What makes for good exam technique?

This is a question for the ladies, and I suppose it could apply to both real and play exams: what, in your opinion and experience, defines good technique in the GYN exam? What I mean is, apart from a doctor's demeanor and bedside manor, which moments in how you are physically touched and interacted with during the exam are most important for your feeling comfortable and what specific ways that a doctor performs those parts of the exam make for a good experience from your perspective?

For example, in many teaching materials it's often said that any time fingers or a speculum are being inserted into the vagina, downward pressure should be applied to keep from pressing against sensitive tissues (e.g., the G spot) on the anterior vaginal wall. What sorts of small details of how a doctor examines you like that are important to a good exam technique for you?

Thanks for any thoughts or experiences you'd like to share with us!

Excellent question since for me its not about becoming aroused, as if, it was a play exam. I want a doctor who takes her time; I prefer a fem for the exam since she likely understands the sensitivity involved. It doesn't have to be a female but for me it helps. I don't like a doctor who is short on being cordial and too quick to dive in so to speak. I don't want to be treated like that and expect one to be gentle and to advise me as to what happens next even though this is not my first exam but could be with the attending doctor. An exam with an unfamiliar doctor for me comes with certain anxiety and it helps to have someone who realizes that for me the process is very personal. I think most do but have had some clunkers along the way including a nurse who may have been experiencing a bad day!