Has anyone been to a professional spanker?

Has anyone been to a professional disciplinarian? I have an appointment with one coming up and was wondering what people thought.

Like a good massage, let the spanker know what turns you on. Some people like it hard while others like to have the senses heightened without a lot of pain. It is no fun if you are engaged in a session that goes against all of your likes.

A very good friend of mine is a professional Domme. She does spankings, floggings, paddling, bare hand etc., over the knee, barebottom and so on.

You need to tell her or him what you want. Your likes, dislikes, hard limits etc. What turns you on and very important what is a negative trigger for you.

You may not know all the answers to these questions so you are honest with and with yourself. Answer best you can.

How or where would you find that?

How or where would you find that?

On the internet, there are hundreds of them.

How or where would you find that?

I got the call today and will be meeting the spanker tomorrow at 1:00. We talked for about a half hour with her asking me what I wanted, how I wanted it, and with what. She asked if I wanted a safe word and how and when to use it. I chose a hand spanking with a hair brush after that. I also chose a mouth soaping, although I'm not to crazy about that. She said she would call me in the morning again incase I had more questions. She ended the call with these words, 1:00, don`t be late. Not much sleep tonight….

Its been about 24 hours since I met Miss Holly and what a 24 hours it has been. She called me at 10 A.M. to ask if we were still on and if I had any questions, the only one I had was the address of where to go. She gave me the address and some landmarks of where to turn and all and then said 1:00, do not be late. I was beside myself, I was going to get spanked by a professional. I showed up in the neighborhood about 12:45 driving by by her house making sure I had the right place. I parked down the street for a few minutes before driving into the drive at 12:55, I did not want to be to early. I was scared sh*tless as I got out of the car and rang the doorbell. When the door opened a woman about 50 years old asked if I was Chuck. When I sad yes she said right on time, come in. We sat and talked for about 15 minutes going over what we had talked about the night before. It was to be a bare bottom OTK spanking, by hand and hairbrush. She told me about the safe word and if I used it the session was over. she asked if that was alright, and when I said yes she said well lets get started. We got up and she led me to her play room. There was a chair in the middle of the room that I knew was for me. She told me to remove my pants and put them on a table and to leave my underwear on. She sat and said come here leaving no doubt as to what was going to happen. She took my hand and led me down and over her knees. Then she said remember, you asked for this and started spanking me over my shorts. She must have given me 50 or 60 good swats when she said its time for these to go and slid my under shorts down. I`m thinking oh gawd, here it comes. She then proceeded to give me a solid 5 minutes of hand spanks. My ass was on fire, I felt like a 10 year old, tears running down my cheeks. She then reached over and picked up a hairbrush and started again, I had never felt pain like that. After another few minutes she stopped and said not bad for a first timer, we`re finished for this part. She said stand up, I`m thinking this Part? She said come with me and led me to the bathroom sink where she opened a bar of Ivory soap and said you thought you were getting out of this didn`t you as she ran the soap under warm water. when she had it lathered up nicely she said open your mouth. I kind of resisted but a slap on the bottom made me open and the soap went in. She scraped it on my teeth and made sure my entire mouth was soaped. She then took a wet wash cloth and made sure that the soap was covering everything. she ten said I could rinse and then come out and get dressed. When I went out to get dressed she gave me a bottle of water and asked if everything was satisfactory. I told her it was more than I had hoped for. She then asked if she would be seeing me again, I replied that she would. The whole session only lasted about an hour but was worth every penny she charged.

My wife doesn't like to spank me, so this is what i asked for Christmas, i don't see it happening though.

Yes. Money well spent IF you find someone who truly likes to spank. Just like everything else in life, practice makes perfect and there's nothing like being spanked by a very experienced spanker who enjoys spanking.

Go to your search engine and type in disciplinarIan and the city you’re in or going to. Most have websites to find out more about them.

For a time a semi-retired Dom lived in a nearby city. She had trained in the 1970s in a New York City dungeon, I’ve long ago forgotten which one, not that it would mean much if I did remember. She was the perfect blend of strict and caring, for my tastes. I would take my own large fountain syringe and nozzles, she provided the urethral sounds from her autoclave, and a variety of spanking implements. I would typically schedule an hour and a half session with her, which would go in this order- we would visit and chat about our mutual musical interests, then she would escort me to her treatment room, which had an adjacent shower and toilet. And it also had a St. Andrew’s Cross, but I never requested to be bound to it. She would order me to strip completely, and I could her here close by in the kitchen preparing her favorite enema solution, and a lot of it. She would reappear in a sexy nurse uniform, and begin my treatment. First she would comment that I really needed a careful urethral sounding, and would swab my penis with betadine solution. Then the first of 4 or 5 sounds was introduced into my cock, and this was repeated, each time using a slightly larger diameter. That treatment being completed, she would comment that the room seemed rather warm, and she hoped I wouldn’t mind if she “got a little more comfortable“and she removed the nurse’s dress revealing a low cut bra, no panties, a completely shaven kitty, garter belt and nylons. Of course, I never objected to her becoming more ”comfortable”. The next treatment was a series of enemas- I would turn on my left side, hear the snap of a latex glove being put on, and then felt her slip one finger inside, then two and eventually three, lubing me well and giving a deep prostate massage at the same time. She encouraged me to take up to three quarts, made me hold it as long as I could, and then sent me into the bathroom to expel. The enemas were repeated until there was no more solution- then she would test my pain tolerance with the Wartenberg wheel in all my tender areas, pinching my nipples if I squirmed too much or complained too loudly. After the cock and ball torture, the bra came off, and she sat on the table as I lay across her lap for a good spanking- I was always amazed at the strength of her swats, and she firmly held my cock between her thighs as she spanked me. By this time I was very aroused and it didn’t take much for her to make me come hard. Very satisfying session- off to shower, dry off and enjoy a cup of tea with her and look forward to the next session with her. Sadly, she has retired and left the area, last I heard was living in Italy where she had family.

I made another appointment to see Miss Holly last week. I got to her place and knocked on the door. She opened the door, looked at me and smiled and said she thought she’d have seen me before this. We exchanged pleasantries and then she said you’ve been naughty haven’t you. When I said yes she said let’s talk. She asked what I had done and said to tell her everything. I told her that I had been disrespectful to people,cussed a lot, and generally was a pain in the ass to people. She said yes, you do need to be punished and I’m going to spank you good. Today there will not be a safe word. You will take what I give you, no questions asked, now come here. I stood in front of her and she undid my belt, then unbuttoned my jeans all the time scolding me about my behavior. She pulled down my pants and said step out of them. She threw them on the sofa and said over my knee. She said no warm up today and pulled my underwear down and started right in to spanking, hard and fast. It didn’t take long before the tears started. She spanked for several minutes and said get up, and took me to a corner and said stand there and didn’t touch your bottom, or the front either. She left me there and I could hear he rummaging around looking for something. After awhile she said come back here. I turned around and she was sitting on her chair with a hair brush in her hand. She said back over my knee. She set about padding my bottom with the brush, pain like I have never felt before. She seemed to spank for hours. Finally she let me up and I was take back to the corner. After awhile she came over and turned me around. She said there, is your feeling of guilt gone? I said it’s starting to go. You still have some guilt, let’s go at it again. I went back over her knee for a third session with the brush. Before long I was kicking my feet and promising to be good. She said good, maybe you learned your lesson. I got up again and we sat on the sofa and she hugged me and consoled me. After a few minutes she said get dressed. We walked to the door, she hugged me again and said that when I got the urge again, call me.

I see a domanatrix from time to time. Our sessions usually last about an hour and include over the knee bare handed spanking and numerous strokes with a variety of paddles. Intensity goes from mild to extremely hard. Sometimes a caning is also included. She likes to see my ass cheeks go from pink to bright red. If I am able to take all of her punishment she will finish me off with a happy ending. She has a full time regular job so I don’t get to see her as often as I would like but when I do it is so much fun for us both

I have been to one male and one female dom/domme. Both were enjoyable, and in different ways. Both were out of the country while i was traveling. I have written up pretty lengthy recaps of what happened, if you're interested, PM me, or if there is any interest, i can post here.

Yes, @Ben_D, we would love it if you posted them here.

No, but it sounds fascination. I've seen a posting for a woman in Orange County, California (A Real Housewife of Orange County😃 Just joking.

She calls herself “Domestic Disciplinarian”

It sounds awesome to me, I have never been fortunate enough to find one, probably not trying hard enough.

I did hook up some years ago with a women that was not a professional just in to the life style and didn’t do it for money. Also I knew her, so it wasn’t like I imagined it would be meeting up with someone you didn’t know for a session. The excitement and anticipation of what was going to happen.

@kristens I looked her up because i am also in OC. it looks like she is a pure and stern spanker and any sort of sexual gratification is forbidden. probably not for me but so close…. are you in the area. feel free to message me.

Sounds to me you found a winning ticket in the lottery, so to speak! I'm really happy for you, that you had such a great experience so far. I have never been to a professional spanker. There aren't much of them in this country, and most of them are ladies. I prefer to be spanked by a man. Never found a professional hetero male spanker. For us ladies, it's a little easier to find men that want to spank us. But I just don't let anyone spank me for the sake of spanking. There should be a mutual click as well. And you got to be on the same boat, well sort of. And that makes it a little more complicated. Because real pure spankers are hard to find in my country. The Netherlands doesn't have a classic spanking tradition. Although as a kid it was normal we got spanked. But I mean like in the US and the UK, spanking is more dominantly present and accepted. Spanking has been banned in the Netherlands for many years. And in schools since the late ‘50’s. Some people like the erotic spanking. I am not so much into that. I prefer real discipline.

I went back to see Miss Holly today and OMG did she ever give it t me. I hadn’t seen her since January so she made sure I was brought up to date. We talked for a few minutes and then she said okay, shoes off and get those pants an undershorts off. Now over my knee, she started with a hand spanking, she must have given me 100 sharp spanks. I then was put in the corner while she got my next step ready. I was put back over her knee and hand spanked again all while being scolded. She scolded me for a few minutes and set about using a paddle that had me crying like a 10 year old. When she had me stand she took me by the ear and pulled me to the bathroom where she had a bar of soap soaking. My mouth was washed out while I was being scolded for my attitude. After I was allowed to rinse my mouth out I was put back in the corner. After awhile I was told to turn around, on the sofa were 2 pillows and Miss Holly holding a strap. She said to get over the pillows and not to move. She said it was time for the finally and gave me a couple of dozen with the paddle and finished with a dozen with the strap, witch I had to count. With that she said get up and sit there while I get you a water. We talked again about the session, then I got dressed. We hugged and I left. All I can say is that it won’t be 3 months before I see her again.

Diaper4me2, you are an incredibly lucky man to have someone who truly cares for you. She gives you exactly what you need and want, and more. Does she do hot, soapy enemas as well?? large volume??

It seems as though, in the past at least and perhaps to a lesser degree in current time, spankings where often accompanied by enemas (or occasionally figgings). Several of the spanking websites include vids of both. Anyone had the pleasure(?) in RL? If so, SHARE!!!!

Diaper4me2, you are an incredibly lucky man to have someone who truly cares for you. She gives you exactly what you need and want, and more. Does she do hot, soapy enemas as well?? large volume?? Jackinbx, I don’t know if she does enemas, I feel that she treats me extremely good, gives me what I need , and allows me to hug her before leaving. Most dominants do not allow that, ie no touching. This lady is a real professional and I don’t want to loose her.

I’ve had the experience twice with two different women. Only time I have been spanked. I write in detail about my first experience in the library section. The second, last February, I relate in a blog page. I hope to visit each of them again.

Repost: I had self spanked for time, and wanted to try a pro. ‘Spanky’ was nearby in a massage parlor. In one of rooms, she seemed nice explaining she did baby, boy or strict spankings. I told her I wanted a ‘strict' spanking ; after I paid, she immediately changed. She started yelling at me to strip. When I wasn’t fast enough she lashed me with a whip hard on the leg. It hurt! A lot worse than anything I ever did to myself. I received two more before I was naked. She shoved me into the hallway, then to more open area. I was shocked to see the other ‘masseuse’ there, regarding my nudity with disdain. Out of a closet they extracted a saw horse-like affair. I lay across the padded top, knees on a ledge and genitals hanging over the wood plate on the end. They strapped me down, arms pulled down and strapped to the legs of the sawhorse; more straps secured my body and knees. She put a noose at the top of my balls and another behind the head of my penis and splayed them on the wooden plate.

The beating was too horrible for words. I had no idea it would hurt like this. If the worst I did to myself was 1 the first warm-ups were 10. If I jerked up from a hit, the movement would cause intense pain in the tied down balls. Two women. Paddle, cane, strap. I was screaming immediately and didn’t last 5 minutes before trying to use the safe word. I must have caught her on a bad day. She told me she wanted to give me my money’s worth. When I saw my butt later it was bruised all over; big welts from the cane. Then they whipped my penis and finally my balls. The shock goes into the groin and up the chest and throat. I threw up. My scrotum and penis were left black and blue.

I had to rest an hour before I could try to drive home. I had to stop three times because the pain in my butt was so bad. I couldn’t go to work for two days.

No more pros for me. I still spank myself, but I self limit of course.

I have posted about this awhile ago on another thread. About 25 years ago, in my 50's, I found the perfect dominatrix. We always talked before the session so I was always satisfied when it was ended. After the session we would also talk for a while. These talks were more friend to friend about life etc. Never about the dom sub relationship. I was sorry when I had to stop seeing Mistress Victoria due to unfortunate financial circumstances.

I did meet with a very well known one once. It was amazing. If geography hadn’t been an issue I would have continued when possible.

Hello all, I broke down and visited with Miss Holly this morning. When I got there she embraced me like I was a long lost family member. We went to her play room and started to talk like we usually do. I said that I had some questions to ask if she didn’t mind. She said go on, so I asked what else she did besides spanking and paddling. She said what do you mean, so I asked, do you do forced fem, she does, so I went on and ask about diapers, suppositories and enemas. She said yes,yes, and sometimes. She doesn’t like doing enemas in her home, if someone had an accident it would be a dirty mess to clean up. As for the others, she said that if you bring it I’ll use it and, and it’s a big and, you may just get an enema in the future. I just smiled and she asked if I was ready to start today’s session. She said come here, you’ve been naughty again and need this…… I’ll tell you about my session tomorrow, and it was a good one as it usually is.

I visited one once in 2006.

Another trip to Miss Holly coming this week, can’t wait