Does sex of the doctor matter?

I prefer female doctors. The male doctors I have have been from referrals. I think women have a better bedside manner than most guys. They certainly have a gentler touch during exams.

The sex of the doctor does not matter, what matters is that they are professional and know what they are doing.

I’m more concerned with them being knowledgeable and having good bedside manner. Whether they are male or female doesnt matter as much. I’ve had excellent doctors of both genders and I’ve also had terrible doctors of both genders.

I’d rather have a nice looking female doctor tell me I’m going to die.....then a grizzly old guy!

> Does the sex of the doctor play into choosing who you go with?

Yes it does. it has to be huge 😁 .

Don't throw rocks at me, I'm gone 🌹

Sex of the doctor doesn't matter to me , the doctor can have all the sex they want . I feel that the doctor's sex life is none of my business.

The sex of the Doctor has not much to do with whom I select. I have been choosing younger people for their more learned abilities. The older the Doctors the less they seem to be up on the new techniques.

Mind Drivel: Test drives a used car then test drive a new car. The new car wins every time. Same with Doctors.

I search a good doctor, sex is not important

No sex doesn't or should it matter. I want the best care I can get.

Always female for me.

I never had much of a choice as to the gender of a doctor. In practice I have only been examined by 2 female doctors, all the rest were male.

For genital exams it has always been a male who has examined me. I don't mind the gender of the doctor.

Yes and no. I think generally, it does not if you enjoy the routine procedures of being examined. But I think both offer a different experience and dynamic to the exam.

Would prefer a male doctor

It does for me. I don't like being touched by a male so when we had to find a new doctor I was very happy that my wife wanted a female doc. There were hardly any female doctors when we chose the last one years ago. When she wants me to see a specialist I ask for the female if they have one in the group.

Both male and female docs have inspected my genitals and given me DREs. No issues. Just a good doc is all I care about . Someone I feel is competent. Sex is not a big deal. Nor to them.

No actually it's more anxious if I don't know. That's what makes a fun for me. But really what matters is I like dominant doctor.

I don't want him to run my life but I want them to take charge and do it

For me, I am more comfortable around male doctors. I've had some female doctors who tend to be judgemental and it's put me off wanting to see a female doctor. That being said, I have been referred to people who are the top specialists in their fields in the area local to me so that actually takes priority over gender. There are judgemental male doctors too so all doctors aren't created equal.

Male for primary care & any male issues. Anything else I’m comfortable with either male or female.

Yes I prefer a female since my experience is that they a lot more time and are better listeners.

For me I prefer male doctors. I feel more comfortable being undressed with male doctors.

I think I prefer a female doctor overall, because I feel more comfortable opening up to them and that they'll be more sympathetic and better listeners.

If I knew I would need to undress though, I'd prefer male. I'm gay and more used to being undressed in front of men, so maybe counterintuitively the idea of being naked in front of a woman is more awkward. However, I've had STI exams by women which hasn't felt particularly embarrassing so I don't mind too much.

I have no preferences, however recent research shows if you are undergoing surgery, go with the female, you will have better results

I used to prefer a male doctor, but I’ve had so many female doctors take care of me, over the years, and I feel perfectly comfortable with them. If it were for mental health issues, I don’t want a female therapist, only because I’ve never had good experiences with them. Not a sexist thing, just my personal experience.

recent research shows if you are undergoing surgery, go with the female, you will have better results

Analysis of the research I've heard suggests that's not actually the case. The media reporting of the results was criticised. On average the patients operated on by female surgeons had better survival, but it's not likely to be a casual relationship between the two. Reasons not controlled for included male surgeons in certain specialisms being given/being in positions to take the more complex/serious cases. Apparently. According to Professor Linda Sharples, Head of the Department of Medical Statistics at the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine. End of public service announcement 😃

I've had excellent doctors of both sexes, and never assumed one sex more likely to be highly skilled than the other. But in terms of enjoying being examined…

(1) I've usually enjoyed being examined more when the doctor was female. Example of why, follows.

(2) Once recently, I had a very unusual exam by a male doctor, that turned me on. I'll explain why in a follow up post.

As for (1)…

I've usually enjoyed a female doctor's exams. It's more exciting for me to be partially nude / partially undressed by a woman, and touched by her while in that state. For example…

Before palpating me, my MD during the 2000's (a lovely woman in her late 40's) would ask me to lie down on the papered exam table with my shirt open, and to unzip and open my pants. I left my briefs in place.

After she had palpated as far down my abdomen as my briefs allowed, she would gently lower the elastic band on my briefs to expose my pubic mound and the flesh to either side. She would then palpate into my belly just above the pubis, and into the ceases at the sides. I loved the feeling of her hands on my belly and her fingertips in my pubic hair.

My penis typically stirred while this was happening, but neither of us said anything about it. She treated some tumescence as a natural consequence of the exam, and given that I was comfortable with it, so was she.

I loved being examined by this doctor, and was happy both with the experience of being partially stripped and vulnerable with her, and with the gentle thoroughness of her touch.

I've had similar experiences with other female doctors, but less so with males.

For real life, I've had great practitioners, male and female, and horrible practitioners, male and female.

There are some male practitioners I refuse to be in the same room as because they make overtly sexist remarks. There are other male practitioners I am fine with them because they've taken me seriously, took time to explain things, and have taken time to shepherd me through some tough things.

The same with female practitioners, I've had some that have been great for the reasons listed above, and I've had some badly mishandled things, like I could have sued successfully level of mishandling.

I've experienced both sexes for myself and/or family through the years, and it's rarely mattered. For many years we had a truly wonderful woman as our family doctor until she retired about three years ago. What matters most to me is a doctor who genuinely listens and cares, despite often being busy in his/her practice. We've been blessed to have “mostly” great doctors – a few others on pedestals and having big egos will remain nameless! (All men, by the way.)

I say “rarely mattered” because I decided to look for a naturopath for my GI issues – a doctor with a more holistic approach. Fortunately, I found a female naturopathic physician in the Northwest who relates personally to my digestive and stress issues – she's experienced both. I'm very comfortable “letting go” and sharing my health background, including taking enemas which didn't surprise her.

We've been blessed to have “mostly” great doctors – a few others on pedestals and having big egos will remain nameless! (All men, by the way.)

That made me think - we've had 4 doctors who we wouldn't go see again. All were men. I questioned one and he became really arrogant and defensive.

On the other side of the coin, I questioned a female ER doc who told me that catheters got smaller in diameter as the F-number goes up (e.g. a French 18 would be smaller in diameter than a French 14). I told her I thought she was wrong. She came back to the room a while later and told me I was right - she was thinking of needle gauges. I teased her and said “So you're a doctor?” She wasn't offended or embaraassed, even in front of the nurse and CNA who were in the room. We laughed about it.

I have a female general doctor. Been with her practice 8-9 years.

My previous doctor of 10+ years was male. He was great but retired in the middle of the Covid-19 pandemic. I now have a young female doctor. I like her but she recenty shifted to seeing patients part time. That makes it harder to get timely appointments. I don’t want to switch again but I might have to.