Very much off topic because It isn't necessarily related to diapers but Susie's reference to petit mort/little death is one of the reasons why there is lack of interest after orgasm.
It's the reason why men, in the main, are classified as Wham, bahm, thank you... and they roll over and go to sleep. Mother Nature says 'the job is done'. But modern man should defy nature and take part in the afterglow of a sexual encounter, first ensuring that his mate is satisfied and then basking with his mate in a quite wonderful happening which will frequently move back into a renewed sexual phase.
There is another reason for seeming lack of interest, this one particularly relating to women who have just had a clitorally related orgasm, or think they have, and that is the acute sensitivity of the clitoral region, which can even result in pain when the region is stimulated again.
In my view it is caused by an incomplete orgasm where stimulation, whilst pleasurable up to a point, is stopped prematurely because it is too acute for the woman who either fears loss of control of the situation, near fainting, or fears losing bladder control. After what I call a 'whole body orgasm' a woman will very shortly be able to be stimulated to orgasm again. The ability of a woman to be able to give herself over totally to a whole body orgasm is hard to learn but never forgotten once it has happened. If that TOTAL release has not happened then it is natural that the acute sensitivity is still there, manifesting itself by that apparent lack of interest in continuing.
Most women affected by this do genuinely feel that they have orgasmed. It's only when they get that first whole body orgasm that they know what they have been missing. There is an unfortunate consequence of repeated incomplete orgasms, i.e. not resulting in TOTAL release, which results in many of what are commonly called 'womens problems'. In foreplay, play and in intercourse the pelvic region is suffused with an additional blood supply and, more importantly hormones, really designed in nature for aiding conception. This pelvic congestion is not relieved when orgasm is incomplete and there is stagnation, with unfortunate effects on the reproductive system if it continues for a long time. Upsets in the timing of the menstrual cycle, flooding, clotting, pain etc; feature here.
Maybe there are those who would say that, if Mother Nature says that when his 'job is done' a man can roll over and go to sleep regardless of his partner, why is it that it's such a problem nowadays? Well, in days long gone, when there was scant contraception or scant use of what contraception was available, a woman would often become pregnant quickly. Pregnancy virtually instantly changes the physiology of the reproductive system and whilst intercourse/sexual play may continue into pregnancy those hormonal issues no longer are a factor so no 'womens problems' are generated.
I've wandered somewhat I know from the issue of seeming lack of interest/sensations too acute etc. In returning to this theme I would only say that stimulating the clitoral region is not the only way of giving a woman further orgasms. There is G-spot stimulation, anal stimulation etc. And even clitoral stimulation can be able to be continued if, instead of stimulating the clitoris itself, the clitoral hood only is touched, perhaps moving it to and fro over the clitoris rather than that rather rough finger application. Many of my patients who have said they cannot continue with further stimulation find that they can and do become multi-orgasmic this way.
If anyone wishes to know more about whole body orgasms please feel free to PM me or write direct to my email at karlstone@talktalk.net.
Your views perhaps on this off topic matter?