"Needing" an enema

"Needing" an Enema

The most obvious time when you "need" an enema is when you are chronically constipated, have not had a bowel motion for 3 + days and in spite of your best efforts cannot have one now either.

Thats the time when my Mother would have removed the "needed" items (Perfex syringe, vaseline and 2 pint bowl) from the bathroom cupboard and proceeded to administer an enema to the person in need (or often herself) and the resolution and relief would have been obvious to whoever ended up sitting on the toilet slightly bent forward and filling the bowl with the enema outcomes.

Are there other times however when you can again "need" an enema and your mothers normal health requirements have not been reached but your rectum is calling out for the gentle insertion of your favourite treatment and the subsequent injection and outcome. You may have been considering this when actually on the toilet and outcomes have been slow to satisfy and your thoughts have turned to the content of the adjacent bathroom cupboard but you have eventually gone and the "need" disappears but returns some days later when circumstances are favourable. You may well not be badly constipated at that time but the thought of the preparation, and often slow gentle administration and evacuation seems hugely satisfying and you are in no doubt what you are going to initiate that evening.

When it is completed do you look at the outcome and decide that you "had definitely" needed that and then taken "other" action to enjoy additional relief that did not involve sitting on the toilet.

At various times in my Teen years and much later as the "administrator of choice" my Husband, lost interest in sharing the activity, I have had considerably enjoyment in this way, when I can be alone in the house for a few days and often after my enema, in a lovely warm bath with a helpful tube of lubricant readily available and the light dimmed.

Light dimmers are a wonderful addition in bathrooms I believe.

Our bathroom also has an extractor fan which adds value to the atmosphere following an enema evacuation and subsequent bath.

I would be interested to hear others response to this.

emma

With enemas, how are we supposed to separate physical from emotional needs?

Should we be doing so?

We have learned so much about how the psychological and physical interact That we MUST deal with the question, "Should enemas be used ONLY for physical needs?"

I have to agree with Lisa on this one. Sometimes I "need" an enema an hour after having a substantial natural bowel movement. My "need" has no relationship to constipation.

Thank you, ladies, for illuminating this topic. It is genuine, especially among women, and is often pooh-poohed as purely in our heads. It's not solely in our heads. There's a definite brain-gut connection that research is only beginning to uncover.

I sometimes have a physical need for an enema when I'm constipated. In simple terms, I have a sluggish lower bowel that gets bound up when I'm not exercising enough, not hydrating enough, not eating a proper diet enough, and not taking care of my stress levels enough.

Which also brings me to the emotional connection and how my colon moves stuff out of my body when I stressed. Most women get the "runs" when they're experiencing high anxiety. I'm the opposite. I get tied up inside. I do use other means first to get unbound. I don't automatically just take an enema.

Admittedly, I also on occasion feel the "need" for an emotional cleanse, and I love my enema bag for that purpose. A warm enema, with all its deep, tingly sensations, feels good. During this COVID-19 lock down, I've had a couple of times of minor depression and high anxiety. A good enema session cleaned me out and helped pick up my spirits. And I love the fact that my husband understands and is willing to give an enema if I'm feeling really down and out of sorts.

During this time, which I have written about, I am also on a regimen of monthly retention enema probiotic treatments with a naturopathic doctor -- and recently it's really helping to calm down my insides. Could this be just an emotional rather than a physical response? Maybe in part, but whatever works, because I've been battling this upset for a long time.

There have been any number of times when I have needed an enema to resolve acute constipation or to gain some relief of "period cramps". There have also been hundreds of times when I've just needed an enema to de-stress and get centered again. Either way, the physical relief and/or emotional relief is priceless and well worth the time spent.

I need an enema today, but I have a house full of workmen finishing up our bathroom remodel....but I just may break in the new bath with a magnificent enema session over the weekend!

Because I need it!

Deb

Physical and emotional needs are often intertwined or comingled. One can aid the other in overcoming the various things that afflict us from time to time.

I have found enemas to have very practical applications when dealing with physical maladies or emotional/psychological stress. The same goes for "colonics" with a hydro-therapist assisting. If a massage is combined, the outcomes are always therapeutic and satisfying. My need for chemical based medications is greatly diminished or eliminated.

There are those times that simply taking an enema(s) isn't practical or possible due to various factors. Sometimes that just amplifies the "needs" for a later session.

I needone right now! Well, truth be told, I always seem to "need" an enema.

I suffer from combat PTSD and enemas make me feel safe and secure when my wife gives them to me. Don't really know the connection, but am happy for what it does.

During really bad times I can choose between enemas and prescription meds. The meds are horrible and the enemas are famtastic! Guess which one I choose...

I needone right now! Well, truth be told, I always seem to "need" an enema.

I suffer from combat PTSD and enemas make me feel safe and secure when my wife gives them to me. Don't really know the connection, but am happy for what it does.

During really bad times I can choose between enemas and prescription meds. The meds are horrible and the enemas are famtastic! Guess which one I choose...

That's pretty remarkable - great for you. I'm a retired physician and had never heard of nor even imagined enemas being useful for PTSD. Since I'm also a lifetime klismophile, enjoying them is obvious, but this is a new application to me. I've had major depression and anxiety for years and get a brief (very brief) calm, relaxed and not as depressed feeling after a good enema either solo or with a Domme partner. Does this work for you only if your wife gives it to you, or are solo enemas any help? Your Profile suggests you had been taking enemas for a long time. Did you enjoy them before the PTSD or when and how did you discover the connection? As you mentioned treatment during some bad times, what number or schedule of enema(s) would you have her give you to be effective?

I'm very glad you have a pretty benign but effective alternative to medications.

Thanks,

Eric

P.S. Oh yes. BTW, what is your avatar?

Need, want?? Mind, gut? To me this is like peanut butter and jelly. They both go together so well. And, lets not forget the elephant in the room. The absolutely wonderful sexual connection that binds it all together. Seeing; thinking about; touching, or even reading about enemas to me is a total turn on. That's why I am an active member of this web site. I am not "into" seeing the end product or results of an enema, nor a big fan of watching or listening to someone go, all else is a positive. Couple this activity with either a good strong erection ( there's that mind thing ) or orgasm when possible, then that's why I do know I enjoy this so much. The ladies are right about the double connection and without their viewpoints, Zity would not work right at all. Once again we men are in their debt. MRay.

I sold antidepressants for years and we were taught that the human gut is Loaded with neurotransmitters, far more than exist in the brain. Most antidepressants work by increasing the neurotransmitters levels in the brain synapses . I asked one of our PhD scientists if anyone had tried getting more neurotransmitters released by stimulating the bowels. He said that it might work, but thar we were in the business of selling oral tablet medications, not selling enemas.

He never said it wouldn't work. I read accounts from folks on Zity about pleasant mood elevations from enemas? Any of you medical types have any thoughts?

@emma your husband is missing out on a very sexy time. Your description, well got me going. Dim the lights, I'm coming in 🌹

Given the over indulgence the last two days, I may be “needing” an enema or enemas over the next week. Darn! 😀

I have never needed an enema. I was never given any as a young'un. In fact my mother got a combo set from my grandmother back in the day - and threw out the adapter top and the hoses and nozzles! But I made something or other in order to take my first enemas with that bag - because I really wanted to.

I am naturally very “regular” which I attribute to nothing in particular. I do enjoy fermented foods like kimchi and that is helpful. But I eat kimchi because I love it, not to solve anything. Same with enemas. I am an amateur i.e. I participate for the love of the sport.

On the other hand when I want to take an enema it's on! I'm more concerned with what's going on up my ass then the setting or gear or whatever. It's nice to have nice things, but more important is to be scratching that itch. On the other hand, if I am not feeling it then nothing doing and no worries.

I'm uncomfortably bound up and need to take an enema this morning. I say this because there are times when my gut slows down. I took MiraLAX yesterday morning. It's always helped in the past. Still hoping.

Rob and I want to get the vaccine as soon as it's available to us, so we can get our lives back together again not be concerned about being out in public. I think the continued stress caught up with me again. Our older daughter has had GI upsets because of her employment situation. She has been with us for several months now and has been depressed at times to the point that I worry about her. She has an enema bag and has used it on occasion. She says it helps get her out of a funk.

It's been nearly 3 months since my last enema. I stopped doing the monthly probiotic Implants in December because I was doing much better.

@Vicky V - Sounds like you need to start the implants again!

@Vicki_V I took MiraLAX yesterday morning. It's always helped in the past. Still hoping.

MiraLAX followed by a full-bag soapy enema is something I wish I could do these days; but thanks to my large hernia I limit my enemas to multiple small shower-shot enemas that are no real fun (compared to the excitement I would get from seeing a budging full open-top bag with soap foaming over and hanging above me)… Years ago when I was out of work and found myself in a funk, I'd get out the enema bag as you see in my avatar and role-play alone with myself - where I'd talk out loud about how a large soapy enema is just what's needed to change my mood.

@Vicki_V and @reddevil - oh yes, when I feel depressed/in a funk, an enema session is just the thing that lightens the load.

My rectum started quivering just reading the initial post asking whether I need an enema, especially when reading the description of the enema nozzle pushing past my sphincters into my rectum. For a klismophile like me, that produces an exquisite feeling throughout my body.

As I have posted before, my mother always had a sixth sense of when I needed an enema. As I grew older, I just needed to ask and she would prepare a soapy enema for me. By age 12, I had been trained by my mother on how to mix a soapy enema and how to self administer. I find that I do, at times, need an enema. At other times I would have to suggest that taking an enema is not so much a need but more of an I want to take an enema, just because I love the feeling of warm soapy water coursing through my bowel as my belly grows bigger and the bag grows smaller. Again, as I have previously posted, I also enjoy the feeling and sounds that come when expelling the soapy water from my body. The rush of water and the sounds are telling me that the enema has done its work and that my bowels will soon be rid of the fecal matter and toxins that have been building up.

I ‘need’ one if my colon feels clogged up, unable to rid the waste like it is supposed to do. Back in December, I was prepping for a colonoscopy and after the chemical prep was over (I wasn't expelling anything by 2:00 am), I still felt bloated, like my gut was still holding on to whatever was left. I really felt the ‘need’ for an enema then. I got out of bed and broke out the 5 quart bag. Filled it up, laid on the floor, and let the flow start. I did two enemas that night, and felt much better afterward. I was able to rest before the procedure, which also helped calm my nerves.

So yeah, the ‘need’ is there.

Hmmmm, real interesting question. “Needing an enema vs.Wanting an enema”. I think I've only physically needed an enema the few times when my baby doctor told my mother to “Give him an enema to bring his fever down and I'll be there shortly”. Back in those days doctors made house calls. So I could say that I needed an enema per the doctor. That's the only time I think I legitimately “needed” and enema. So all the other thousands (guesstimate) of enemas I've taken had to fall into the category of “I want an enema". Now I will say that I need an enema meaning I want one so badly that it really was a need. We all have felt that way at one time or another most probably. I mean you'd been without one long enough that want really did turn in to need. As a matter of fact, I think I NEED an enema(s) right now. I'm sure it would feel just wonderful.

For me it is difficult to separate need from want or crave an enema. I alkso factor in wehn I have private time and take advantage of that. Sometimes private time does not align with want or craving.

@Vicky V - Sounds like you need to start the implants again!

Yep. My doctor recommends increasing my exercise regimen and doing a daily meditation to reduce stress (duh!), B-12 boosts if my blood work is down, and getting back to taking probiotic enemas twice a month. She wants me to have a colonic to totally clean me out before beginning the probiotic therapy. Not sure if I'll do this – I haven't had a colonic since my mid-30s. I liked the therapists, both RNs and great nurses, and they had a knack for making me comfortable putting a speculum in my behind. I was very emotional, having GI pain and a lot of pressure trying to be Super Woman while completing my master's program, so I'd have a good cry during the colonic. It was good therapy from the nurses, but I got through it (and my degree!) with lots of support from my husband and family.

Ok, I'll admit that for me its almost always a ‘want’. @sirensong thinks I'm a ‘bad boy’ ……. And she's right! 😈

But seriously the ‘want’ is not the enema, it is for the love and intimacy that goes with the enema when it is administered by one's lover.

In the last years I'm often being constipated, and if I am, I definitely need an enema. It's usually once or two times a week, when my dear boyfriend helps me with my lazy bowel movements and gives me a pair of nice high soapy enemas. There are times I could maybe do without them, if I just push hard enough, drink a lot of water and massage my belly. But really, I don't even want to try, since it's much nicer just to be relaxed and lie on your back, feel the warm water slowly flow inside you and feel my partner's love. For me it's a real sensual bonding experience which never gets old, so there's also the physical need.

(just a quick upd - in the last sentence it should be, of course, the psychological need :-))

But really, I don't even want to try, since it's much nicer just to be relaxed and lie on your back, feel the warm water slowly flow inside you and feel my partner's love. For me it's a real sensual bonding experience which never gets old, so there's also the physical need.

@Timsproperty - your comment, for me, captured the essence of why I take enemas.

Constipation is not fun, stool softeners, laxatives, mostly don't work. And, over time I seem to build up an immunity to them. Then there still is the agonizing time on the toilet, sitting, pushing, relaxing, pushing, many times with no results, or success and a stuffed toilet. Then, there are the accompanying aliments, hemorrhoids, fishers, discomfort, even bleeding.

And, you perfectly described the sensual aspect, bonding, pleasure experience, and health and comfort of enemas.

Thank you 🌹

Thank you, @eeetime ! Right, there's just no point choosing the hard time-consuming way, straining and pushing with no result, the helplessness which comes with that, because you never know if and when the stuff decides to go out. It's much better to turn it into the pleasurable experience, where you know for sure you will get a relieve with no straining at all. Just relaxing and enjoying through the whole process.

@Timsproperty - my biggest constipation fear is running out of reading material! How many times can I look at the same catalogs. 😉

PS when the mail comes with new things to read, I get excited, as I know there may be hope 🌹