Enemas and Release of Emotions: Is This a "Female Thing?"

Like @Jenny_Is_Kinky2, sometimes I cry when I'm having cramps and (or) having a difficult time expelling. My husband whom I love dearly has developed some dementia and has withdrawn from me a lot the past few weeks. Sometimes he can be outright ugly to me and today was a bad day. Around noon, I gave myself a SSE but I must have had a lot of gas because nothing went right. I got towels wet from the water leaking out of my rectum. When I was expelling the little water that I retained, I just broke down and cried. A broken heart and a shitty enema.

So much I have learned from my naturopath about how our bodies function, including the connection between our brain and GI tract that governs so much of our emotions.

My original question whether the emotions we feel from releasing an enema is a "female thing?" Not necessarily, she says. It's more common for women to show their emotions with "a good cry," but men typically don't feel it as strongly. Crying can be healthy during an enema, she says. Feeling an "emotional release" during or following an enema is, in fact, quite common.

Interesting thread. I should have mentioned in post #26 that I never cried. Even as a child, I never cried during my enemas. Actually, back then I was very defiant when I got an enema, not outwardly, but inwardly I would think that I could defeat the power of the enema from working… Guess I was thinking it could be mind over matter… Ha, very foolish since my enemas back then were extremely strong - made from allot of Ivory Flakes dissolved in a pot of water that had to be heated up to close to a boil on the stove to dissolve all the soap.. then cooled to hot enema temp and given via bulb.

I used to get very” randy” during my preteen years and do goofy stuff like naked jumping Jacks in front of my sisters with a hardon ,they would holler and scream for mom then she would come upstairs and March me into the bathroom and give me an enema and I would have a dry orgasm that calmed me down and I would be good for 2 weeks than the cycle would repeat itself, it finally stopped when I learned to masturbate around 12/13yrs.

I think anytime we can release our emotions in a sensible, non-destructive manner is a good thing. With COVID still affecting our lives and all the other terrible things happening in the world right now, I sometimes feel that I need to clear my brain, which science has discovered is connected to our digestive tract. Duh!

In times like this, I don’t need a shrink, I have an enema bag! And if I have a good cry in the process, so much the better. Nothing against the guys, they are invited to join in too, but I do think it's mostly “a female thing” – and it can feel amazing.

@Moms_Egirl , so sorry to hear of the issues you're having. I don't know you, but if you are not getting help, get some. Please. It only gets worse from here. My ex's Mom died of Alzheimer's. It was not pretty. She did not live with us, but it was still terrible.

Enemas always help me get shit off my mind 😂……it relaxes me and makes me horny and well you know a release of tension.

I don’t need a shrink, I have an enema bag!

Amen, @Vicki_V ! Some “me” time with my trusty bag and my nozzle collection will clear my mind and have me feeling better both mentally and physically in the span of a few hours. And over the past couple of years I have resorted to this particular treatment regime more than a few times!

Deb

New here on Zity. Hope to make some new friends. Enemas are an excellent way for me to get rid of stress. I enjoy the sexual excitement of anticipating and taking an enema since getting them as a child and having my first orgasm at 13 from a self administered enema. I do remember a time when I was masturbating while filling with a very warm enema. The pleasure was exquisite and tears were streaming down my face as I had a shaking orgasm. I felt like I was floating on a cloud as the 3 quart enema bag emptied. I love the relaxing feeling after a good enema session.

It is certainly a female thing, but I'll have to ask my husband if it is also a male thing, which would make it human. I have posted elsewhere where I believe that the true benefits of a good enema happen to be BOTH emotional and physiological. I've known this for some years even to the point where I have thought “I need an enema to put me in a better frame of mind.” To that end I find something therapeutic in getting out the bag, running the water, and getting undressed. That anticipation speaks to me and says that I'll be feeling totally better soon. What a great reason to respect enemas by taking them slowly, not too warm, and in a quiet, peaceful setting. Sure, light a candle, put on some calming music, and enjoy yourself.

@Emom It is certainly a female thing, but I'll have to ask my husband if it is also a male thing, which would make it human.

Love your thoughtful response! My husband is pretty good at covering up his feelings, but after nearly 38 years of marriage, I’m also pretty good at seeing through him. He has emotional strengths greater than mine, but deep down, he is just as vulnerable. That’s one reason I love him so much. Hang an enema bag above him when he’s feeling his worst, and he might try to be stoic, but he then sheds any resistance, which I agree is not so much feminine as it is human.

I used to say that a nurse with an enema bag could assert total control over me. I should probably rephrase that thought to say that any woman with an enema bag would likely maintain that control.

After all, you gals hit the nail on the head. It isn't really just a female thing. Many of us guys just desire the female influence at enema time.

The emotional/physiological release can be quite exquisite. Reciprocation can also add a great benefit!

Enemas are very cathartic. Even punishment enemas. All the bad stuff gets cleaned out of me, and my mood definitely changes. As to whether it is just a female thing or not, I don't know.

Hi. As far as emotional goes during enemas, the clean out can relieve emotional stress pent up, I believe thats why I continue to do my own enemas. It's a healthy process to relieve and release. I hope that helps. It's not a male or female thing just emotional stress release. Chitchat

@EJM “Enemas are very cathartic. All the bad stuff gets cleaned out of me, and my mood definitely changes.”

Last Thanksgiving, our older daughter came down with Covid for the first time and was terribly sick for the first couple of days. She was anxious and even scared.

Long story short, she continued to feel fatigued and “down in the dumps.” She asked if I would give her an enema. She didn’t think she was bound up inside, but she was and I was surprised how much the enema made a difference in how she was feeling.

Hi everybody - long time! Well, there is actual biology behind these responses to enemas. Given properly and comfortably (which mostly excludes all enemas in medical settings) they relax the body incredibly and reduce blood pressure immediately. Nurse training even includes cautions to watch that the pressure does not fall dangerously low during an enema! The primary reason for these reactions is "vagus response" - stimulating not just the bowels but the vagus nerve, a primary parasympathetc nerve which runs throughout the body. Vagus response is also the reason behind the observation that digital - finger - stimulation through the rectum could cure intractable hiccups. I remember that when that got published gay guys would line up at clinics complaining of terrible hiccup problems which suddenly appeared!

This is not more widely appreciated because enemas are usually cloaked in embarrassment and unnecessary discomfort.

I have since researched and confirmed this, but I learned about this recently in a manuscript which a friend of a friend asked me to proofread. The book is about the growing up of the protagonist, which basically starts with an enema from a friend, breaking her self-imposed boundaries, or as she puts it, imposed by a narrative which she had not really examined. The story is not really sexual, though orgasms are on practically every page, and it is difficult but not humorless to read: the author herself says that reading it takes a dictionary and encyclopedia together, and possibly memorization of the whole corpus of English poetry. (She actually works in three words from Beowulf!). It also relates her trying to get her boyfriend to let her put in his suppositories. The book is actually intended as a very serious work, over 450 pages, in the general form of a journal. I find the protagonist/author personally very attractive. I mention all of this because if anyone is interested the author plans to post it somewhere unless and until anyone wants to publish it. I will share the link when and if she does post it, though I caution that it is more a book of "embodied, wet philosophy" than a bottoms one.

To get personal for a moment, I also find comfortable enemas accompanied by massage very deeply relaxing and banishing stress quickly. And by the way, both guys and gals have vagus nerves!

-- Jillie Ann

Jillie again. For anyone who wants a bit more information on the friend's book I have posted a one-page summary in a blog titled AN INTERESTING BOOK. I get chided when I post too-long replies in the Discussions area.

jillieann

One of my daughters, in her 30s, asked if I ever had an emotional cry when I was on the toilet releasing an enema. I think she felt crying somehow was abnormal. She was having a lot of stress at the time.

Her question triggered an interesting chat about the brain - “gut” connection, which she did not learn about in biology class. I have cried at times through the years, and I assured her that it was a normal release of emotions. This is why I feel that a good enema is beneficial physically, and it can be therapeutic emotionally.

@Vicki_V said,

This is why I feel that a good enema is beneficial physically, and it can be therapeutic emotionally.

That’s why our grandmother gave my siblings and I enemas when we got upset or stressed out about something. It worked on us every time when we were kids, then as teenagers, and finally as adults. After I got married, my wife and I gave each other enemas when we got upset or stressed out about something. Often leading to sexual intercourse. After we had kids, we used the same method on them, with the same results our parents had with us. So, from my point of view, enemas are both mentally and physically beneficial. Working just as well on both kids and adults.

In 1962 Marilyn Monroe made some audio recordings on take and on that tape she admitted that she used enemies for health and for sexual pleasure.

"Most of Monroe's big-screen brethren lived for, and loved, enemas, although Mae West is the only enema enthusiast Monroe names--excluding herself. "Yes, I enjoy enemas," she says. "So, what!"

It's been difficult for me to locate the video tape but that's part of what I got