Roleplay by correspondence

It has a lot going for it - but, yes, it takes time! However, that only adds an element of excitement if you're up to it and reasonably literate. Any roleplays l've done using Chat Gram have always felt horribly rushed and leaving little to savour, certainly not the suspense and tingle of anticipation that waiting for the next 'instalment' brings!

In rolepaying by correspondence you can combine happy memories with added refinements (including verbal descriptions of surroundings, procedures, unspoken thoughts of doctor and patient, reactions by the patient, much else!) ...

Erotics should not be all, or even largely, genital-focussed. (Well, that's my view!) Roleplay by correspondence can give an added 'dimension' and be deeply satisfying.

- Ken

Just following up ... Would other roleplayers-by-correspondence out there (I know there are some!) share something of how it went for them and any techniques, styles, restrictions (including writing techniques, etc.) they used and found either useful or off-putting?! For example, I was contacted by an enthusiastic roleplayer who seemed happy with both the overall idea and the suggested 'scene' (a medical exam in which he'd play the doctor). But when I started things off by describing in some detail the patient arriving for the exam, including his feelings (like nervousness), plus the setting (the doctor's exam room), my correspondent wasn't heard from again! I can only think that he found my initial description 'intimidating'. I'm a professional writer, and I know the importance of using well-chosen detail to set a scene - in this case, before the doctor's exam begins. (After that, it's the exam itself, at each of its stages, which carries most of the excitement, although again detail is important, I'm convinced.)

Comments?!

- Ken

I enjoy roleplay by correspondence but not through chat gram. It’s too choppy and feels rushed. I prefer kik, WhatsApp or email.

For me, this type of correspondence can be just as satisfying as voice or exchange of photos or videos.

Oh, I did a *lot* of this when I was younger. The fun is in the detailed descriptions, the settings and the hidden thoughts and feelings. Of course it takes time, effort and patience from both parties, but that in itself is super sexy. 😃

My thanks to the two recent posters (in posts #3 and #4, respectively) to this thread l started and whose subject-matter means a lot to me.

My mischievous question (l trust it's not impertinent) is: will you let the rest of us know if the two of you start a correspondence? 😄

- Ken

I enjoy roleplay by correspondence but not through chat gram. It’s too choppy and feels rushed. I prefer kik, WhatsApp or email.

For me, this type of correspondence can be just as satisfying as voice or exchange of photos or videos.

Doesn't it get boring after a while?

How long can you go before you need to be in person and have flesh on flesh?

Roleplay by text is not a "real" substitute for in-person playtime, but it can be an amazingly satisfying diversion given that we all know the brain is our strongest erogenous zone. I used to prefer the old Yahoo chat when it was alive. The chat function on here is satisfactory as well. I never bothered downloading other apps. E-mail seems slow for direct and immediate contact. (Though stories shared on here in response to requested scenes might be similar in process.) It's an amazing gift when in the midst of a chat session a friend tells you she just experienced an orgasm without having touched anything but a keyboard. Sensual connections don't always have to be physical.

@SwitchableSusie I was never into roleplay at all - but to my surprise it actually continues to be a big turn-on for months on end. Would definitely like to meet IRL though

My mischievous question (l trust it's not impertinent) is: will you let the rest of us know if the two of you start a correspondence? 😄

You're not asking me to betray a lady's trust? Mischievous indeed. 😄

Just to clarify after reading the posts here - all of them interesting, btw!

There are actual physical exams by a medical doctor. There are actual simulated physical exams by a medfet-type doctor. There are exams conducted verbally back and forth on Chat Gram or similar. And there are exams conducted back and forth via a message service (such as Zity's) or by email.

The fourth category is what l mean by exams-by-correspondence. For those with the right aptitude and knowledge and skills (including literary skills and related abilities, such as authorial stamina and concentration!), they can, I think, constitute the most exciting format of all! Not boring, even after a while, SwitchableSusie! For my reasons and thinking on this, see posts #1 and 2.

(Btw, the above categories aren't necessarily hard-and-fast. A variant category might be, say, exams by telephone. And clearly a mix of categories might be feasible.)

Other suggestions?

- Ken

Roleplays by correspondence are interactive. That should go without saying - but maybe l'll say it anyway. It beats your private fantasies! Typically, one party in a medfet correspondence roleplay is the doctor, the other party is the patient. Because it's by correspondence, there's time to consider moves and responses, and to savour them. Fun! You should be easily able to match up with a congenial doctor or patient on Zity from around the world (not just your own area). Hmm. I'm from Australia - if anyone is looking for a nice young male to examine! Or just to talk about the possibility - that's also fun!

- 'Young Ken'

Roleplays by correspondence are interactive. Because it's by correspondence, there's time to consider moves and responses, and to savour them.

But there is one drawback to having time to savor and think responses over: there are too many possible permutations and with time to think, it becomes almost impossible to choose. There are a bewildering array of possibilities available ...

But there is one drawback to having time to savor and think responses over: there are too many possible permutations and with time to think, it becomes almost impossible to choose. [...]

That's a happy quandry to have! Practically all good creative writing has some such! In an earlier post l used the phrase 'authorial stamina'! The payoff afterwards - besides the sexual feelings aroused - is at least partly the satisfaction of both parties at putting 'our' sexy story together!

But this may well be a case of 'you have to do it to understand'!

- Ken

That's a happy quandry to have! Practically all good creative writing has some such! In an earlier post l used the phrase 'authorial stamina'! The payoff afterwards - besides the sexual feelings aroused - is at least partly the satisfaction of both parties at putting 'our' sexy story together!

And at times nothing has to 'happen' at all - the story can pause while you describe your inner feelings and thoughts to each other. That's much harder to do in person!

For an indication of the sort of pleasure and excitement that interactive roleplay-by-correspondence can give both parties, have a look at the situation described in the initial posts of the thread '16 and embarrassed' - bearing in mind that it is interactive and shared - and that it is set down in words!

It's clear that casdoc, in the post just below, takes my point. Thanks, casdoc!

- Ken

Roleplay can be good in a private setting. It's also good to communicate and get to know one another. Discuss limits and desires or real life wants. Sometimes just a conversation of everyday things can lead to deep friendship and great roleplay

Hmm. Roleplay-by-correspondence isn't basically about discussion or a getting-to-know-you conversation, toshe63. Those things can certainly come before the roleplay-by-correspondence begins. But the actual roleplay-by-correspondence is much more an interactive story or scenario or drama in which the roles are pre-assigned (e.g., doctor and patient) and should be stuck to by the players throughout - otherwise it would surely become a mess and a shambles!

In their roles, the two parties are of course each free to use their knowledge of their character to imrovise their responses and 'lines', and to share the secret thoughts of their character (e.g., that the doctor takes a liking to his patient from when he first sees him/her, and straight away plans to add certain 'refinements' to the exam; or the patient has certain kinks, such as a fondness for auscultation, which will result in immediate arousal!)

Overall, though, the exam, in my view, should be realistic at all times! That is, the roleplay-by-correspondence should itself be realistic and 'in-character' throughout!

- Ken

Thought I'd revive this thread (btw, l liked casdoc's sensible post #14), given that Covid-19 is upon us and more Zity-ers are at home with time to spare.

Think about it, and maybe find someone nice to go the distance with!

- Ken

I couldn’t do any sexual activity over the phone. Cyber or phone sex just wouldn’t work. For me! Best for you that get off on it.

I'll try and keep this impersonal! I've already said below that roleplay-by-correspondence isn't for everyone, and is certainly best understood in the practice. My thanks to the nice person who just sent me a PM saying that she appreciates this. And may l recommend post #4 below?! 😃

Thanks - Ken

P.S. 'Correspondence' means 'correspondence'. Telephone roleplay is not what this thread is about.

I just stated it wouldn’t work for me me. Not impersonal.

enjoy whatever it is that’s gets your rocks off.

I enjoy roleplay. Never haf a exam though. My interests lays more in the humiliation and being submissive, chat gram works for me as does zity chatting or even the chatroom. Each got its own attraction.

I enjoy writting in detail how an instruction make me feel and how my bidy responds.

Chatgram is a bit more instant but has never felt rushed to me ( I must be lucky with the men I met there)

Chatroom adds a layer of humiliation into it as it is a bit like being humiliated, teased, arroused in public, you never know how will join. My greatest in line fantasy would be to have 2 or 3 men talking to me where I am the one being teased it would be very humiliating to describe accurately how they make me feel and how my body is reacting to their instructions/ words.

The corresponding through zity messenger does fill me with excitement too. As I said all 3 methods offer real enjoyment/excitement but all 3 are different.

I have never really understood the dynamics of “Roleplay”.

For instance, if I want to be a little boy again, am I meant to respond and write in the fashion of a little boy? That is, complete with spelling errors, bad grammar, etc?

One could go further back to be a baby, so, again does one respond with “goo goo, gaa gaa”?

I enjoy writting in detail how an instruction make me feel and how my bidy responds.

Yes, exactly that. It's a particular and very special sort of intimacy. For me it's hugely arousing for someone to describe the effect I'm having on their mind and their body.

There's another Zity thread, 'What Happened to All the Good Role-Players Out There?', that some of you may like to visit. It too makes the case that good writing makes for good roleplaying-by-correspondence.

- Ken

Timing makes it tough but if both are patient it can be exciting. I don’t have much experience.

First time was with a Zity member who I noticed is now banned. She was unfriendly and rude because I did not do everything according to her specifications. I told her I was a 100% novice up front. It was not fun. Still I decided to try again with someone who commented on one of my Zity posts. I played doctor with her over a few days. She wanted her temp taken rectally and I happily obliged.

Another woman and I shared our medfet fascination and personal histories over several weeks. And also our anal fetish which led to some light hearted but stimulating role play. Examining each other’s bottoms. That was all done on Tumblr. Then she disappeared.

Today a 'doctor' on Zity examined my young alter ego on Chat Gram. It was fun. But this doctor had a limited 'range' (things to do) and, yes, I did find it rushed! (That's despite the fact that the doctor went on and on with one or two particular 'techniques', nice in themselves. But my young body, and my medfet desires, were left largely ungratified. They almost cried out for more diversified attention!) In roleplay-by-correspondence, you're almost forced to be inventive and descriptive, and can share secret thoughts that you wouldn't do with a real doc. That makes for a fuller experience!

- Ken

Am having a wonderful ‘roleplay by correspondence’ at the moment with my ‘doctor’ in Germany. It's realistic but inventive, and both parties know how to describe their inner feelings (seldom fully expressed in ‘live’ roleplays). My ‘doctor’ is responsive to my wants/needs - and he can tease, or slow-torture, expertly!

Find yourself in such roleplay, I say!

- Ken

I have never really understood the dynamics of “Roleplay”.

For instance, if I want to be a little boy again, am I meant to respond and write in the fashion of a little boy? That is, complete with spelling errors, bad grammar, etc?

One could go further back to be a baby, so, again does one respond with “goo goo, gaa gaa”?

It's like talking about eating a steak. It's not really there.

No, no, sundaybrunch (post #29 ), and some other doubters out there! A novel or a play might refer to ‘reality’, but the best then proceed to offer their own. With a ‘Dr M’, a play-doctor, l once had half a summer of enjoyable suspense, not half an hour of sweaty sex!

Imagination and invention can be very powerful, you know! 😉

- Ken