When my wife and I were first married, and we started discussing sex, I told her I enjoyed an enema once in awhile. As me, she grew up getting enemas from her mom. two weeks into our marriage she started her period. A few days before, I got constipated as well as her. She told me an enema reduced cramping. So began the once a month ritual of each giving the other an enema. We used ivory flakes in warm water and about ¾ of a bag. On occasion, I also received enemas from my wife when needed.