18”dildo

I been trying to get a 18”double headed dildo all the way in my ass but can only get about 8-9” Any advice

8 to 9 inches is about at the top of the rectum, where the large intestine turns to become the sigmoid. To get up beyond that a toy needs to bend and your muscles need to be relaxed. Keep on trying, try different positions, make sure you are relaxed, and don't force very hard.

Do I need to do a enema first

8 to 9 inches is about at the top of the rectum, where the large intestine turns to become the sigmoid. To get up beyond that a toy needs to bend and your muscles need to be relaxed. Keep on trying, try different positions, make sure you are relaxed, and don't force very hard.

Do I need to do a enema first

If you do not, you will encounter shit. Your choice.

As said before, enema(s) to get cleaned-up round the corner.

Then loads of lube.

Then a bit more lube.

Relax, go gently on yourself and try lots of different angles.

For example, Try on all fours with your head down and bum in the air - it can help relax your guts some more as you try and ease.

Or lying on your back, legs spread but supported on a chair or edge of the bath, so your core is less tense and potentially more accommodating as a result.

Have fun.

When I play, and plan to go deep, I always do an enema. Actually I do 4 times a 2 qt bag, so at the last bag I am all clear.

To go past the 90 degree turn of the sigmoid you have to be relaxed. Also the angle of penetration and your body makes a difference.

The softer the material of the dildo is, the easier it goes in, Its more bendable.

When you get to the "wall" feeling like you reached the end of the rectum, you will have to turn into the sigmoid. Try rotating the dildo a little and pushing in and out movements for like 1 inch, until it goes in.

Easier said than done. It took me a long time to learn to insert trough the sigmoid, and learn the feelings/sensations you experience alone the way.

Now my best, currently the only way , to insert past the sigmoid, is to sit on my knees and work the toy in, twist and turn, until it goes. Pay attention to the feelings, if you hurt stop. Don't force, try later.

I can not always get all my toys in, I have probably 8 long toys, anal snakes, double headers and the slink. The 1 inch thick snake and 12 inch (?) double header are pretty much always guaranteed to fit. Hey, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, being relaxed makes a difference. I can not insert them on demand, so to speak.

My advise is to try a little by little over time, don't set your mind to getting it done tonight. And yes, use lots of lube.

Happy playing, Hugs, Erin

Bending your legs up in whatever position you are in also helps to relax the puborectal sling and the other muscles in the area.

How do you know when you are past the bend

How long does it usually take to get past the bend

There’s no one answer to how long it’ll take. Sorry, but it’s down to your internal layout and how you get on with your toys.

You’ll know when you’re in as the resistance you were feeling up to that moment will quickly ease as the dildo head and shaft line up with the colon and the head slips up a few cm for a tiny movement at you butt hole. After this if you’re comfortable, then pushing gently up with your dildo should slide the head and body an equal amount further into your guts. Feels fantastic. If there’s more resistance, you might need to clean out again- check the tip of your toy rather than push on through it. You could really damage yourself if you’re not cautious

How deep before the bend

The top of the rectum is usually about 8-9 inches from the anus.

Bearing down can help straighten and relax things as well. Constant gentle pressure on the toy can be good too. It will probably feel very odd the first time something slides up, so don't push too fast, just let it go up another inch or two and wait some.

Is it normal to bleed a little bit after going deep for the first time I didn’t force anything

A shit loaded colon is gritty and the grit, along with poor lubrication will cause bleeding.

If you are well cleaned out, the dildo will slide very smoothly with no grit to cause friction and bleeding.

There is no reason to have any bleeding of you are well cleaned and lubricated.

What is the best lube to use a gel are water based

What is the best lube to use a gel are water based

Water is fine and work with everything, but you have to reapply as it dry

Silicone doesn't need to be reapplied, but will destroy silicone toys

Oil will dissolve latex (Condom) and is hard to clean

Water is recommended for beginners

I been using water based but I guess I’m not reapplying it enough seems to get dry

@Bobbo, You keep drying out using KY type gel? I get a proper depth enema, use a single finger to get opened up wet, and slide an 18" double header nearly all the way in no problem! No lube! Ok, a saliva wetting of the tip. Some lube. I have 2 diameter double headers. Can get the larger in as deep as the smaller. To the depth that the head is still exposed.

When I take either one out I still can't believe that much of those things were inside me. Freaking awesome!

You can try using a syringe as a "lube shooter" to put some lubricant directly in the rectum, this helps sometimes. Also I find using an enema before leaves the rectum a bit "wet" and thins out the mucous some.

Check with your toy manufacturer, some quality silicone toys work OK with quality silicone lube.

If you're doing a lot of thrusting the lube can dry out, and adding more lube can make it sticky. Misting with water can help here.

I would certainly endorse using a lube shooter. Hubby and I use one when we are playing with our Slink and it makes all the difference. Sufficient lube is the key to an enjoyable butt play session (that and being clean). Getting the lube where it's needed is what the lube shooter does. In my experience, you can lube the outside of the anus and into the rectum as far as your fingers will go, but if you're planning to go deeper, you need the lube to go deeper, too!

They're relatively inexpensive, easy to find and even fun to use!

Have fun and play safe!

Deb

@moliere said

. . . . . Also I find using an enema before leaves the rectum a bit "wet" and thins out the mucous some.

You mean MUCUS. That's the noun.

MUCOUS is an adjective

Is it normal to bleed a little bit after going deep for the first time I didn’t force anything

Bleeding is not normal, @Bobbo . Pay close attention to what @SwitchableSusie said. It's necessary to be clean inside before you start.

Do at least one good enema to make that happen, but two are better, and more won't hurt--up to the point where you get sore. Most can do two or three and then fully empty without getting sore. Use very warm water and your rectum, colon & sigmoid will relax a bit, which helps with insertion. Prep is everything with deep insertions.

I find the easiest position for insertion (for me) is lying on my side, then twisting so I'm almost on my back with one leg up. I'm left handed, so it's my right side. Once again, DO NOT FORCE. If you're positioned right, your toy will slide It's almost like it "pops" in. It's a weird feeling at first, but VERY addictive. I know there are people who just "shove the toy in & hope for the best," but if you watch ANY video that shows this, the toy comes out clean when they remove it, because the actress or actor did enemas first. "Get clean, THEN get stuffed..." I have a dildo / enema nozzle that's about a foot long. Once I have a fair amount of water in me from an enema, that nozzle goes in quite easily, all the way (rectum and sigmoid expand / relax). I insert that to its hilt for enemas, and I will soon buy another longer one. The enema doesn't reach higher, of course, but the feeling of the nozzle inside is exquisite.

As others have said, get cleaned out with at least 2 enemas, preferably 3 or 4. Once cleaned out, lots of lube. I've always used petroleum jelly. Somewhere around the 7" depth is another sphincter you need to get by. If that's what's stopping you, you'll just have to learn to relax it. I've no idea how you teach yourself; but, you need to get past it. Also, be prepared to work at it regularly and one day you will be there. It isn't something that generally happens over night.

@Peesalot

As others have said, ... It isn't something that generally happens over night.

You said everything, there is no more to explain.

@Bobbo

... relax and enjoy ... That's how I do it.

Now I got to about 11 inch but still can’t get it all the way in

@Bobbo, you're getting there! Leg position etc to get the right angle and slow, steady pressure. Continued good luck

Now I got to about 11 inch but still can’t get it all the way in

As mentioned earlier, it will take some time. I honestly don't recall specifics; but, I'm pretty sure it took me about 3 months of almost daily anal play to get all 18" in me. It probably took another 6 months before I could keep it in without holding it in place with a finger while laying down. After that it was another several months before I could walk around while holding it in.

In the meantime, work, work and work some more at it. All you will do is make slow progress and have a heck of a time exploring your anal pleasures until that day it POPS all the way in. Think of the reward your ass will feel when that happens. lol!

This is a very informative thread. I am very much into anal play but have never went deep. I have been very interested in how to do it and this thread answered a lot of questions. Time to buy a long toy that's super flexible.

I’m getting deeper over time today I got 13 of the 18 inch in

Start narrower. I just tonight finally got a 14 inch dildo buried until my greedy ass closed behind it. It is 1.5" diameter and never could get it all the way in. Until I followed advice on here. I ordered a 1" colon snake that is 18 inches. Started working it deeper and deeper until I could take all of it. This felt amazing and didn't take alll that long tbh. Today, I started with it and it felt so good I decided to try again. It finally popped in. I will enjoy this milestone for awhile but I do have a 1.75" double dildo that is 16" in my toy box that is now very intriguing and enticing.