Where is the younger generation? 20s-30 max?

A follow-up to my earlier post (#6 ) and to arika's highly-informative post (#27 ). Yes, l do think Zity needs to evolve into a more general site for fetishists, kinksters, medfet topics, offbeat sexual and/or fetishistic thoughts. If it is true that young people today are generally more prudish or 'pure' (cf. agracier's post #22 ) but can enjoy Zity for what it offers, then we may really have something. Think of it as ‘the big mix’?!

- Ken

I appreciate all your responses. I read each one.

One thing I just want to add. Most (if not all) of you seem to think medical fetishes have to do with “sexualism”….But does anyone here enjoy listening to someone's heartbeat simply because it is the “music” of life? Not because of the fact that your hand is near the breasts or some sexual mindset, but simply just because you just love the sound the heart makes?… or performing full-body physicals simply just because you want to care for someone's well-being in that sense… Does any such person exist? I'm curious!

A lovely thought, Heart2Heart (post #32 ), which long ago, as an adolescent, l might almost have endorsed - except for uneasily recognising that l also had my secret thoughts which, back then, l could share with nobody. For example, there was my fascination with the very thick medical encyclopedia that Dad kept in the garage for some reason …

- Ken

@Heart2Heart

Hey and Hello,

Yes, there are such persons/people. But these people/persons are very rare. I want to tell you: I am one of those persons/people.

I have no real experience and never had the pleasure of being a Play Doc, never had the pleasure of being a patient.

If you want, we can write privately with each other. I am from Germany and unfortunately can not easily travel to the USA at the moment. But this will certainly, soon be possible again. Until then, you can write with pleasure with each other and exchange.

Best regards and all the best to you.

I'm 26, and there are a small contingent of younger folks on here. We just tend to be less active.

Sometimes I get the impression that young people nowadays have somehow or other evolved into prudes and have become far more asexual than my generation.

That is possible from my perspective. Although I think my peers whose behavior would best be described as prudish would resent being called prudes. It surprises me that with so many enterprising activists and self styled rebels everyone seems so sexually reserved. Somewhere I read that based on observation and primary sources there appears to be an inverse relationship between prosperity and promiscuity. Another con for achieving world peace huh?

Edit - Subsequently noticed @Moppys_jalopy post:

I don't think it is that so much as the younger generation aren't into the same things as much as the older generation. I know enemas are much less prevalent today than in years past.

And that’s definitely true. However I do think many of the current generation are also reluctant to engage in even vanilla sexual activity because of the pervasive idea that a vagina has value that diminishes with use, and other ideological diseases related to slut shaming. Also think that due to good times and indulgent parenting that some people have developed nearly detrimentally large self-esteem. And that makes it harder to get into their pants. Because, who are you?

Edited a second time to cut a lot of irrelevant bits(posted originally while missing sleep)

@gwhap they‘re not so interested in getting down, much less getting freaky, as previous generations were. Their supposed open-mindedness has limits and belies how sexually conservative they are.

It takes time to perfect ones skills.

Do you want a doctor with experience or one that looks cute?

For the braver:just be careful--especially woman.There's a lot of really crazy violence prone men out there….

Perhaps, though that sounds like the kind of story tropes one sees in movies and TV.

I am certain that being wacky and out of touch with reality and prone to taking beliefs to extremes is not really gender-related.

I think my peers whose behavior would best be described as prudish would resent being called prudes.

When I was young and coming of age, my generation acted like we had discovered sex. We thought our parents and their generation were a bunch of old prudish fuddy-duddies.

Now, that is the opinion I have of youngsters nowadays, although I wouldn't call them ‘old fuddy-duddies’ but ‘young deliberately reticent PC goody-goodies’.

My generation thought we'd ushered in the sexual revolution . But now it seems like Thermidor and serious back-sliding.

Such a shame all the gains lost.

@Michael001 Post #38

I just want to chat and play with someone one day who is not old enough to be my parent or grandparent. Such a large age gap makes the whole thing awkward for me.

Do you want a doctor with experience or one that looks cute?

Unfortunately, in play and in real life, many here seem to prefer the “cute” ones vs the competent ones. Personally, I only want the best, most qualified ones regardless of age.

Well I would be in the main demographics too being almost 40. @agracier has a point that for the in their 20s rectal temps etc. has gone out of favor, and also buttock injections etc. and whatnot. How ever of course gynaecology and other physical exams haven't gotten out of favor. If the there are fewer medfetters in the 20s generation is hard for me to say.

A follow-up to my earlier post (#6 ) and to arika's highly-informative post (#27 ). Yes, l do think Zity needs to evolve into a more general site for fetishists, kinksters, medfet topics, offbeat sexual and/or fetishistic thoughts.

This site is owned and administered by one person. The webmaster controls the content and he is only 1 man and I think he does a pretty darn good job with deciding what fetishes are included. He doesn't have the time to include everything. I might point out this site has always been a free, non commercial site and he deserves all the credit for that.

This is a fascinating thread. Good work to all that have contributed.

Yes, l do think Zity needs to evolve into a more general site for fetishists, kinksters, medfet topics, offbeat sexual and/or fetishistic thoughts.

- Ken

Personally, I think Zity is already a great general site for kinksters and is diverse enough , you can choose music or masturbation or a host of other kinks to suit your own personal taste…

Yes! 27 here. There's quite a few peoples also answering too so it seems we're not that much of a minority..

@polipopette is good that you are not much minority or else what will be of Zity in some years.

This amazing site must go on!

Za

Personally, I think Zity is already a great general site for kinksters and is diverse enough , you can choose music or masturbation or a host of other kinks to suit your own personal taste…

I agree with @Dr_Philip that there are already enough fetish topics to cover any (legal) kink. There are 15 fetish categories and well over 100 “Tags”. Adding a new category or Tag for every conceivable fetish would make it difficult both to manage and for users to navigate. I would bet that a lot of the “new” “Kinks” would have limited discussion threads. The existing “Kinky” category covers a lot!!!

When I was young and coming of age, my generation acted like we had discovered sex. We thought our parents and their generation were a bunch of old prudish fuddy-duddies.

@agracier I think things we’re probably different in Belgium. While the US had hippies who were well known to be free loving and libertine they were disdained by many of the Boomers here for being too radical and I think that even for some of them it was only a trend. It would surprise me to think that the generation with many of its members standing as a bulwark against progress was or is actually secretly sexually liberal.

I'm 30 and was semi-active on the board throughout my twenties. I think the issue may be that younger people aren't as used to going on forums like this one. The play partners that I've met have been through FetLife.

I actually like that there's such a diverse set of ages represented on this board. Especially when I was in my young twenties and more closeted about my medfet desires, it was reassuring to see that so many older people had successfully incorporated medical and enema play into their adult lives.

I think the issue may be that younger people aren't as used to going on forums like this one.

This is 100% one of the issues. Basically if I click a link and it brings me to a forum like this one, my first instinct is “oh, this is a dead end, nothing here, site's dead”. Using forums like this hasn't been instinctual for me for at least a decade now.

@Heart2Heart

As to your first question - I think that for most people it takes a longer time to become aware and explicit about their needs and desires ,hence the average age.

As to the second, yes, I even once had such an experience with a real female doc. She allowed me to use her stethoscope on her and I listened to her “beats” - first quick due to excitement from the whole situation and then as the time was passing, slow and relaxed. Very intimate experience and neither of us tried to turn that into anything sexual. It was more about a connection and paying respect to “the life within”.

Taking care of someone's well-being is also very pleasurable for me - last week I gave my female friend a good back and legs massage while comforting her when it was painful (mostly due to pinpointing those hard spots and pressing them firmly) and then “rewarding” her with relaxing sets of moves. The goal was to get rid of back pains and to give her a relaxing experience, it wasn't a foreplay or anything else.

Hey👋

A 26 yo female here.

@agracier I think things we’re probably different in Belgium. While the US had hippies who were well known to be free loving and libertine they were disdained by many of the Boomers here for being too radical

Not really that much different.

I live in the city in Belgium that was the only one that could be said to have had a serious Counter Cultural presence. In fact, I went to live in the neighborhood that had that reputation. And if anything, Belgians before hippies were invented were very staid and sedate and uptight. We were also only a hop, skip and a jump away from Amsterdam and all the Magical Mystery City and Alternative Lifestyle stuff the place entailed and radiated.

Arika: Shots in the butt are still done on infants; I saw it done for immunization on my own children only a few years ago. Apart from this… you're right, many of us here fantasize about acts that were common or at least not rare when we were children, but that have since been phased out in favor of less intrusive, less brutal procedures. It's normal that younger people would not have such fantasies, unless they've read about them and project themselves in the past.

I just spent a couple of hours investigating Fetlife since it’s been referenced by several members here, and unless I’m missing something there is not much going on over there at all.

I'm 38 years old, have been a member here for 12 years and I think I have had one meaningful, private conversation with someone about medfet in that whole time! It may take a while!

I'm 26 and I've been on this forum for a long time. I just didn't have anything to contribute for a long time so I don't post much.

This is 100% one of the issues. Basically if I click a link and it brings me to a forum like this one, my first instinct is “oh, this is a dead end, nothing here, site's dead”. Using forums like this hasn't been instinctual for me for at least a decade now.

I think younger people come on here and see all of the “I gave myself an enema” stuff and leave. Or they see the online long dramatic cybering posts in some threads and the low personals online. Or the ones who claim online wanking is the same as the real thing.

We always hear how younger people are all so overly into the internet and don't do much in person, but I think it's more the other way around.

I just spent a couple of hours investigating Fetlife since it’s been referenced by several members here, and unless I’m missing something there is not much going on over there at all.

Same for me, so I left. It seems to be a place for people who are in couples and attend groups, to post stuff.