@TedStarr and I are in love with @Dahiana and @Meat_Monster as a couple and things are going so much better than I could have ever imagined. Moving back to my home town was the best move we could have made and I always worried about whether Ted would be happy here. I'm also reconnecting with Mom and after reading about Aunt @Lora_C and how she and DD became closer, I found that I am wanting that too. It also got me to thinking about how fragile life is and there is so much that you wish you had done or said and then lose the opportunity. I don't want that with my Mom and DD and my next few posts may be on the sentimental side.
Mom is pretty aware that the four of us, Ted, DD, and MM and I are doing some pretty “radical” things but she has seen a change in me that I'm only just now recognizing. She's surprised at how much I know about Aunt Lora even though she and I were really close when I was growing up, the same with with Mom and DD. Mom is a shrewd woman and nobody's fool, just like Aunt Lora, and has told me that for every question I ask, she gets to ask one too. That is fair enough and DD agreed with that and the past few weeks have been really good for all of us. It gets easier and easier to talk with each other when we get past the mother-daughter relationship and relate to each other as moms and wives and women.
Mom has seen my enema bag out drying after I clean it and she asked me if I was having some problems. I told her straight up that I'm into them for more than the health reasons and that they are part of what DD and our guys do. It came out easier than I expected and Mom did not act shocked or disgusted or really very surprised. So I asked what it was like for Mom and Aunt Lora since they were the youngest girls of the family and Aunt Lora seemed to be into enemas. Mom said that we, DD and I, seemed to know a lot about Aunt Lora and DD said that she had read a lot of what Aunt Lora wrote about her life and that she and Aunt Lora became really close. Mom was definitely intrigued by the mention of enemas and really seemed to want to know more and, really, what is it with enemas?
Mom said that Aunt Lora and her talked about how things had changed between her and DD and felt like there was more to it and was just beginning to open up about their relationship. Mom said she saw a marked improvement in how Aunt Lora felt about herself and DD and wished that she and I could have the same. This dialogue has been going on for about the past month or so and we are already making a lot of progress towards that becoming a reality. Mom went back to my enema bag and seemingly knowing about Aunt Lora's use of enemas and has asked DD and me just how much we know about that. To me, anyway, it seemed like Mom wanted to be asked a question or told something or she wondered if we thought maybe she liked enemas too, or had them when she was living at home with Aunt Lora.
So DD offered up that Aunt Lora had said that she liked or didn't mind enemas and was always having to go in for annual colonoscopy procedures because there had been some polyps at one time. Mom said she knew about that and that it may run in the family but she's been lucky so far. DD kept on the subject and told Mom that Aunt Lora had been having an affair and this was something Mom knew about and probably from the beginning, so she was upfront about that and wasn't playing cat and mouse. In looking back, I think that was when all of us just decided to be open and above the table about everything. It cleared the air and made it possible for us to move along, and me writing about this is part of that.
Mom told DD that she was mentioning a lot about Aunt Lora and enemas and wondered where all of that was going. DD said that Mom started her affair around the time she had to go in for a colonoscopy and that the guy she eventually started the affair with found out about her liking enemas. Mom was cool about it and didn't seem surprised but maybe a little intrigued and asked if DD was saying that enemas were part of what was going on? In other words, Mom wanted to know if Aunt Lora was into enemas more than just for health?
DD told her that was correct and that she got into enemas too, and that they are more sexual in nature now. DD never revealed just how her thing with enemas began and didn't go near MM's involvement and glossed over that and I bailed her out when I told her that DD is how I came into liking enemas and that it wasn't just for health. THAT shifted the focus back to DD and me and Mom said that she and Aunt Lora had always felt that there was something pretty special going on between DD and me. But why enemas? I asked Mom if she does many enemas, if any at all, and she told us that she does have an occasional enema but only when she is feeling “backed up” or really constipated. DD asked her if she liked doing them and Mom said it was just something she had to do and was used to them from when they were living back home.
DD asked Mom if Dad ever gave her an enema or helped her or knew about when she would do an enema? DD was on a roll and told her that she likes it when I give her an enema or when she gives me an enema and that it is very intimate and very special. Mom asked if that was part of our sexual relationship and said it in a way thinking that DD or I would deny it or talk around it. This is where I surprised myself and told Mom that my sexual relationship with DD didn't involve enemas for the longest time and has only been one part of what we have since moving back. DD told Mom that it was her who introduced me to enemas, which is true, and that we feel a lot closer because of them, which is true.
Mom was quiet while she listened and I got the feeling that she had already figured out that DD and I were way beyond just playing, but the enemas were something she didn't quite get the sexual connection about. Both DD and I told Mom that the enemas were special and extremely intimate and more than just sex. So DD went back and asked Mom about those times when she “has” to have an enema and what did she think about the whole process? Was it just a chore she had to do to get past whatever was ailing her and did she loathe the process the whole time?
Mom was on the hook for pursuing this or keeping it open, but she didn't seem to mind so much because she misses Aunt Lora and we had some answers she wanted to know. Was she happy and had she stopped the affair and got back with Uncle Tom because Mom had seen a big change in Aunt Lora's and Uncle Tom's marriage. And there I deferred to DD to fill Mom in on that and the more Mom listened the more she seemed to be at peace with Aunt Lora being very happy right up until the end.
That was the gist of the major conversation that Mom has had with DD and me over the past few weeks and she seems to be happy for all of us and what we are enjoying with each other. She did ask last week, I believe, if Ted ever gave me an enema or me give him one. I told her the truth and that I really love doing it and having it done with him and that we feel closer because of it. I asked her if she ever thought of letting Dad know about her enemas or at least have him around when she has to have one? She deflected my question by asking me again if I was comfortable with Ted giving me an enema or being around when I do one, and I told her that I wanted it. I suggested she might want to give it a try or at least mention it the next time. She didn't say yes or no, but she listened.
I'll be posting some more of this in the future because my relationship with Mom is at a turning point and I think we are getting past the mother-daughter thing and actually becoming friends. She is more ready to give us all a Friday to ourselves and has watched all of the kids while we take it to the Mother Ship or wherever. We'll she where this goes.