Is a boy ever too old to have his mom sit in?

I once had an anal exam at a proctologist. I thought I had haemorrhoids but as it turned out, I had a cut along the inside of my sphincter muscles caused by my girlfriend's long fingernail.

Now that was embarrassing, as the doctor abused me of my initial self diagnosis and explained the reality.

But it didn't put me off anything except long nails ... ha ha

Didn't really give a fig about what the doc thought either.

@agracier was your mom with you? LOL

I once had an anal exam at a proctologist.

@agracier was your mom with you? LOL

Are you out your mind? Good grief no. Not in a million years! ... ha ha

I was 21 at the time anyway.

Are you out your mind? Good grief no. Not in a million years! ... ha ha

I was 21 at the time anyway.

@agracier not out of my mind. Just paying careful attention to thread titles. 😎

Are you out your mind?

I was 21 at the time anyway.

I know guys whose moms still went with them when they were 21.

I know guys whose moms still went with them when they were 21.

Poor guys. Unless it was so their mothers would pay the doctor's bill ... ha ha

I know guys whose moms still went with them when they were 21.

Whose idea do you think that was? The guys or their moms? A guy on a now-defunct physical exams porn site said his mom attended his exam at 17, and she insisted on doing so over his objections. (I said the guy's stage name and which site it was in a prior post that was taken down without explanation, so I hope I've removed whatever the offending thing was.)

Whose idea do you think that was? The guys or their moms?

As for the guys that I know, it was theirs, or if it was their moms they willingly went along with it.

Like some have said, as a teen, I would have preferred, even if it would have been embarrassing, to be examined by a doctor -male or female one (but at my time, except at school examinations each year, there was very few women doctors at a private 'office)- in presence of a female nurse ( rather not too young when I was a teenager of course ) than in presence of my mother ( even if my mother like I have already related was very discreet and looked away if I was naked ) because a nurse was a stranger

And same for dad, I would have also preferred the presence of a nurse than his presence.

As regards the comments about a son examined in presence of his mother at 17age which seemed surprising for one of you, I think that it was not so exceptional and surprising in the past , in the 60's, most of the doctors were not surprised by the presence of a mother with a son aged under 18 age, it seemed normal, they did not question her presence and they prefer to talk with her about the health issues than with a boy; It has changed now but it was the reality of that time

@Ladybug761 That seems like a very reasonable way to handle it as your kids grow up.

Considering the era when I came of age, I was ready for my mom to stop accompanying me into the exam room long before puberty started. But, back in those days, kids didn’t tell their parents what to do and certainly didn’t tell the doctors how to run their exam procedures.

@slipyourunderwearoff you said you were ready for your mom to stop accompanying you into the exam room long before puberty started.

In contrast, when I had my first exam alone with the doctor at 17 (my mom was in another exam room with my younger brother down the hall), it actually felt weird to me. I had gone there assuming that my brother and I would be examined together in front of our mom. I gather from the conversation in the car going home afterward that she too expected to see us examined together.

Can you explain why you were ready to be examined alone?

I had to have someone over 21 years old in as a chaperone. For the most part, in teenage years it was my dad, sometimes my mom. If I had the choice I wouldn’t have wanted either one. I wanted some privacy. Unfortunately, office policy provided for a chaperone.

Can you explain why you were ready to be examined alone?

Answer from a different member than you asked, but here it is anyway.

From my experiences when young, ,there were various reasons why I most certainly did not like parents (my mother overwhelmingly) accompanying me. Not that it did much good, but I still did not like it one bit.

First because my mother made a big production out of anything medical. For her it was potentially going to hear I had an incurable disease. She would go along, often wringing her hands in her lap, an anxious expression on her face as if at a funeral or being resigned to hearing the worst kind of news. I could not stand such motherly concern and therefore was always prone to minimizing any and all kinds of illnesses I did have (a sore throat, flu? - No mom, I can go to school. No problem). My mother was prone to expect the worst news from a doctor.

And second because all that motherly concern made me feel helplessly like a young child, with no say in anything. Quite humiliating and embarrassing actually. As if I had no basic knowledge of how to comport myself at a doctor's exam or was too stupid to understand anything.

I do know that at 17 she still accompanied me, later ages I am not certain of. But at 17 it was embarrassing enough.

Oddly though, she never came along to a dentist's appointment after I was 13 or so. Thank goodness for small mercies ...

My mother accompanied me to medical visits until I was 17. However, she did not come to the sports medical visits that I did with the ski club.

Both my parents often sat in on physical exams when they took me and my brothers to the doctor. None of the doctors ever specifically told my parents to leave the room, though my mom sometimes took a hint and would step out. My dad NEVER took a hint and, where mom would at least be discreet if she was in the room, dad very openly watch and communicate during it.

To be more direct about the question, I think it is case by case but parents should be attentive and understand when to stay and when not to.

I went to school with a guy who was my age. He was a foster kid and his foster parent was required to be in the room during his regular exams he said. At least thats what he said our senior year. I know he had to have a "baby sitter" till he was 18 also, as required by the state.

OMG I used to wonder about certain boy classmates... did their moms see of them what my mother saw of me? My mom came into the exam room until I was 17. Always wanted to be a fly on the wall of other people's exams. Still do!

@GraceT

Whilst thankfully not up to 17 but yes in my case around 15 or so mom was present during a checkup.

OMG I used to wonder about certain boy classmates... did their moms see of them what my mother saw of me? My mom came into the exam room until I was 17. Always wanted to be a fly on the wall of other people's exams. Still do!

Most exams rooms aren’t that large. If those boys moms were in the exam room then there is a very good chance they saw just about everything.

I think its ok for moms to sit in on their boy's entire exam up until puberty starts and then she should step out for the genital exams. I distinctly remember how embarrassing it was having my step mother in the room during genital exams up until I turned 16.

Most exams rooms aren’t that large. If those boys moms were in the exam room then there is a very good chance they saw just about everything.

Exam rooms used to be larger back in the good old days but still, it was just a room, and yes my mother saw everything when she sat in on my physical exams (until the end of high school).

OMG I used to wonder about certain boy classmates... did their moms see of them what my mother saw of me? My mom came into the exam room until I was 17. Always wanted to be a fly on the wall of other people's exams. Still do!

@GraceT everything came off by the end of the exam. The view was partially blocked by the doctor's body while I was laying down on the exam table. When I had to hop down from the table everything was in view of my mother and sister. The doctor did a second genital exam followed by a hernia exam. Had to scramble to get my underwear on. Very embarrassing 😳

My mom was taking me and my younger brother at every exam until I was 16 year old.

I had an aunt (who raised me) and she came to every exam basically until I was 16 and convinced my dad I was old enough to handle things on my own. I don't think she needed to be in the room after I was like 13, although my pediatricians office insisted a parent be present until you were 18, so I can't really blame my aunt.

I got out of it after 16 by no longer going to a pediatrician.

"Colin 66" does it mean that if you had still gone to the pedriatrician between 16 and 18 age, you could not have been alone for the examination, your aunt or your dad might have come with you and enter in the room with you because there was a regulation about the presence of an adult person to attend at the physical examination like a chaperone ?

I went to school with a guy who was my age. He was a foster kid and his foster parent was required to be in the room during his regular exams he said. At least thats what he said our senior year. I know he had to have a "baby sitter" till he was 18 also, as required by the state.

I always wondered how that worked. I was totally used to my mom seeing me naked each year at my well child exams into my teens, but it must be a weird experience for a teen to have their first physical exam in front of a new foster parent.

"Colin 66" does it mean that if you had still gone to the pediatrician between 16 and 18 age, you could not have been alone for the examination, your aunt or your dad might have come with you and enter in the room with you because there was a regulation about the presence of an adult person to attend at the physical examination like a chaperone ?

Sorry I missed this question. I don't think I ever really knew what the policy was. I just remember every year I would tell my dad I was old enough to go alone, and every year he would say that wasn't allowed because the pediatrician's office policy required an adult be present until I was 18. Maybe at 18 I could have gone alone. I would then beg him to go, or send anyone else in the world besides my aunt, but she always went.

The stupid thing I learned too late was that all I needed to do was ask for a different doctor. sigh.

Whenever the boy is no longer comfortable with her being there, OR he turns 18, whichever comes first- that's when he's too old.

As always- local laws, individual hospital policy, and family dynamics may apply.

I always wondered how that worked. I was totally used to my mom seeing me naked each year at my well child exams into my teens, but it must be a weird experience for a teen to have their first physical exam in front of a new foster parent.

Medfet interest aside, being naked and vulnerable in front of a parental figure who's NOT a blood relation had to be surreal and bizarre.

I stopped having a parent with me once I turned 13. If there was anything the dr needed to tell them, he could do that after the exam. I dont Typically like to “yuck someone’s yum”, but the focus on parents and siblings that pops up in the fetish is very bizarre to me.