Orgasm at the same time

When you have sex with your girlfriend/boyfriend, are you able to orgasm at the same time ?

Sometimes...sometimes not in sync enough to make it at the exact same moment, but then, we have learned to go with it, as it happens.

To us, it really is not that important that it be at the same moment. The body has it's own internal clock no matter the external or internal stimulations we instigate and the beauty, is listening to that, and have the orgasm be when it is and sometimes, not at all even.

The whole experience brings different outcome each and every time.

The most important element we have found, is to let it be what it is and not try to make it something ahead of time that we want in our mind.

Nature can be it's own, every time is the best, and different !

My wife and I used to, almost everytime. Now that I'm older though, it takes me a lot longer than it does her. When we cum together now, it's usually her second or third time. She hasn't complained about that yet...

Yeah I can have an orgasm at the same time as my husband a lot of the time. I like feeling him having his orgasm and I think it makes me have my orgasm some times. Some times I have an orgasm at different times, maybe after him and even before him and a few times while we are fucking and it is all good.

The shared orgasm is not really our ambition. If we come independently, we can experience each other's orgasm much better. She usually comes first.

Sometimes we have simultaneous orgasms, sometimes we don't.

Who the fuck cares?

I can only remember a very very few simultaneous orgasms. Very few and only one vividly. Neither of us ever mentioned it or attached much importance to it.

Thinking back now after all these years, I would conclude that seeing/feeling/experiencing your partner orgasm is a thrill unto itself, something you wouldn't really notice if you yourself were busy orgasming at the same time. I really liked watching her face or feeling her body clench and tighten up or arch in pleasure. best of all was feeling her anus pulsing around my finger. Those were things you'd not experience during a simultaneous orgasm.

I’ll cum when my husband does fairly often but I’ve usually cum a few times (or more than a few times) before he does too so it’s not really a focus as someone else has said. We don’t really try for it.

Ladies first !

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The "systems" are so asynchrous that - physiologically - unless one of the parties at the party makes a real effort, it would never happen. There are a lot of variables in this equation. and nevre say never!

It is not a goal to do it for me. Better orgasms for both, if it is done to one at the time. But i am slow to orgasm and usaly need the attentione from the partner.

It's rare but neat when it happens. OTOH it is also nice to hold my orgasming partner and being fully aware of what is going on too.

Often, my orgasm will trigger his. So while I might start first, he’s often right behind me.

It has happened, but very rarely. One reason is that I tend to be slow in reaching orgasm, and anyway, during intercourse, I try not to enjoy myself too much so that I don't ejaculate and lose my erection prematurely.

When things were going good, there were those times I did orgasm when my sub did. If everything was just so him just about to orgasm would push me over to my orgasm. It was more intense experience, atleast for me.

Haven't managed this yet, but it is definitely an objective.

It's better at the same time.

Mutual orgasm is always best but as others have mentioned, it doesn't always happen. I will always try to let a woman come to climax first, and when she starts, I just can't hold back and have a strong orgasm at the same time. It's always been my goal to try to please a woman before myself, it's just the way I'm wired...

Quite a few women find it difficult to achieve orgasm during intercourse because they need direct clitoral stimulation, and a few women find it impossible to achieve orgasm under any circumstances. One of my partners always wanted me to climax first as she became a little dry after her orgasm, and she thought that would make it less pleasurable for me. I didn't mind either way but anything to please her. On one occasion we did have an orgasm together during intercourse but mostly it was at different times. It's not something to get stressed about, just enjoy the sex....

The best mutual orgasms come when she uses a vibrator or her fingers at the same time. Feels good for me, too.

I don't aim for simultaneous orgasms. I'd rather feel hers first, which then stimulates my own.

If my husband is on top of me, my orgasm begins when I feel my husband begin the rapid deep coital thrusting that signals he is driving to ejaculate and he can’t control his thrusting. At this point the end is inevitable and he will begin ejaculating within a few seconds to at most a minute . He always drives in deep and stops moving when he is ejaculating so I can feel his penis pulsing inside me. That pulsing triggers my big orgasm. If I miss feeling the semen pulses I seldom have a real big O during intercourse. If he fucks me from behind, particularly if I am standing bent over a chair or holding my ankles. I have more trouble feeling the pulses and he has to finish me with his finger or I do it myself.

If I am on top riding him I seldom ever feel him ejaculating. Sometimes I can read his facial expressions and breathing patterns so I can stop moving and feel him but most of the time I am too engrossed in my own pleasure seeking to be aware of his orgasm. When he goes limp or I start leaking semen I know he is done. Then it is time for us to breakout the trusty vibrator!

We can but don't always. Nor do we necessarily prefer to come at the same time. That said those times are usually very enjoyable. Our favourite is for my partner to come at least once, she can come many times, and then for me to have my turn. In my own experience it is not common to be able to come properly together. My ex wife could only come properly with a vibrator and increasingly did not want to experiment. If we came together in twenty years at all, it was only a very few times.

Exceptionally yes.

(Since I go limp after ejaculation, I try to postpone ejaculation until after my wife's climax, so I try to be somewhat away from climax point.)

It's been my goal since I first started to have sex with a girlfriend. The first time I brought a woman to orgasm, I was in my teens. At that time we came home from a date and when I drove her home, we got romantic in my car and we petted until she started moaning and writhing. I kept on masturbating her and I got her to orgasm. It was such a turn on for me to be able to please her, that I, hand's free, shot my load over the dashboard of my car! Ever since then, I always try to re-create the rush I felt from that uncontrollable orgasm I experienced, by bringing a woman to orgasm. For me, nothing is better than both of us "crossing the finish line" at the same time!!

I love it one by one, because then you are more with her and her orgasm.

It's not always practical; but, sometimes, if I'm close, the sensations (aural, facial, internal) of my woman's orgasm will send me over the edge.

We do some times but that is not the main focus. I like to focus on her orgasm first if I go first there is little desire for me to keep going then it's harder for her to orgasm.