Sorry, tallslenderguy (post #12). Didn't mean to hurt you. In the spirit of this thread - and because l really was puzzled at the disconnect between the quote you used and your own words - l felt impelled to say what l did. (By 'spirit of ...' l mean the underlying serious point of the original post.).
I still remember the wonderful post that you put up here on Zity that began our Friendship ...
Ah Ken (heart)
Believe it or not, i edited my initial (#12) reply several times removing most of the snarky retorts, narrowing it down to just one lol.
"Puzzled" is one thing, "disappointment" another. Puzzlement (on your part) leaves room for query, "disappointment" sort of contradicts puzzlement as it seems conclusive vs inquiring. And you seemed to seal your conclusion by arriving at me "really" having "shut down" and being "not healthy." "Hurt?" Well, maybe not that powerful, more stung. i've lived an eventful life and developed some muscle, i do not sustain damage easily.
i would posit that inquiry is the better path to take (imo, always)with a person you only know in passing vs sudden, sweeping judgement and conclusion.
i did not read the OP's post as anything close to a "cry for help." If i had, i would not have tried to put humor into my response. lnstead, i perceived a person who is experiencing a hiatus of a specific form of expression of their sexuality. She asked: "Does anyone else feel the same way? Hopefully you won’t judge me and of course I won’t judge you, but I just wanted to hear if anyone else has lost the fetish recently and if it may have to do with current events." i responded openly and honestly, and with an attempt at levity. i think, since you apparently did perceive the OP's words as "almost a cry for help," you may have transferred onto me. Your perception is your own and, of course, not necessarily universal or shared. i saw a person being open and using words like "icky" to describe how she felt (i've never cried over "icky"). To me she was telling us how she feels and wants to know if we "feel the same way" or if we have "lost our fetish" in lieu of current events. i haven't, and said so. And, true to her words, she hasn't "judged" me, nor i her. We're just sharing our various feelings on the topic. i am not "complain[ing] of feeling particularly randy," under current conditions, but with effort at levity, stating it as a matter of fact- a result of forced abstinence. Covid-19 is natures Dom attempt at putting me in chastity?
Covid-19 has brought infection and its effects into fine focus for her, and many others who would not normally have disease and death as continuously on their radar. As a healthcare provider, dealing with disease has been a part of my every day life for years, so i have a different perspective and, frankly, a different set of coping mechanisms than someone who is not in a similar place. You might be shocked by a lot of healthcare humor if you spent a day on a critical care unit. We are continually faced with disease, death and dying and we often have a macabre sense of humor as a result. It's one of many ways of venting and coping that a person who is not in that position, or similar, cannot relate to and may not understand.
You conclude that i have " really shut down" and further judge: "that is not healthy." i "really" got snarky in my original reply to this (i considered and didn't post it). Actually, the opposite is true Ken. i'm still my same kinky self, albeit with no interaction because of Covid-19, and i do not consider who i am to be unhealthy. i'm "slightly puzzled/disappointed" that you do. Okay, sorry, i couldn't resist that one. i can see how, from your perspective, people who have retained their medical kinkiness in the current situation have "shut down," but it seems opposite to me. I.e., the person who's kink has been subdued by guilt is experiencing some shut down? i'll let the moralizers debate whether or not that is "healthy."