I finally worked up courage when buying panties to tell the sales associate they are for me. The short is it went well, no judgement at all.
I went to Lane Bryant to pick up an order and I also had a coupon for $10 off. So I told the SA “I am here to pick up an order and I also wanted to use a coupon I had to find some thongs in 22/24 I don’t already own.” She replies oh these are for you. I told her yes. And she went to showing me pairs they had. The manager came up to tell her something and then she joined in helping us find things I would like.
I asked the manager if they get many guys in their store she said a few. She said most have some story about who they’re shopping for. But mentioned we have an idea it’s for them.
The hardest part was saying i was shopping for myself. After that I felt welcomed and not judged.