Why is douching erotic for some.

We all know about the erotic effect and impact of the enema, whether we are male or female. Equally, it is on obvious that for some, a woman douching is also a turn on (men only I expect). When first married I used a diaphragm and spermicide for contraception, and as advised, douched before and after removing it. Frankly, I found it a drudge, and far from erotic. My questions are these: do some women find douching erotic, or is it only men? If so why - both sexes please. Also, if an enema is a turn on, why not a douche? After all, it is also a penetrative and intimate act.

Any thoughts on this please. It is something of a puzzle (nearly said enigma) to me.

Regards

Delia

My girlfriend enjoys douching with a bulb syringe seated on the toilet or, more often in the shower. Often I will give her the douche while she lies down slowly inserting the nozzle into her and holding her lips closed to slowly fill her pussy with warm herbal water while she or I lightly touch her clit previously lubricated with a warming lubricant or touched with a piece of ginger and then allowing the douche to gush out, repeating this until the bag is empty. She enjoys masturbating while she douches and I enjoy masturbating her even more while giving her a douche. Afterwards we often make love, so for us douching is a very sensual experience. As my girlfriend reclines in the bathtub we sometimes combine giving her a warm herbal enema with a warm herbal douche ending in a tremendous enemorgasm.

Because it involves hard object penetration of the vagina, and the spraying of fluid about 4 or 5 inches up.

How can that not be to some degree erotic?

I would equate the erotic appeal of douching to that of brushing your teeth. You feel clean when you are done but little else.

Good question. I like gals watching gals douche, but I like seeing enemas better. While the gals I've know all douched, none were into it for pleasure. On that score, only one was into enemas, but only marginally.

I did not douche regularly, and when I did, it was mostly just because I wanted to. Maybe to prepare for oral sex?

Anyway, I think douching is like enemas. If you have to do it, it is not fun. But if you are doing it just because you want to do it, it can be great. I think this goes double if you have someone do it to you. Yes, I think men are more turned on than we are, but sometimes we do things for them. Don't we?

For me, it's not the douching part that's particularly erotic. It's the equipment. Those of us that would sneak enemas back in the '50s and 60's knew mom's douche bulb or those black douche nozzles in the family fountain enema syringe box were perfect for a young teen's crazy enema/masturbation activities. And today whenever I see pics of vintage douche equipment I always think "enema" not "douche".

One of the most erotic experiences I have ever had happened just a few days ago:

I was in the bathroom ready to take a bath at the end of a long day where I had to be both a telecommute worker, on a busy day and a teacher, because the online program devised by the school just confused things.

I didn't know exactly where my husband was, but I knew he needed to get ready for bed as well.

I got to the sink, and was ready to brush my teeth when my husband rips open the door to the shower, drags me in( Yeah, I'm 5 ft 11 but HE is 6 ft 7 and IS capable of forcing me.) I didn't put up much resistance after the initial surprise.

He had prepared one of the HWB-style bags that looked like one of the 2-Imperial qt bags from the basement. It was BULGING and had an old-style curved douche nozzle with a i-inch bulb shaped flare at the end!

The way the shower is built there is a permanent bench on one side, and he essentially pushed me onto that bench.

He took the hose from that bag, and held it by the part where the nozzle and hose meet. He held it right at eye-level to me straight up in the air and just said, "Spread your knees!" I said, "wait, whet's in it?" He said, "just vinegar and table salt! You KNOW i'll never HURT you!, Now knees apart!"

I have to admit, I STILL am not sure how someone who has been through two pregnancies can still get THAT tight, but it happened. Last time I was that tight was on our wedding night when he removed the corset I had under my wedding gown!!

I spread my knees and leaned back.

I will let your imagination run wild from there, but it was probably the most thrilling thing that has happened to me since we learned we were going to be parents. Even bigger than when we found out it was twins!"

I find it erotic. I'm a cuckold male in chastity . I help my wife prepare for a date , hair make up , clothes , etc. After she leaves , I set up the double bag in her bathroom, and place vinegar next to it, so when she gets home she can clean herself. The thought of her in the bathroom doing that excites me, but being locked in a cb6000s , their is not much I can do about it, except fantasize about it.

To me it just so obvious that the douche with a bulb syringe mirrors a penis,( raging hard)a set of testicles, (full of warm sperm)...entering the most wonderful area of a ladies bits. Squeezing the bulb simulates ejaculation.

As a. klismo, the equipment is also a dimension of sexuality that is a turn on.

Unfortunately, not happening here at home, so must rely on porn sites to enjoy the experience.

Why??

C'mon now!

It's object penetration of the vagina!

If that's not erotic, what is?

Hi Lisa,

I take your point entirely. however, whilst I know and fully understand that men find the notion of a woman taking a douche erotic, I was really interested in how women who were actually having a douche felt. I never found it erotic - rather a chore, but then it is quite because of the circumstances- removing a diaphragm after sex. I don’t know if any other women shared my view, or in fact, found it an erotic stimulant themselves

Delia

Just an unenlightened or at least unqualified male opinion, but from what I've read, some women find PIV sex very pleasant and erotic and can even frequently orgasm from it, while at the other end other women go so far as to be anal-only, having abandoned a pretty boring or unpleasant PIV. I'm sure a woman's enjoyment of PIV is multifactorial and not simple to characterize, but I imagine that any sort of enjoyment or arousal or sexual satisfaction from douching would be similarly complex. I'm not surprised that there's a spectrum of female opinion about enjoying douching.

Eric

I've always thought that a woman douching is very erotic. Before bedtime my girlfriend and I would shower together and towel each other dry. Then she would get her bulb douche syringe out of the cabinet and fill it at the sink, sometimes adding either Demure or Cupid's quiver douche liquid and screw on the soft white nozzle and shield. Then she's spread her legs and straddle the bidet, spread her lower lips, and slowly slide in the nozzle as I watched, sometimes with me cupping her breasts.

After a moment or two, she'd squeeze the bulb and give a little moan and soon withdraw the nozzle and very soon there after we'd be off to bed, with her being 'sweet' for play.

Redbulb's position is quite similar to mine. As a child, the enema/douche equipment that was prominently displayed at home, was utilized for a multitude of functions. This was sort of a "multi-tasking" effort. Concerns about cross contamination were not as significant in those days. We all got our enemas from the same rubber implements that were utilized for douching. As our inquisitive minds discovered the sexual implications related to douching (contraception), and the sensual/sexual reactions to getting an enema, both had some erotic appeal.

Whether the long black bulbous nozzle was inserted vaginally or anally, the visualizations were quite similar. While we guys may have misinterpreted the sensual aspects, seeing the equipment used was quite the turn on.

I have posted often about my equipment fetish. It never mattered what the intended use entailed. My enema paraphilia (klismaphilia), is something related, but not necessarily independent of my personal enjoyment of seeing a woman douching. If she is using some of that "old-fashioned" rubber equipment, I can be quite attentive.

I have said that I was quite jealous, or envious, that a gal can own, purchase, and even display such items without scorn or negative judgement. We guys were always thought of as weird or perverted for enjoyment of such things.

That a few opportunities arise now and then, to avail services to those who also have dispelled those negative notions, I feel quite fortunate. I have also enjoyed the TLC and pampering that a quart or two of simple solution can enhance. On those occasions when a very "Happy Ending" is involved, I say all of you should "Just Do It". You might become hooked on the simple process and procedure.

To me, no its not an erotic act as such. If im douching after sex (so not leaking cum on my way to work etc) then yeah it can feel a little nice as still sensitive from being fucked but the act itself is not erotic to me.

If douching at tail end of period then no to me its not erotic at all, no more then inserting a tampon.

I have used them from teen years, yes i guess you could try to have masterbated with the nozzle but you had hairbrush handles and alike for that.

I find it erotic in the right situation.

Apparently my Mom felt the same, because her complaint about it seemed to center around the FREQUENCY with which her mother insisted she do it. Not so much with the act itself. The read I get is that less often she might have enjoyed it. That's certainly the case with me.

I'm sure it would not be erotic if I was pushed to do it weekly as she was, or even consistently every month.

We have used it in foreplay and likely will again. It is the most erotic part that does not occur during actual connection!

WHY?

How can you determine a thing like that??

@ddell2

I would equate the erotic appeal of douching to that of brushing your teeth. You feel clean when you are done but little else.

It always depends on what you use the toothbrush for. . . with the shower it’s similar. . .

Always found it erotic to watch a gal douche using a vintage black spray nozzle attached to a 2qt or larger douche bag. Also makes for great photography with the water spaying as the nozzle goes and out using different shutter speeds for effects.. Having sunshine shine in on the shower stall and captured by the droplets was also nice.

Douching per se is the total purview of women . I as a man cannot ' douche ' as per the definition and as one would first give thought when we hear the term . That women can and do insert an object into their vaginas other than a male penis has always been an ' erotic ' act from my perspective . I recall the ' douche / enema syringe ' in our home and it took me a few years to learn that the syringe had another use by my mother other than just for my , and also her , enemas . I was made more aware of that fact when my mother removed the ' adult rectal nozzle ' from our ' enema ' bag and threaded on a ' douche nozzle ' for my ' rinse enema ' as I matured . I have enjoyed seeing and assisting a few women as they did a ' vaginal douche ' by ' holding the bag ' while they so expertly manipulated the long , bulbous ' douche pipe ' in and out of their waiting vaginas . Yes ….. as a man I do find a women douching an ' erotic ' experience .

Delia, when you said “...penetrative and intimate...,” you pretty well covered why douching is erotic to me. Years ago, my young wife often allowed me to participate when she douched, and described the pleasant sensations of the warm water going in and draining back out. I found it very arousing to insert the douche tip, hold it in place, gently move it around, and, especially, to instruct her when to withhold the water for a few moments and then release it in a gush.

It all started for me when I was about 15. There was a girl in my neighborhood who is also 15. She was telling me a story about her first douche that was given to her by her mother. She said that she was about 12 years old. She also told me that she sounded sexually erotic, because her mother was shoving that thing in her in her vagina. This story totally turned me on, and I still know the woman today. She has daughters of her own now, who are just as stunning and beautiful as she was