender before advancing to exploring with the opposite sex when we are young, than a lot of people realise. I have had several females over the years offer the same information.

I think some of it may be due to the fact that we are more confident with our own gender at that pubescent age, and exploration with the opposite sex can be quite intimidating at a young age.

Just my take on it anyway.

I knew when 11 years old and I just knew. It was obvious. Not anything against any one person I have female friends, but I do not like the smell of women.

I was a very sexual little boy even before puberty. I really liked to see women in Playboy. At the age of about 10 or 11, one of my friends who had an older brother had a big stack of Playboys in his bedroom and we would sneak into his room and checkout the nude women pictures. But as puberty hit and now being fueled by a surge of testosterone, I was thinking about sex all the time. I was at that awkward age of being too young to have any type of sex with a girl, but had guy friends at my age who were also were in the same situation. On occasion we would masturbate together and I really like seeing their cocks and comparing them to mine. So, there was an attraction to seeing another male with a hardon masturbating to the point of ejaculation at age13.

To answer the OP question- did I prefer one gender first? The answer was definitely yes- I preferred females. But as I entered my 40's, I started to be curious about what it would feel like to have a guy penetrate me anally. I suppressed those thoughts for many years until my late 50's when I got up the courage to play with another guy. As it turned out, I enjoyed it and it seemed to take a big weight of my shoulders by allowing myself to admit that I was bisexual. I still get very turned on by the sight of a woman's body and have regular sex with my wife. But I can also have sex with guys and enjoy that as well. The suppressed thoughts regarding same sex attraction came at a time in the early 70's when anything having to do with gay behavior was seen as horrible and disgusting. Once I got past that societal perception, which took decades, I essentially arrived in a place of self-acceptance and peace of mind.

I was always attracted to girls at school and did wonder what they looked like naked but I had seen other boys undressed so maybe it's more the hidden novelty aspect there too.

I assumed that was all there was to me until my first full sexual encounter with a male (totally unexpected) opened my eyes to the physical experience being independent of the visual.

Interesting question. My first sexual experiences were with a girl. I’ve always found boys attractive and had a ‘boyfriend’ very early on. Once I started dating boys/men I stopped having same sex experiences. Looking back it was social pressure more than anything else as I continued to find women attractive sexually and as an adult I resumed. I could never marry one though, bitches be crazy. 🤣🤣

The thought of being with another boy/man never crossed my mind. Even after some youth experimentation with other boys. I was to have girlfriends and I had my share. It wasn't until I continued into crossdressing and visiting glory holes/ nude beaches, did I slowly switch (the notion of a straight crossdresser is absurd, ok not as many as you would think). The only places that I could indulge in my fetish was ABS and nude beaches which were predominantly men. At that point, I'm dressed (or in lingerie) and horny as hell, what's a guy going to do…..

I remember at a very young age, being more attracted to male bodies than female. I my first crush was Tarzan. I fantasized about being naked in the woods and Tarzan torturing me. Gladiator movies, with nothing on,having sex with each other. Unfortunately, I grew up in a very conservative family,and town. I know I'm gay, but ended up marrying a woman, and we are still together. I had about 10yrs that I got to have relationships with men. It was wonderful. I love my wife and am just trying to be a good husband. I still looking to find a male friend to play with locally in our town. Final answer to question Is, I preferred males from the start. I know I'm not the only one who made the wrong choice.

By the time I was 13, I really wanted to suck another Cock and have it fuck my ass - I was comfortable with those things, where as I had never seen a Cunt. (I use the words Cunt and Cock because they are beautiful and full of life)

But the next year I met my first Cunt in the flesh, while I was still looking for a Cock that wasn't mine. Most of the boys detested me since I didn't know how to play sports or fight, but if they had been tied up and blindfolded, I would have made friends with their cock. 😉

They are both so wonderful! I think I would have loved anyone that shared intimacy with me.

At 69 years old i have never dated guys or kissed a guy but about 2 years ago i did let a guy screw my ass and gave him a bj , but the thought of dating a guy and making actual love to a guy grosses me out

At 69 years old i have never dated guys or kissed a guy but about 2 years ago i did let a guy screw my ass and gave him a bj , but the thought of dating a guy and making actual love to a guy grosses me out

@Annie2 20 years ago I felt about the same way. I knew I liked Cocks, but making love to a guy was unimaginable. Then as a young man and I sat silently staring into each others eyes, a nearby woman asked us how long we had been in love. We both quickly denied it but later realized it was true.

It can sneak up on you. I still don't like most men, and can't imagine it happening again, but it happened that time. That one time while I was still living on the street I was deeply in love with a man, and he with me. Then we got separated. Just a few hours ago I was wishing I could find him.

More and more I believe the only difference between men and women is which set of pleasure buttons they were issued. But we love what's inside them, not outside. Of course they have been taught to be different in accordance with society's long held beliefs and requirements pressed upon them by body size and sexual responsibilities.

But recently they proved the old Mars and Venus idea is bunk. Our brains are not different. Like everything else, they are a continuum with no sex bias.

Too bad we can't get rid of “he” and “she” and just have everyone wear crotchless pants or go naked.

Preference has always been for a female. However, I would experience a shift when I would dress as I mention in the thread I started “Bi When Dressed” https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1112598

I knew from my earliest moments that i was attracted to men. i have always been gay. it wasnt until my 30s that i decided i wanted to try pussy for real. and i knew i wanted to explore it with a bi couple. now i say, i am gay but also just a highly sexual open person. i can fuck pussy if the husband is hot and want to get them both off.

Other boys, undoubtedly. Only much later did I become bi, i.e., attracted to women, and that largely when I think of them in a medfet way, not simply as sex objects.

- Ken

As far back as I can remember I was always turned on by the feet and bottoms of other girls. I would try hard to hold hands touch feet or sit way too close to them. Get off FREAK! Guys not so much like sexually not really all that great for me. I did then and now like being held tight and dominantly fucked like a masturbation sleeve. Do I use guys to punish myself for being a Freak?

I think I might have been attracted to guys only before girls and guys, but I remember having a girl crush in grade-school. This was before puberty even kicked in.

Was always attracted to girls since I was a young boy, but my first sexual experiences were with another guy! I had a very long sexual learning period with my male cousin from about 10 till about 17 years-old, and orgasmed for the first time with a male friend when I was about 12 years-old! Now, I'm definitely bi, and have been so for the past 50+ years!

Looking back on it now, I think I've been bi since well before I knew what sex was, and definitely before I knew that ‘bi’ was a thing. I preferred, and still prefer females, but I'm perfectly capable of being attracted to guys as well.

I / We played “ potty doctor ” in a tent in my parent's back yard with both girl's and boys in the neighborhood over several Summers. It was a time of exploration / seeing each other's genitals, along with some squeeze bulb enemas with a bucket on each other. Girl's and Boy's both as we all got them.

A neighbor boy / friend was always around, and I got infatuated at seeing his small bent upwards, penis and small tight ball sack while in the tent, and got dared into sucking it. I found out that I liked it.

One day in the forest preserve, as we explored, he told me that he had “ something ” to show me, and he had / helped me pull my jeans down to my knees. He began playing with my cock and until it got hard. Then he worked it up / down until I said that “ I needed to pee”. He kept playing until coming on belly / 1st orgasm.

I like women, but enjoy seeing / meeting another guy and his cock, smaller and shaved like me, for the same growing up.

I guess I've always been attracted to females before males. When I was probably 6 or 7 I would always sneak at my uncle's Playboy magazines & it wasn't for the articles. I was raised in a house where the man & woman would be together so I just followed from there. Got married had 2 kids. Only now I want to experience being with a female

Most of my life I preferred women.Never thought of being with another man.I still only Love women but I do love having sex with another man, but I Love being a bottom with men

Elaborating on post #12 - hard to say when the shift I mentioned began to take place, it was gradual and it was when I was in mid-40's when I began shaving my body and wearing women's girdle's etc. and discovered “Bi When Dressed” https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=1112598

Is butt a gender? Because as a kid I really liked looking at butts.

I had my first orgasms in school as i sat in my classroom seat squeezing my thighs together while watching the butts of my teachers. It made no difference if the butt belonged to a male or a female because they all could get me excited, although I remember getting off more to females because their posteriors were bigger and more noticeable. I had a few favorites in middle school, like the math teacher who I remember wore tight trousers that showed his rippling buns as he walked in front of the classroom, or the pretty art teacher whose rump looked so soft and inviting under her thin dresses. The flabby skirt-stretching buttocks of the grumpy old cow who was the science teacher did not excite me as much. The teachers with the lovely butts were my first crushes because my heart would flutter when I passed them in the hallway and classes taught by them were both educational and orgasmic. I liked to imagine them in the bathroom naked and bending over to reveal the hidden opening which we all have between our lower cheeks. Yes I was already anal kinky as a schoolkid.

I had a classmate who liked to do a dance where she mimed pulling down her pants and doing a wiggle of her butt while looking at me coyly. Looking back, I wonder where she learned the stripper moves because we were probably only in fifth grade. She also had a habit of sliding next to me and grabbing my crotch when no one was looking, and I did nothing to discourage her because I enjoyed the excitement and got off to her too. Young Samantha was another of my crushes in those early days of youth when innocence made life simple and sexual taboos and shame had not been defined yet. I did not yet know about the concepts of sexual attraction, masturbation, orgasm or the sexual labels that are used to classify and discriminate against people and create stigmas and insecurities. I embraced the feelings because they felt good. I only knew it was sexual in retrospect because at puberty the same exciting feelings produced a lot of wetness between my legs, and the orgasms evolved into adult ones when I learned how to use my fingers to rub my genitals. My crushes shifted primarily to boys, although girls and butts still got me excited.

As a kid I had no interest in sex or nudity despite reading 10th grade or so biology book at age of 9. That was just to collect information. I was always a geek.

Then, quite suddenly, at age of 14, I became obsessed with sex, spent hours watching porn and wanking, tried to snog girls. I had no interest in males at all, even a thought of gay sex was repulsive.

And then, at the age of 25 I got into BDSM as submissive that from the very beginning involved anal play that progressed from butt plugs to strap-ons and finally, within 10 months, sex with guys.

Now, for romantic relationships and vanilla sex I strongly prefer females, but for BDSM, I think, I am actually more into males.

First experience was with a male friend in fifth grade. He taught me about masturbation and we did anal sex together while looking at Adam and Playboy magazines. Then girls came along and my focus shifted!

Even at a young age, I was attracted to boys. My first sexual encounters were with other boys, masturbating and kissing. It wasn't till my late teens I realized I liked girls too.

I never thought about being with any of my guy friends when I was young, but may have missed some good times

As a bi. male guess it began at preteen age because I had wrestling and bodybuilding mags showing guys in skimpy brief tights and many hunky beefcake fellas that got me aroused to erections . But I also would when possible sneak and look at my dad's hidden girly mags to the same reaction. Interest in both genders at young age. Led to several threesomes later in life with a female and male partner with me pleasuring both. Fretter

Till about 2 years ago I never knew I had an attraction towards women.

But when I met this girl after losing my boyfriend...she was so supportive.

She was elder to me by 3 years

She was the one who introduced me to medfet. She has examined me countless number of times

As we started meeting more. Slowly I got attracted to her and we started seeing each other

I've always preferred women, but sometimes a man would trigger something. I grew up in a tiny town in Kentucky so this was “bad” in that town so I repressed it. I had kept it repressed for years and then I got internet access and my curiosity bubbled up, combine that with a great girlfriend that encouraged me and I was able to accept that part of me. Still mostly prefer women but the right guy gets me going just as well.