Upset Husband Hates My Exams

Having a husband and a boy friend that both are very unhappy that I go to a five doctor Ob/Gyn group. Of course all five are male and that is what they dislike. Are there any wives or girl friends with the same problem males. Are there males with the same concerns. Love to know. Just hearing the word Stirrup or speculum and they get defensive. New here so I don't know if this has been posted before

I certainly wouldn’t mind as it’s a part of life. Just like with the mention of the word period or tampon.

I had a similar reaction when I first saw my ex-gf getting a physical from male doctor (granted it wasn't a Ob/Gyn); she was a very very good looking girl, and when she would giggle during certain parts of the physical (Babinski reflex, him prodding her abdomen, etc.) I would get extremely jealous, it went on for some time, but eventually I found it very hot. It took some time though, I gained nothing from getting upset, because she wasn't going to change doctors. Now, with my current gf, I have watched her get a full physical, including a breast exam from her male doc and I dont mind it.

Take them with you to an exam. they will love it

Husband AND a boyfriend? Have they met? 😉 Agree with the previous post, take them with you to your exam (maybe one at a time though…) 😉 I enjoyed my wife's pelvic, male doc even asked me up for a closer look…

@Nancy_2021

I have a slightly different take on this..What century did these 2 come from ?

Both parties need to arrive at the 21st century, man up considerably & face reality.

When they can accept this then maybe take both along to your exams individually & with any luck they might just find it can be pretty enjoyable.

Then when you both head on home later perhaps you'll both have a F**king good time.

Good luck !!

Being jealous is never good…. In the first place it is for your health to go to ob/gyn. And even when you enjoy it is your business and not theirs. I would never have this concerns. But i would always like to watch exams. In the first place to hold the hand of my beloved one, to be together in such an intimate moment is very special. The arousal coms later.

It does seem I was not very good at stating my thought. Both my husband and the boyfriend i was referring to have been with me on more than one exam. Both can't get enough of watching and even participating in women getting pelvic exams. They love them. Just don't like it when it's me getting my breasts and girl parts examined you a guy. Now I have learned a a lesson. Those with me in my close lifestyle realized both of these males care about me a lot and yes they are kind of jealous. They both know i don't mind my exams at all and most of the time I love being the center of attention up on the table and eagerly get in the stirrups when told to. Their not Neanderthals or in the wrong century their just a little jealous of some other guy maybe playing in their garden. I love them both. I know a dozen girl friends whose husbands would just as soon have the, find a female doctor. I will be more careful in future posts.

They both know i don't mind my exams at all and most of the time I love being the center of attention up on the table and eagerly get in the stirrups when told to. Their not Neanderthals or in the wrong century their just a little jealous of some other guy maybe playing in their garden. I love them both. I know a dozen girl friends whose husbands would just as soon have the, find a female doctor. I will be more careful in future posts.

Sounds like they may be reacting to the fact that you enjoy being the “center of attention” exposing the “garden” to another male. An opportunity for legitimate exhibitionism. I don't know anyone who reacts to their wife seeing a male gynecologist.

@Nancy_2021

Thanks for the clarification

Well the males in your life both derive huge pleasure from gyno exams, so it's hardly surprising they fear those five doctors may also quietly enjoy what they do to you. Sure, the real medics here may quickly say it's completely different with real patients, just a slab of meat with symptoms etc. This may be true for many, but is it for all doctors with all patients? That's a tall order. Plus I know one guy who offers his wife for play exams, the most diligent play examiner who visits being a real hospital doctor in real life.

So the males in your life are just reacting to how dirty they know other men can be. And that's before we consider the ladies.

I've asked my partner if he has a preference me to have a male or female Dr. He said I can go to see any Drs as long as I am comfortable with! At this current covid situation, he is not able to come for drs appointments with me unfortunately.

I honestly don't think that it is for a husband or a boyfriend to offer a preference or expectation regarding who one see's for medical care. The primary consideration ought to be your health and comfort/confidence in the healthcare provider. Seeing a medical doctor is not about satisfying a fetish but insuring that you're able to engage in activities and life.

Why not save all of the trouble and just switch to a female OB/GYN? A female is what I go to. Being lesbian can raise some eyebrows. I had a girlfriend once who was intimidated. I asked her to come with me. She did and loved it. Then she and I made appointments at the same time the following year. Here is where some problems could arise. If you split up and see each other in the waiting room but that has never happened. I think she requested to be changed to another date and time.

Back when I was bi and living with my fiance he would get turned on by me going to a female doctor. I think a lot of guys watch too much porn and imagine the woman having sex with the doctor.

My wife once went to a male doctor for her annual checkup when her regular female doctor wasn't available. It was the end of the year and needed to be done for insurance purposes. The doctor said I could leave the room and his nurse would accompany him during the exam. My wife told him that I was staying, and he wasn't very happy about it. He gave her a breast exam that lasted enough time for four or five females to receive a breast exam. When he pulled out the stirrups and said it was time for her pelvic exam, she refused and said that the exam was over. When he left the room, my wife told me that he had a full-blown erection and that it rubbed up against her arm during her breast exam. She hasn't gone to a male doctor for annual checkups since that day. She always went to male doctors for annual checkups before we dated, but never had it happen before. Maybe they did but were just more discreet about it.

Unfortunately there are predators even in the medical profession. Not many, but they are really a Black Plague. Your wife did the right thing. Sorry that happened to her.

Unfortunately there are predators even in the medical profession. Not many, but they are really a Black Plague. Your wife did the right thing. Sorry that happened to her.

It's true. Use the gymnastics doc as an example of this but these guys are rare. I think most doctors are true professionals who can separate business from pleasure. If a doc did that she should have filed a complaint. Get these guys out of the profession. It gives the rest a bad name.