Anybody asexual here?

I'm asexual and contrary of what most of peeps I met think, it's not about not having sex, it's about don't make living a relationship on it. It's about loving sex or liking it, but not finding it existential in your couple, you more enjoy touching, kissing, cuddling than direct sex. It's a bit hard to explain it, but I more enjoy hugging and enjoying every touch and kisses than having sex directly, that's why auscultation sounds so interesting for me. I'm pretty curious to know if there is anyone asexual like me here ?

There is a related thread here, which combined this question with medical fetish desires -

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=95063

I think I'll allow this one to run separately instead of simply merging them.

I'm asexual and contrary of what everyone think, it's not about not having sex, it's about don't make living a relationship on it. I'm pretty curious to know if there is anyone asexual like me here ?

Asexuality is not to be confused with celibacy. They are very different things. When you say, "it's about don't make living a relationship on it", I'm wondering if you truly are asexual, or if you merely have a low sex drive. Your statements don't seem to quite go together with each other. Or do they? Perhaps you need to comment further and clarify.

I don't want to be controversial here, but on your profile you state your sexuality as 'Unsure'. If you are actually asexual, and you are certain of it, then I recommend changing your stated sexuality to 'Not applicable', as that would be more accurate. An asexual person is sure that they are asexual, and sexual desires therefore do not apply.

@DrZ yes you're right, for your first part, I agree with you, asexuality is long to explain, but it's basically when you like sex, but don't see it absolutely necessary. I agree with you saying that my text is short hehe, gonna edit it, and a big thanks for the sexual orientation tip, I'm still a bit noob on here and was lost on the profile about orientation so it's cool you're telling me what's better

I agree with you saying that my text is short hehe, gonna edit it

There's no real need to edit it. You can simply post again and further develop the point you began to make.

... asexuality is long to explain, but it's basically when you like sex, but don't see it absolutely necessary. ...

Actually, 'asexual' literally means 'not sexual' - having little or no sexual desire for anyone. In your introduction text, you previously described yourself as 'demisexual', which is a word used to describe someone who experiences sexual attraction only after establishing a particular bond with someone. I'm not a fan of such words, but I'll leave that to one side, at least for now. But when you speak of not seeing sex as "absolutely necessary", I'm wondering what you mean by that, and why you decided to change your self-description.

@DrZ Because I saw a description of asexuality that describe it differently, I could send it to you if you want, but since, I noticed that it's difficult to describe asexuality for everyone, ace is "not sexual" but that doesn't mean that you're fully against it, honestly I'm not into sex, but I have nothing against kissing for example, but many people was saying that asexuality was totally about not kissing or holding hands, that's why as first I thought I was demi sexual, but then, I saw that it depends to everyone and that pan romantic, aromantic, demisexual and asexual are all kinda the same with little differences, and I'm more between demi sexual and asexual, but mostly asexual due to my past experiences

First of all let me say what my gender therapist told me a few years ago.: (I am a post-op trans woman)

"I am sexually attracted to males and romantically to females."

Although I am still a bit confused with my orientation, which I don't see as a problem. I don't consider myself bi-sexual, more hetero flexible.

Asexual has come to my mind a couple of times, as I am not really interested in actual physical contact with man or woman, but fantasize about it when I masturbate. I am very much in love with my XXXL toys and anal play by myself. I certainly am not into relationships and drama, at the most a one nightstand or friend with benefit. So to me the difference is fantasize vs reality. In the last 2 years I only had 1 encounter with a male, just a blowjob. No intercourse or anything else.

What I like with woman is actually like you mentioned, go out in public have dinner etc, cuddle, kiss, go oral downtown, perhaps masturbate each other. Orgasms is not mandatory.

With man I dream of getting rough sex, penetrated and oral. Being for his pleasure No orgasm for me needed.

But like I mentioned, I have hardly any experience. Before I transitioned I thought I was gay/bi and had sex with both man and woman, much more man though. As far as sex with woman, including my wife, 5 in my 56 year life time, with man its uncountable, but 50% told me I was acting like a woman when we had sex.

So yes, I am not sure if I might be asexual. Good question.