Faked orgasm

Have you ever faked an orgasm?

Did your partner notice ?

I don't think its possible for me, everytime I have an orgasm, I cum, so it will not work if I lie......lol

Za

@zaboots,

To me, as an old man, I considered the question as aimed at female members. For me, when a man has an orgasm, he cums. Difficult to fake an ejaculation.

Posting this question, I was remembering the famous cinema scene in ''when Harry meets Sally'' where Meg Rian fakes an orgasm in the middle of a restaurant.'

I never saw the point in faking an orgasm. Why would I want him to think he made me cum when he didn't?

I have never faked having an orgasm, my husband is very good at giving me orgasms and he just really knows what he is doing. I think it would be wrong to just pretend and fake it anyway. I am sure my husband can tell when I am having an orgasm and it would be insulting him to just pretend but maybe some men can not tell and the ladies think they have got to make men think they are good lovers when they are not.

Just a hypothesis - but would some women fake an orgasm just to get it over with?? Like Ok, I'm there - time for you to finish up so we can get some sleep.

Also, FWIW - as I have aged (decidedly well by the way) I have occasionally had a "dry" orgasm. No ejaculate, but still the sensation of cumming. It's frustrating!!!

Just a hypothesis - but would some women fake an orgasm just to get it over with?? Like Ok, I'm there - time for you to finish up so we can get some sleep.

Also, FWIW - as I have aged (decidedly well by the way) I have occasionally had a "dry" orgasm. No ejaculate, but still the sensation of cumming. It's frustrating!!!

I use to fake it with my first wife - I'd often pull out and cum in something so she didn't know when I pretended, or maybe she did and went along with it... Speaking of dry orgasms, thanks to the Flomax I take, all mine are like that.

I use to fake it with my first wife - I'd often pull out and cum in something so she didn't know when I pretended, or maybe she did and when along with it... Speaking of dry orgasms, thanks to the Flomax I take, all mine are like that.

Why did you fake it with your first wife?? I usually just couldn't stop or contain myself! 😄

Why did you fake it with your first wife?? I usually just couldn't stop or contain myself! 😄

I was young, in my early 20's and very horny - my gal would like having it done again, and sometimes again and again right after... she could orgasm multiple times, but I couldn't.

I was young, in my early 20's and very horny - my gal would like having it done again, and sometimes again and again right after...

Lucky guy!! 😄

As per mine opinion men can't be fake orgasm as they can't control their feelings for masturbation and once it start noone can stop them from orgasm. But while question about women it happened and mostly in india. As in india sex is not open to talk not even for men then how women will express their feelings for sex. Mostly men finished sex as their work to do as per their own choice so they never bothered wifes willingness or feelings. Not even asked about her orgasm so it's a far away to noticed their fake orgasm. She have to show fake orgasm not for him but for her ownself feelings. Hmm. And guys this is real fact.

After a number of years living together, I found out that my wife liked anal penetration to help her orgasm. So I usually had a finger up her anus and when you feel her anal sphincter clenching and pulsating in and out, then you know there was no faking involved.

I seem to remember reading that all orgasms have the outward physiological signs of clenching/pulsating anal sphincter muscles and that people's toes clench together. Apparently both are inevitable signs of orgasm, probably noticed by Masters and Johnson during their research sessions. Of course, observers can more easily check the toes reflex than a partner can ... 😃

Yep. I'm male and have faked many. I have never had a partner suspect me of faking, at least no one has ever voiced their suspicions. I don't feel that I am lying to my partner and don't feel bad about doing it. I'm still having fun, I just don't always orgasm. It has nothing to do with her as a person or her sexual ability.

My wife cums really fast, always has. When I was younger I thought that was great! I didn't have to work at delaying my orgasm. If we wanted to extend our love making session (or fuck fest, depending on our mood at the time) I would just make her cum 2-3 times before I would ejaculate. Now that I'm getting older, it usually takes me quite awhile. A *lot* longer than it takes her. For me, it reaches a time where I just want to go to sleep. Or if it's morning sex, I'm hungry and just want to get some breakfast.

I've even faked it a few times when I was younger (I think those were all with previous girlfriends, before my wife). Those were usually during round 2 or 3 or ? and I just wanted to be done. Maybe I was sleepy or hungry or just wanted them to leave already.

@agracier said

After a number of years living together, I found out that my wife liked anal penetration to help her orgasm. So I usually had a finger up her anus and when you feel her anal sphincter clenching and pulsating in and out, then you know there was no faking involved.

Why do you think the anal clenching and pulsing cannot be faked?

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@BenDover said

Yep. I'm male and have faked many. I have never had a partner suspect me of faking, at least no one has ever voiced their suspicions. I don't feel that I am lying to my partner and don't feel bad about doing it. I'm still having fun, I just don't always orgasm. It has nothing to do with her as a person or her sexual ability.

Don't your partners notice there is no ejaculate or change in lubrication of your penis or fluid in her vagina when you fake it?

Don't your partners notice there is no ejaculate or change in lubrication of your penis or fluid in her vagina when you fake it?

In my case I'd be using a rubber, or would quickly pull out and use a cloth.. Since this would happen after fucking multiple times in a row, she'd be pretty exhausted to care. Ha, maybe she was faking as well. The most we did in a row was five times - not sure what we were trying to prove, just two crazy kids. (20 year olds) Maybe need a thread - "men how to fake"...

I don't get why a guy would fake an orgasm - what is the purpose? Would your partner feel inadequate if you didn't ejaculate?? I know we had sex and at times my wife didn't orgasm (never felt it was a lack of talent or effort on my part), other times she had multiple orgasms . I think a lot goes into the physical and mental states to make that happen.

I've had sex with my wife where I didn't ejaculate - just edged for a long time. I didn't fake anything - just didn't cum but I still enjoyed it. It was no reflection on her - just didn't have it in me. A lot had to do with position - if I wanted to come quick - doggie usually did it for me!!! Other times (when MUCH younger!!) I could recover and have sex multiple times with full orgasms ( I don't rememberer the number exactly but it wasn't like 20 times, maybe 2 or 3 within an hour).

One male friend said he would know the difference.

I said, "I bet you every woman has (or will) once in her life. Maybe she's tired or just doesn't want to hurt his feelings because he's trying so hard. So, are you sure it hasn't happened to you?" I swear I could see the gears in his head turning, trying to figure out who and how many times. He eventually said "Okay, maybe". First time I ever won an argument with him.

Why do you think the anal clenching and pulsing cannot be faked?

In virtually all literature on the subject of sexual orgasms, involuntary muscle spasms/contractions of the anus are described accompanying an orgasm, and this apparently for both sexes. The same applies to clenching toes. It is a physiological sign of orgasm as attested to by researchers and sexologists, and at the time it was discovered by observation, quite the revelation.

Most people don't really know that involuntary muscle contractions of the anus are a sign of orgasm, so most wouldn't even know to do it in the first place. When women fake orgasms, they most likely think that a lot of moaning and sighing and maybe moving about is enough to convince their partners. Besides, not all couples have a finger up each other's anus while climaxing.

I suppose one could fake the contractions and toe clenching if one really wanted to, but first you'd have to know about it. And even then, what a lot of work, when a doing a Meg Ryan ought to be enough to convince a partner.

Although to tell the truth, I just watched the clip of her again and I thought it was pretty cheesy and unrealistic. Never known anyone to come like that ... ha ha

Don't your partners notice there is no ejaculate or change in lubrication of your penis or fluid in her vagina when you fake it?

After my vasectomy many years ago, the volume of my ejaculate went down by a lot. I'm not sure if the timing of that was a coincidence, or the two are related, no idea. Usually there's so much fluids and lubrication from her anyway she just doesn't notice or pay attention. Plus, often she gets up to pee after sex, so a lot drips out or is wiped off then whether I cum or not.

I don't get why a guy would fake an orgasm - what is the purpose? ... I've had sex with my wife where I didn't ejaculate - just edged for a long time. I didn't fake anything - just didn't cum but I still enjoyed it...

I've tried that, but my wife will not have it. Apparently she takes offense to me not climaxing. She will keep going until I do orgasm. Same reason women fake it sometimes.

In my single days I had some “lovers” who were not quite the lovers they thought they were. So yes I faked more than one orgasm. And I will admit I to have faked a few orgasms with my husband. It takes little part on my effort to keep his ego intact.

There was really only one guy that I had to fake it with because the sex was not good at all. Everything else that we would do was great, but I would get all worked up and then it was not good when the sex started. This was twenty something years ago and I wasn’t sure what to do because I did like him. Being the nice girl that I am, I didn’t want him to realize that I thought the sex was awful, so I faked it. I must not have done a very good job faking it because he made fun of the way I sounded to some of our mutual guy friends ?? I was horrified and had to tell them that I probably sounded ridiculous because it was so bad that I had to fake it.

I will say that there are probably some times when I am either just done or too tired and I may “embellish” things a little to get his orgasm moving along so I can go to bed ?

When my wife has an orgasm, her vagina most often becomes suddenly very wet (well she's wet during intercourse, but then the wetness suddenly increases) and often she gets out of breath, among other signs. She could fake the breath issue but I don't see how to fake becoming all wet.