Feel embarrassed during gynecologic axam

Hello,

Do you feel embarrassed and nervous when you go to the gynecologist?

If you do not, how do you manage your anxiety, shyness?

Thank you.

A bit of both? For me the fetish aspect was born of pretty intense anxiety, I guess I thought about it so much due to nerves that I ended up becoming a bit too into it. I tend to get very uh.. excited with anticipation so my primary worry is that the doc will notice and think anything of it. Hoping it can be explained away as a weird nervous reaction and less of a 'this feels very weird but also good to me'.

Regardless, there are lots of medical training videos out there that give you a realistic sense of what to expect. The whole thing rarely takes longer than a few minutes. Unless it's a play exam then I suspect it would take as long as you want haha

Let me know if you figure it out. I’m terrified.

I can't say I'm ever embarrassed or shy about my doctor or gyno appointments. It's nothing they haven't seen before and they're only going to look, and maybe stick a finger or some tools in.

Plenty of women have seen my vagina and ass and that's when I'm having fun! Why would I be troubled by a girl taking a look? I just go right in, answer her questions, tell her any problems and get the exam done. Only thing is that everyone else has to work to see my lady bits...

Let me know if you figure it out. I’m terrified.

Definitely valid, I think being honest with your doctor and telling them you are nervous, saying that it is all new to you helps. When I said that my doc was really intentional about explaining what was happening and what touches to expect where. For what it’s worth, I’d be wary of any descriptions you find here as folks may exaggerate due to the nature of the site (not all do but, if you don’t know it may be hard to distinguish, especially if your anxious)

I honestly am always apprehensive about going and maybe a little embarrassed but I love looking back on it later.

On my first visit to the gynec at my first annual at 23 there was a bit of nervous excitement. Mom had told me what to expect. I wasn't scared though.

I am not embarrassed even now. One because she is a lady. Secondly she is a doctor doing her job.

I am not an exhibitionist. Don't get me wrong there. But I don't feel embarrassed either. When she is doing pelvic exam I close my eyes and breathe deeply. It also helps me distract from the discomfort.

I think mom prepared me well for gyn exams so I don't feel embarrassed about them.

I find the whole thing to be fairly embarrassing. I see this doctor once a year. She’s not my friend. I have to discuss with her how many people I’ve slept with. What protection I used. Any issues related to that. Its hard to discuss that without feeling judged.

Then you get naked. The doctor is going to feel your breasts. Sure she’s probably not judging them for symmetry and how saggy they are. But that’s what in my mind.

Oh hey. Now I have to shove my vagina in your face? Please don’t judge my grooming habits. Oh now your going to pry me up. Ughhhhh I hope it doesn’t smell or something.

It only goes downhill from there. You are going to put two fingers in me? And then put one in my ass? There are very few people that know the face I make when something goes up my butt. My doctor is one of them.

The exam isn’t supposed to be sexual, but everything about it is. The exam doesn’t feel sexy, but they are still touching some very private sexual places. It’s still embarrassing for me to show those places to a stranger.

And on top of that the older I get the more I freak out something bad will be found.

But that’s ok because after it’s done I get to come here and tell you all about it while touching myself. So that makes it all worth it, right?

I feel always embarrassed und nervous there

I often feel a range of different emotions before, during and after a gynecologic exam - apprehension, nervousness, embarrassment, humiliation, shame, relief, confusion and arousal have been and still are for me, all part of a thorough gynecologic examination...

When I go to a REAL gynecologist appointment, I am slightly nervous. My gynecologist is a female and it’s strictly business in my mind. She’s completely professional and I’m just trying to make sure I don’t have any problems and then get out of there. But it’s still a little unnerving.

In a PLAY exam, I am nervous but for all different reasons. Good reasons.

Not every time, and trust me because of a chronic condition I have had more than my share, but there have been some occasions where I have felt as shy and embarrassed as a virgin on her wedding night.

While the initial level of embarrassment fades off a bit after you’ve been through a couple well-woman exams, there’s always some degree of embarrassment there in my experience.

Even after having been through several exams in my lifetime, to this day I’m still most embarrassed when it comes time to put my feet in the stirrups and slide ALL the way down the exam table. Stirrups are awkward in their own way - they give you a gown and a sheet to help you preserve your modesty, and then the stirrups take away all of that modesty in an instant. It’s an awkward, slightly embarrassing position to be in, and no matter what you do your private parts are going to be on full display when you’re in them.

There’s so much going on in my mind when I first get into that position and the doctor rolls over on his rolling stool seemingly only inches away from my private areas. Often times he is still making small talk about the rain storm last night or some other topic to try to divert my attention. All the while I’m fully aware that he is up close and personal with my most private areas. It is so revealing and will always be somewhat embarrassing for me.

I have to agree with what @Amanda_O and @Lauren92 both said, I can relate so much to what they think and how they feel. So well said!!

I know logically that my gynecological well woman exam is not that big of a deal, it's a routine professional medical exam that is important and necessary for my health.

But I also know how it makes me feel emotionally, to receive such a personal and intimate examination. Despite having had numerous exams I still feel nervous leading up to my appointment and exam, even while sitting there and waiting for the knock on the door. Yes I still get embarrassed during the examination too, although not to the same level as I did at my first or first few gyn exams.

Your first is the one that is most embarrassing and gives you the most anxiety. The level of embarrassment and anxiety drop down as you get more exams in life but it is always there. You are exposing your most intimate area to a physician that will have their face and nose close to your most intimate area. You wonder if you smell well down there or did you wipe well down there. Yes, you know they see many women a day but you still feel some embarrassment and anxiety.

I think for anyone there is some level of anxiety associated with these types of exams. We are taught to be modest and that our genitals are private from a young age.

What's written in the previous post by @esallost is absolutely correct. That's how it is mostly

For my only real exam, being my first, I wasn't scared or anxious at all. But that doesn't mean I was looking forward to it.

I was 21. Had missed my period for first time. Mom asked me to get checked.

I just took it as just another exam

I was too stressed at that time about something else already, so exam fear or anxiety wasn't there at all