Where is the younger generation of medfetters? 20s-30 max?

I'm 26, and there are a small contingent of younger folks on here. We just tend to be less active.

Sometimes I get the impression that young people nowadays have somehow or other evolved into prudes and have become far more asexual than my generation.

That is possible from my perspective. Although I think my peers whose behavior would best be described as prudish would resent being called prudes. It surprises me that with so many enterprising activists and self styled rebels everyone seems so sexually reserved. Somewhere I read that based on observation and primary sources there appears to be an inverse relationship between prosperity and promiscuity. Another con for achieving world peace huh?

Edit - Subsequently noticed @Moppys_jalopy post:

I don't think it is that so much as the younger generation aren't into the same things as much as the older generation. I know enemas are much less prevalent today than in years past.

And that’s definitely true. However I do think many of the current generation are also reluctant to engage in even vanilla sexual activity because of the pervasive idea that a vagina has value that diminishes with use, and other ideological diseases related to slut shaming. Also think that due to good times and indulgent parenting that some people have developed nearly detrimentally large self-esteem. And that makes it harder to get into their pants. Because, who are you?

Edited a second time to cut a lot of irrelevant bits(posted originally while missing sleep)

They‘re not so interested in getting down, much less getting freaky, as previous generations were. Their supposed open-mindedness has limits and belies how sexually conservative they are.

It takes time to perfect ones skills.

Do you want a doctor with experience or one that looks cute?

For the braver:just be careful--especially woman.There's a lot of really crazy violence prone men out there….

Perhaps, though that sounds like the kind of story tropes one sees in movies and TV.

I am certain that being wacky and out of touch with reality and prone to taking beliefs to extremes is not really gender-related.

I think my peers whose behavior would best be described as prudish would resent being called prudes.

When I was young and coming of age, my generation acted like we had discovered sex. We thought our parents and their generation were a bunch of old prudish fuddy-duddies.

Now, that is the opinion I have of youngsters nowadays, although I wouldn't call them ‘old fuddy-duddies’ but ‘young deliberately reticent PC goody-goodies’.

My generation thought we'd ushered in the sexual revolution . But now it seems like Thermidor and serious back-sliding.

Such a shame all the gains lost.

@Michael001 Post #38

I just want to chat and play with someone one day who is not old enough to be my parent or grandparent. Such a large age gap makes the whole thing awkward for me.

Do you want a doctor with experience or one that looks cute?

Unfortunately, in play and in real life, many here seem to prefer the “cute” ones vs the competent ones. Personally, I only want the best, most qualified ones regardless of age.

Well I would be in the main demographics too being almost 40. @agracier has a point that for the in their 20s rectal temps etc. has gone out of favor, and also buttock injections etc. and whatnot. How ever of course gynaecology and other physical exams haven't gotten out of favor. If the there are fewer medfetters in the 20s generation is hard for me to say.

Yes, l do think Zity needs to evolve into a more general site for fetishists, kinksters, medfet topics, offbeat sexual and/or fetishistic thoughts.

This site is owned and administered by one person. The webmaster controls the content and he is only 1 man and I think he does a pretty darn good job with deciding what fetishes are included. He doesn't have the time to include everything. I might point out this site has always been a free, non commercial site and he deserves all the credit for that.

This is a fascinating thread. Good work to all that have contributed.

Yes, l do think Zity needs to evolve into a more general site for fetishists, kinksters, medfet topics, offbeat sexual and/or fetishistic thoughts.

- Ken

Personally, I think Zity is already a great general site for kinksters and is diverse enough , you can choose music or masturbation or a host of other kinks to suit your own personal taste…

Yes! 27 here. There's quite a few peoples also answering too so it seems we're not that much of a minority..

@polipopette is good that you are not much minority or else what will be of Zity in some years.

This amazing site must go on!

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Personally, I think Zity is already a great general site for kinksters and is diverse enough , you can choose music or masturbation or a host of other kinks to suit your own personal taste…

I agree with @Dr_Philip that there are already enough fetish topics to cover any (legal) kink. There are 15 fetish categories and well over 100 “Tags”. Adding a new category or Tag for every conceivable fetish would make it difficult both to manage and for users to navigate. I would bet that a lot of the “new” “Kinks” would have limited discussion threads. The existing “Kinky” category covers a lot!!!

When I was young and coming of age, my generation acted like we had discovered sex. We thought our parents and their generation were a bunch of old prudish fuddy-duddies.

@agracier I think things we’re probably different in Belgium. While the US had hippies who were well known to be free loving and libertine they were disdained by many of the Boomers here for being too radical and I think that even for some of them it was only a trend. It would surprise me to think that the generation with many of its members standing as a bulwark against progress was or is actually secretly sexually liberal.

I'm 30 and was semi-active on the board throughout my twenties. I think the issue may be that younger people aren't as used to going on forums like this one. The play partners that I've met have been through FetLife.

I actually like that there's such a diverse set of ages represented on this board. Especially when I was in my young twenties and more closeted about my medfet desires, it was reassuring to see that so many older people had successfully incorporated medical and enema play into their adult lives.

I think the issue may be that younger people aren't as used to going on forums like this one.

This is 100% one of the issues. Basically if I click a link and it brings me to a forum like this one, my first instinct is “oh, this is a dead end, nothing here, site's dead”. Using forums like this hasn't been instinctual for me for at least a decade now.

@Heart2Heart

As to your first question - I think that for most people it takes a longer time to become aware and explicit about their needs and desires ,hence the average age.

As to the second, yes, I even once had such an experience with a real female doc. She allowed me to use her stethoscope on her and I listened to her “beats” - first quick due to excitement from the whole situation and then as the time was passing, slow and relaxed. Very intimate experience and neither of us tried to turn that into anything sexual. It was more about a connection and paying respect to “the life within”.

Taking care of someone's well-being is also very pleasurable for me - last week I gave my female friend a good back and legs massage while comforting her when it was painful (mostly due to pinpointing those hard spots and pressing them firmly) and then “rewarding” her with relaxing sets of moves. The goal was to get rid of back pains and to give her a relaxing experience, it wasn't a foreplay or anything else.

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A 26 yo female here.

@agracier I think things we’re probably different in Belgium. While the US had hippies who were well known to be free loving and libertine they were disdained by many of the Boomers here for being too radical

Not really that much different.

I live in the city in Belgium that was the only one that could be said to have had a serious Counter Cultural presence. In fact, I went to live in the neighborhood that had that reputation. And if anything, Belgians before hippies were invented were very staid and sedate and uptight. We were also only a hop, skip and a jump away from Amsterdam and all the Magical Mystery City and Alternative Lifestyle stuff the place entailed and radiated.

Arika: Shots in the butt are still done on infants; I saw it done for immunization on my own children only a few years ago. Apart from this… you're right, many of us here fantasize about acts that were common or at least not rare when we were children, but that have since been phased out in favor of less intrusive, less brutal procedures. It's normal that younger people would not have such fantasies, unless they've read about them and project themselves in the past.

I just spent a couple of hours investigating Fetlife since it’s been referenced by several members here, and unless I’m missing something there is not much going on over there at all.

I'm 38 years old, have been a member here for 12 years and I think I have had one meaningful, private conversation with someone about medfet in that whole time! It may take a while!

I'm 26 and I've been on this forum for a long time. I just didn't have anything to contribute for a long time so I don't post much.

This is 100% one of the issues. Basically if I click a link and it brings me to a forum like this one, my first instinct is “oh, this is a dead end, nothing here, site's dead”. Using forums like this hasn't been instinctual for me for at least a decade now.

I think younger people come on here and see all of the “I gave myself an enema” stuff and leave. Or they see the online long dramatic cybering posts in some threads and the low personals online. Or the ones who claim online wanking is the same as the real thing.

We always hear how younger people are all so overly into the internet and don't do much in person, but I think it's more the other way around.

I just spent a couple of hours investigating Fetlife since it’s been referenced by several members here, and unless I’m missing something there is not much going on over there at all.

Same for me, so I left. It seems to be a place for people who are in couples and attend groups, to post stuff.

I feel like enemas and exams with a lot of nudity aren’t that common anymore so many people are never exposed to them and don’t develop the fetishes as a result. Of course there are still some doctors and families that do both of these things, but in general modesty is usually favored over a more thorough exam now.

I personally had a doctor that required nudity during his exams and that’s the main reason I have this fetish. I also played doctor when I was younger, but I also think that’s less common than it used to be.

I feel like enemas and exams with a lot of nudity aren’t that common anymore so many people are never exposed to them and don’t develop the fetishes as a result.

The things is, one needn't necessarily be exposed to any of these things/practices and yet still develop a liking for them. I never got enemas at all and learned about them from reading in a medical self-help book from my grandfather's library. That was enough to excite me beyond normal measure. I later went out and bought improvised bulbs and replacement items on my own, without anyone ever administering one to me. I did it my (somewhat bungling) way, all on my lonesome.

You don't really need anyone to introduce you to certain practices to develop a liking for them. But it certainly helps though and you can benefit from the other person's experience and know-how.

But still. You can see a photo, read a story or whatever and still develop an interest. I was never spanked and yet from exposure to spanking photos, drawings and stories have taken a liking to it. I can't remember being naked for a medical exam and yet here I am.

So, just saying that people can develop likings and fetishes without anyone else exposing them to it.

As the many responses to this thread are now proving, there ARE a good number of younger individuals on this site. And that's all good. I think we just don't tend to see a lot of posts and other contributions by those younger individuals, or we do and simply don't realize that they're from a younger crowd. Generally, I think the younger generations use other apps to communicate that are more immediate and less verbose. There's nothing wrong with that at all. But it means a lot of their contributions might end up somewhere else instead of here.

Good to see there are many from the younger generation with an interest. I agree with what some have said as regards changes in the last few decades. Whilst growing up, I had regular and thorough medical examinations, which ultimately sparked my interest. I beleive in America there are still annual sports physicals. Annual and periodic exams stopped in the UK many years ago. I agree you can become interested in such things from reading stories and seeing pictures and videos. Something similar will apply to spanking, I imagine.