Did you prefer one gender first?

I have always been sexually attracted to women (first girls, of course!), and strongly so. Nevertheless, my first sexual experiences with a partner were with my scoutmaster who “taught” me many things, most especially male-male sexual interactions. For years afterward I had no contact at all with other men, but as my wife has shown even less interest in sexual interactions I would not refuse contact with other men under specific circumstances. I still like woman first and foremost, just not tied down to them exclusively for the purposes of sexual activity. I believe sexual activity is an important part of life and sex with a partner is best.

I always thought primary sex junk was disgusting and ugly and still do.. and was always more attracted to secondary characteristics and human aesthetics in general.

Not even sure if I should consider myself bisexual. I'm more attracted to men but I think it's mostly because of the idea of what see men as not what most actually are. So a 6ft plus dominant strong powerful woman would absolutely do it for me. I think its more like .. is this person attracted to me? If yes, are they of the right personality type, loyal, strong, reliable, big and can protect me and finally, are they ok with all my weird stuff and traits? If this fits, Im willing to compromise.

I have no memory of liking any one over another. I was aware that certain personalities attracted or repulsed me or left me indifferent. But that has little to do with sexual orientation.

My sister and I grew up sharing a room. So I was used to seeing her naked. If we got caught touching between our legs we would get yelled at. Only touch there to go to the bathroom and bathe. When I was 12 I caught my sister masturbating and she showed me that it felt good and nothing to be ashamed of. Of course, I had to go and show my best friend. I sort of experimented on my own by smelling my best friend on my fingers and eventually tasting my fingers. So I liked girls first. I would not say I ever liked guys as far as being with them. I just did it because all other other girls did it.

When I was in middle school and a bit before then, I preferred the company of girls (platonically) to boys and had feelings for more of them than I did the boys and only recently have realized that I was more or less aroused by girls more than boys as well. I didn't date any girls, however, until after I high school. that has a lot to do with where I live in the US vs other states here as well as LGBT is not really supported quite as widely as it is in other places so gay and bisexual people are as a result harder to find and socialize with. things just never worked out with guys. I think they're physically attractive but I think women are usually more attractive physically and emotionally which is what I personally need out of a relationship myself. my current gf and I have been together for over 2 yrs.

Long before I knew what sex was, or what being gay or straight meant, I knew that I found men interesting and exciting in a way that women just were not. This was definitely by the time I was 3 years old.

A lot of time has passed since then, but I have never changed in that assessment.

To be very honest I had never had any interest into another woman until I was was seduced one night by a woman who was 30 years older than I. And did she rock my world and open my eyes. I was 24 at the time, about to be divorced and returning to college, funny how it came to be, short lived but memories I will never forget.

Returning to school, I soon found myself enjoying the company of women more than I did men. Then one day this man walked into my life, dazzled me, and I married him. Been 22 years now and the charm has never worn off as he treats me like a little queen.

Now I am left to ask what would happen if I lose him to which we must all think? I really think I would never find someone who be as good to me as he has been, so I would either live alone and if not, find myself living with another woman.

@Tillie I for one would like to hear how a middle aged woman seduced you! Any chance you would let inquiring minds know?

Apart from previous posts here, before I knew anything about sex, I found and liked staring at the crotch of women wearing swimsuits - something exciting about the V shape, and flatness as well as it seemed naught to do....

Per @Nurse_Phillips :

" bitches be crazy "

Yup .....

I preferred boys growing up. My first week in college, a girl I befriended the first day of orientation kissed me in the bathroom. That was the beginning.

I am happily married to a man but remain very attracted to women. When we met I was very open about my sexuality. We are monogamous but I am free to engage with women as I like.

Yes I have always liked women first. They have very curvaceous bodies. Beautiful eyes and firm ass were my attractions to them.

In 1953 when I was 17, an older (40+) man tried to pick me up. That experience. so terrified me(did he think that I was gay?), that took me17 years to recover from. In 1975, In had a male friend with a great cock. I wanted to frot with him, badly! My history, made me suppress my urge, but I never forgot that desire! Finally, 2 weeks ago, I sucked my first cock, and swallowed his sperm! As soon as his glans was in my mouth, I knew that my desire for male sex was real, and had been in me, for my whole adult life. It's late in my life, but I finally know who I am, and am at peace with my desires, whether I have more male sex, or not.

I think i was about 9 when my cousin and her friends dressed myself and one of the girls younger brothers up with makeup on and made us kiss and grope each other . I remember getting hard as he fondled me through my panties and then him sucking me . Since then i have always had a secret love of lady boys especially Natalie Mars .

Female first. As a young boy and man the thought of another male never entered my thinking. It was around 45 year old I first thought of another man. This was in passing. The urges grew over the years until I made up my mind to visit a male masseuse. Wow...I discovered men. To play with another man is a new joy.

My first experiences were with a group of boys in 6th grade. We played with each other monthly for many years, Had my first penetration from one of the big brothers! I was hooked on being fucked by men. But never felt romantic about men. Just liked what they could do for me, and loved to play with their equipment. I had my first experience with a girl at 16 and loved it. I love all women - a picture of a pretty girl always turned me on. Those relationships continue to this day. I love men to use me, and I love women for being women!

☝🏻 Me too.

So glad to read from others with similar likes and experiences.

Yes, I have prefer had sex with boys, but sometimes I have some fun with girls.

Real life I'm straight but on zity I'm bi and I do anything I like without any judgement

What makes you think that way, Mary? Just curious.

I freely get excited with men and women. I see a nice looking woman( in my eyes) and her total shape thrills me. With men, their genitals create the same desires. In both cases , I want to please them sexually, and have! Both genders have unique needs, that are satisfied differently. However, there is overlap! Personally, I enjoy satisfying a man more than a woman, but not exclusively. I just enjoy sex with humans!

Yes,it was females, the other sex. I remember in 5th grade all of a sudden looking at a girl I had known since first grade and had as a friend and being struck like a hammer in the head - the realization that she was pretty. Oh, shit! Several years later I was introduced to sex by my scoutmaster and my attention was drawn to boys for a while. My natural inclination and severe cultural bias brought me back to women for decades, but now I am returning to an attraction to the possibility of having men as sex partners and screw cultural norms and bias.

I definitely lean toward woman over men, about 70/30. For the longest time, I thought I was straight, until I realized I wasn't. That definitely solidified women as preferred to men, I think.

I am not sure if was one gender or another first come to think about it.

I remember in 5th and 6th grade I had a huge crushes on a couple of the girls in my class. That said, I also had this insane infatuation with a guy who was a grade or two above me, and there was a boy in my grade I also found very attractive too. It kind of happened at the same rough period of time. I found it very uncomfortable to think about guys in that very crush-like way. I think a lot of it was that the social expectation was that guys go out with girls and that was that. As a teen I definitely had a much greater interest in girls, but still found the aforementioned boys very attractive too.

Right now, its probably a 75/25 split for girls vs. guys I find physically attractive, though it definitely fluxes; I think a lot of bisexual folks can attest that the "bi-cycle" is a thing. That said, in terms of fetish play I don't particularly care about gender.

Actually I started out homophobic, having grown up in a homophobic environment. Though I believe I did repress / suppress a crush I had on 1 of the priests in my all boys high school. At the time I was focused on making a valiant effort to get girls, though not really having much luck.

I didn't start to really become bi curious until about a year after I joined zity, around the time my marriage had become sexless for a few years. I had started to post pics online of me modeling jockstraps, and I was receiving a lot of positive attention from older men. I had joined silverdaddies, and eventually a few other gay/bi male oriented websites. After a few playdates, I had one with a man I knew I would want to see again. That's how I knew I had made the transition to bisexual.

I wasn't really interested in anyone until I was well into my teens. I guess I was a bit of a late bloomer. I started getting crushes on boys and once I was in my 20s developed some interest in women too. Before that my primary orientation - dunno if I'd call it sexual, but it did become more sexual as I got older - was basically a raging medical fetish. I fantasized about people being subjected to harsh medical treatments and about having the same done to me, and I wasn't picky about gender in either case.

I have always been much more attracted to women, but have always had a desire to have sex with men. In fact I am not that attracted to men, it is the penis, balls, and anus I lust for.

I have always been much more attracted to women, but have always had a desire to have sex with men. In fact I am not that attracted to men, it is the penis, balls, and anus I lust for.

I am VERY much the same!

I went to a single-sex school from grade 5 and my first “whoa 😳” moments were my female peers. I guess the only boys my age I was seeing around were my brother, my cousins, our family friends who I thought of as brothers but I did start finding boys attractive very soon after.

I remember asking a trusted teacher (who made no secret of her long term relationship with her now wife) “what is wrong with me?”

She told me what bisexuality was, and that anything safe, consenting and age-appropriate was normal. “Nothing is wrong with you.”

She was the first teacher I made contact with after graduating senior, to thank her for the many times she gave me advice.