Does anyone like when their partner helps them masturbate?

Does anyone like when their partner "helps" masturbate them?

What exactly does "help" mean in this context? The question is unclear.

Do you mean to ask members if their partner masturbates them? Or are you talking about some other kind of help, visual stimulus or whatever?

What exactly does "help" mean in this context?

Ditto. What is helping? In general, yes, it's great fun, but be more specific.

Eric

Likewise if you mean a handjob, what’s not to like? I feel almost nostalgic about them, somewhere along the decades women learned that men preferred blowjobs and handjobs seem to have become like VHS video recorders, a fondly remembered but unused relic of the past.

Partly they work well because ladies never quite do them right, or at least not quite as the man would do them himself, but that’s also the attraction; it’s a different touch. Like they’re trying to change gear in an unfamiliar old car.

My S.O. would massage my nuts or better grab them and pull on them(my favorite).

Definitely, my wife will massage my perenium by rubbing it up and down. She then presses down hard on the prostate gland through the perenium while I masturbate myself. Incredible multiple orgasms since I control most of the feeling by telling her when to push. She plans to smooth out one of her nails in order to finger me through my rectum. Can't wait.

I frequently "help" my husband masturbate. Sometimes I do all the stroking, other times I finger his asshole, give him an enema, massage or suck on his balls, or pull on his ribcage from the inside when I fist him.

Yes I love it. My ex girlfriend didnt like giving head and wasnt too good at it. But she was amazing with her hands. OMG could she tug and stroke. Feels way better then my own hands.

I would be surprised if we got an honest, not sarcastic reply in this thread that they did NOT like their partner to "help" them masturbate.

Yes, but she has not done that to me in years. She finds it is more humiliating to me if she makes me do it to myself , while tling me how small and useless it is, and telling me about her boyfriends which are very ample.

@toni_78 said

. . . . Yes, but she has not done that to me in years. She finds it is more humiliating to me if she makes me do it to myself . . . . ,

When my boyfriend/husband and I were in high school, we used masturbating together as a means to teach the other exactly what we liked and to expand our sexual repertoire. Being a teacher is the antithesis of someone to be humiliated.

@toni_78 said

Yes, but she has not done that to me in years. She finds it is more humiliating to me if she makes me do it to myself , while telling me how small and useless it is, and telling me about her boyfriends which are very ample.

Whether you want to be humiliated or held in esteem depends on your intent and whether or not you "own" what you are doing. As I have mentioned in the past, my husband giving me an enema is NOT a matter of me submitting most of the time. I TELL HIM to give me an enema. There are times I WANT to be tied up, so I tell my husband to do it and then I let him run the rest of the show. Or the time I was coaxed into playing the game, "under the blanket" when I was 14 at a party, I didn't really want to be naked in front of 30 of my boy and girl school mates, but I thought I looked good and it was inevitable, so I just did it--I had no expectations and no complaints from me either. I OWNED IT and that impressed everybody and that made it very easy to do things like that again and again.

When I had a wife or GF in the past, I used to like it a lot. In fact my 2nd ex-wife used to want to know whenever I wanted to masturbate so she could help me or at least watch so she felt included in all aspects of my sex life. We were both switches and alternated giving each other Domme/sub enemas as part of our sexuality. When I was the sub receiving an enema mixed with our other kinks from her as Domme, she at various times would either deny me orgasms or at infrequent times let me have one but she always wanted to help me do it, which I really enjoyed. She was very good at being the Domme and also specifically at masturbating me to orgasms with me holding an enema wearing fetish clothes (for us = rubber suits and sneakers).

Doing even vanilla enemas as part of sexual foreplay, arousal and kink play is always pleasant and exciting, but adding the D/s dynamic to our enema play sessions just adds another layer of enjoyment and intensity to it. And as part of that, when I was the enema sub, I really enjoyed us playing it as very embarrassing and humiliating to me to make it even more intense. The key was and is being as intensely kinky and humiliating as we could make it with each other, but knowing it was strictly between only the two of us. She'd force me to be completely covered in skintight hot sweaty black latex, thick rubber sneakers, hood and gloves, and then make me hold large enemas for many hours as she made me do various household plus sexual tasks. My physical ordeal was made even more intense and submissive by her narrating most of the time, talking me into feeling as used and humiliated as possible by accentuating how I must do everything she demanded. After our final orgasms, we'd go back to being "normal" equal partners but then enjoy talking about how much we enjoyed what we had done to each other depending on whether we were Dom(me) or sub that day.

In general for me, having a partner interested and enthusiastic enough in wanting to help me masturbate was an intense way to express love, and in reverse as well. Great fun, of course, and win-win. ?

Eric

Actually, I really do like a good hand job from my wife. She's exceptionally good at it (I have told her so) and I received them quite regularly when we were dating. Once we began to have regular sex, they pretty much stopped. She's not a real fan of blowjobs, and her not too often attempts have been "a swing and a miss" shall we say. I put that idea out of my head a long time ago. Things have slowed down now in our later years but it really would be a treat to get one of her fabulous hand jobs once in a while...

Yes it's very pleasant to have the wife help or do it fully. I tell her she is good but continues to need more practice.

I love masturbating with a partner. Doesn't matter if it is watching them masturbate, them watching me or helping each other. This is something I love doing!

I lay on my back with knees bent and she massages my balls while I begin to masturbate. She then massages my perineum , then focuses on two fingers massaging and putting pressure on my prostate gland externally. I stroke very fast. When I am ready to climax , I say , “ I’m going to cum!”

She presses hard on prostate with 2 fingers as I spurt. She pushes until I am finished dripping.

At other times, she does another technique. I get on my elbows and knees. She sits behind me and pulls down on my balls and massage while I reach back and masterbate. Sometimes puts on a glove , puts KY gel glob on finger, lubes my anus and pushes finger up my rectum all the way and massages my prostate by curling finger down on it. I again tell her when I am climaxing and she pushes down on gland and pulls down on balls. She again holds finger down on prostate till I finish dripping. Put a towel under me, it seems that the volume of seman ejaculated is increased with this technique.

I definitely enjoy it when my wife helps me masturbate. Love the feeling of a hand job. When we first got together and she caught me masturbating, she asked if she could watch. If visa is yes and very soon came from the excitement. She then asked if she could do it to me next time. The next time when I was excited and ready to masturbate she asked if she could do it. She said she didn't know what to do so could I teach her. That first time was quite exhilarating and she learned to give a very good hand job. She also liked to watch and see how hard I would cum. As we got older I have ended up masturbating on my own but when she does help it is a lot more enjoyable.

My wife enjoys wanking my cock and pulling my balls as do I. Sometimes I take over if she is distracted by her Womanizer and squirt or we fuck

I thoroughly enjoy a good handjob from my wife, she’s great at it! Especially like it when she massages my balls at the same time.

Absolutely. Love it when it is least expected.

I used to love to get on my bed naked knowing my partner was on her way home so she could catch me masturbating. Like when I caught my older sister masturbating when I was 12 and she was 14. It sort of brings back memories. After she showed me what to do and talked me into it I had to show my best friend. By the way, the reason my sister talked me into it is so I would not snitch to mom. My best friend and I would masturbate together. Then help each other but we never inserted even fingers past the hymen.

My ex when I was bi I hated to help him and I sure did not like him helping me. This was before I caught him cheating. I mean I sort of knew. It would take forever switching from right hand to left hand and back over and over until he had an orgasm. One time I was helping him before he had to leave for work and it was taking forever. I pushed a finger in his butt (which he hated. He never minded trying to put fingers in my ass or his penis) I was doing it so fast and hard (because that is the only way to get him to cum and how he liked it) that when it came out it was flipping. It hit his hair, forehead, and an eye. He just wiped it off and went to work. Gross. When he would masturbate me he was rough and I would always have to stop him. He would be rubbing my clit so hard.

But my female partners are a whole different story. Sometimes we would be masturbating in front of each other and then we would end up doing it to each other. It just that women seem to know how to touch each other.

In short, my answer is yes.

The same answer to this question is the one I give about others giving me enemas - I only like it when the person does it because it turns them on, rather than doing it to please me. Doing it to please me is a turn off.

It can enhance the masturbation experience with my sub there helping. Almost as good as having him fuck me, but not quite the same.

With his health issues this is the best way that I can orgasm. With him there he can be a part, by my side to be a part of it.

We both enjoy that.

The same answer to this question is the one I give about others giving me enemas - I only like it when the person does it because it turns them on, rather than doing it to please me. Doing it to please me is a turn off.

It's usually pleasurable to the receiver and a turn on for the giver. Sometimes, it's just OK to please your partner. That's called a relationship - it goes both ways. There are times when one partner is horny and the other isn't but they should oblige them whether they are in the mood or not. Doing it simply to please your partner is a sign of a strong relationship - not a turn-off. This has been discussed over and over in the sexless marriage thread.

My favorite is to rub a huge squirt of baby oil on each of our genitals and softly rub each other until we have cum. The first time we did this it was after a long day and we were laying in bed too tired for intercourse. Now we like it almost as much as sex.

It's usually pleasurable to the receiver and a turn on for the giver. Sometimes, it's just OK to please your partner. That's called a relationship - it goes both ways. There are times when one partner is horny and the other isn't but they should oblige them whether they are in the mood or not. Doing it simply to please your partner is a sign of a strong relationship - not a turn-off. This has been discussed over and over in the sexless marriage thread.

Sorry - disagree.... It feels like charity when the doer is doing it to please me, no matter how good her intentions... I'm happy and flattered she will, but don't need it like that and don't want it... She's got to be really into it, got be into wanting to see my prick swell up bigger than ever and explode and shoot like crazy... Same with getting a BJ..

Sorry - disagree.... It feels like charity when the doer is doing it to please me, no matter how good her intentions... I'm happy and flattered she will, but don't need it like that and don't want it... She's got to be really into it, got be into wanting to see my prick swell up bigger than ever and explode and shoot like crazy... Same with getting a BJ..

We all have different levels of enjoyment. Agree with what you describe as being ideal when both partners are into it. That's hot monkey sex. But there have been times when I was tired and not interested (albeit not very often) and my wife needed it that I stuck out my tongue and wiggled it for her. Vice versa. It didn't feel like charity to either of us - really just love for the other person. Very few times did we not accommodate each other. I know it's different for everybody so no judgement - just what worked for us.

She's got to be really into it, got be into wanting to see my prick swell up bigger than ever and explode and shoot like crazy... Same with getting a BJ..

So, just how big is your prick and are you bragging? 😄

So, just how big is your prick and are you bragging? 😄

Funny thing, I always thought I was average plus size, but honestly I'm average minus size. 😢

@reddevil said

Sorry - disagree.... It feels like charity when the doer is doing it to please me, no matter how good her intentions... I'm happy and flattered she will, but don't need it like that and don't want it... She's got to be really into it, got be into wanting to see my prick swell up bigger than ever and explode and shoot like crazy... Same with getting a BJ..

My husband and I don't feel that way. It's not charity at all.

We love getting each other off, and that includes times when one of us asks the other to jerk us off or go down on the other as well as the times when we just walk into a room and tell the other to take their pants off and be prepared for an orgasm.

A case in point I posted about here was when my husband came into the TV room at the peak of Covid-19, dropped his pants and asked me for a blow job. He smiled and said Covid was a respiratory infection, NOT a venereal disease. I smiled, licked my lips and gave him a blowjob. No inconvenience, nothing to clean up, and we were both very happy!

Sometimes that will set the stage for a quickie and we race for the bedroom if we aren't already there.

We're both really easy to coax into sexual activity.