Why do parents spank bare bottomed?

Its hard to respond regarding thoughts growing up as I was only spanked once. I still remember it because my mother told my father to do it and I think it probably hurt him to strike his child more than the rather light tapping I received. I continue to remain dumbfounded why anyone would strike their child. We teach our kids to be tolerant of others and act rationally. Childhood spanking is anything but (No pun intended 😃 ). That being said, the humiliation I have received as an adult who has been spanked is an entirely different situation. Everything that parents want to create in their kids with the wrong method holds true for the enjoyment we as adults like to spank or be spank, go figure.

I have had my pants lowered in front of others and spanked in my underwear and then lowered to be exposed in the most vulnerable positions- humiliation, submission, who knows. As adults, this is our option. As kids, it is not.

Its hard to respond regarding thoughts growing up as I was only spanked once. I still remember it because my mother told my father to do it and I think it probably hurt him to strike his child more than the rather light tapping I received. I continue to remain dumbfounded why anyone would strike their child. We teach our kids to be tolerant of others and act rationally. Childhood spanking is anything but (No pun intended 😃 ). That being said, the humiliation I have received as an adult who has been spanked is an entirely different situation.

I was spanked as a child but as the oldest of 10 it was pretty rare. Mom usually got the wooden spoon out or a yardstick and gave us a crack or two with that over clothes. I think the intent was to get our attention more than anything else. The "rare" wait until your dad gets home threat was usually taken seriously although he didn't like to do it any more than she did. He would usually whip off his belt and crack it once and then yell and everyone would scatter for parts unknown. This same scenario worked at my house and when I took off the belt my daughter would run screaming to her room and the son would take leg bail in any direction but mine. I'm not sure I ever struck either one of them , the threat was more than enough. On the other hand, a nice ladies bottom over my knee and turning red is a very nice sight!

Denise has already put it in a nutshell 😉 besides, the panties did not do anything 😄

i think the most important thing is that you see the effect immediately. so you can react appropriately.

Cause it hurts more!!!

Even more if a flip flop was used....

Bad memories here.....lol

Za

I was always spanked bare bottom, actually i would have to undress for my spankings. I think she did it to add a level of control and embarassment. She would have me walk to the kitchen and get the wooden spoon, then bring it back and hand it to her. Then i would have to stand in front of her while she scolded me and told me why i was getting a spanking. There was no doubt who was in control

Anyone as a youngster who has been placed across a parent's lap, had their bottom bared and then given a spanking knows all too well that this will in fact change and or alter their behavior. And parents know this too! This age old tried & proven method was discovered countless years ago and when administered selectively for the purpose of educating (yes educating!) and forming favorable behavioral patterns stated directly it is quite effective. Of course spanking a bared butt must be done with fairness and with a limited amount of "sting". However, ,coupled with a thorough explanation some "corner time" and or loss of privileges ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,"ya' can't argue with results!"

OH and by the way, we all know too that in many arrangements this method can also be favorably utilized with husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, significant others and et cetera!

Most of my spankings at home were carried out on the bare well into my teenage years and they certainly got through to me every time. It was embarrassing, but my mother found them effective. I am also a believer in their effectiveness.

Anyone as a youngster who has been placed across a parent's lap, had their bottom bared and then given a spanking knows all too well that this will in fact change and or alter their behavior. !

Physically punishing and hurting someone underage also teaches them that might does not necessarily make right, but that it cannot be resisted by physical means.

It might also very well make them more adept and sneaky at avoiding detection.

And from we can read here, there were many members who were constantly spanked, which did little to change their behavior at all. If spanking does alter or change behavior, then surely just one or, at most, a few instances and applications should do the trick. But it apparently doesn't. Otherwise why were and are children apparently spanked again and again and again, often into their late teens? If spanking really did the trick, you'd think by that age the lessons would have been learned.

And what kind of lessons are learned if children are spanked for false reasons? A tattle-tale sibling telling lies about another sibling for instance. What lessons does that teach? That telling lies gets you what you want?

@agracier ...

I have never met a child, tween, teen, or adult who's level of sophistication (ie: sneakiness) doesn't increase in order to engage in prohibited behaviors, and avoid any resulting consequences (not just spankings).

Good traditional/proper spankings, when combined with other discipline for bad behavior, and rewards for good behavior, are an extremely effective way to help achieve desirable behavior modification.

Properly administered corporal punishment does not teach that "might makes right" any more so than other properly administered punishments of every kind. By definition, punishments are administered to those under authority, by those in authority. Obviously, it is the responsibility of an authority to lovingly and not-abusively administer discipline, in such ways as to achieve desirable behavior modification... for the benefit of the recipient of the punishment. It is short-sighted to say that good disciplinarians should not maintain discipline (including the judicial use of corporal punishment) because somebody somewhere will administer discipline in ineffective or abusive ways.

Regarding the straightforward question, why spank on a bare bottom? ...

Clearly, it's the obvious way to eliminate a large number of variables. For example, imagine a boy and a girl spanked for cheating on a math test...

The boy is spanked over his cotton school trousers and a pair of white cotton briefs. The girl is spanked over a thick pleated wool school skirt and three pair of panties, pulled on one over the top of another (a trick used by girls and boys when they know they're gonna be spanked).

Solution... trousers and underpants down... skirt up and panties down!

Also, a bared bottom can be monitored during a strapping/paddling/caning. Corporal punishment should be at least a little bit uncomfortable... and, if necessary, cause some discomfort for the recipient when sitting down for 24-48 hours, but not abusive! Warm scarlet buttocks, with perhaps a few stripes from a hickory switch, can be a great way to correct disobedience, but the severity of the redness and stripes needs to be commensurate with the severity of the disobedience that is being corrected. Therefore, good disciplinarians need to keep an eye on bare bottoms that are being chastised.

Lastly, required nudity can be an effective way to emphasize humble submission to disciplinary authority. As a boy, I knew that severe disobedience would result in me being required to strip completely naked and present my bare bottom for a whipping with my father's razor strop. For the most part, this pain/embarrassment motivated me to avoid severe disobedience. On occasion, the temptation to disobey was intense enough for me to try being sneaky, rather than being obedient to avoid the strop. This only happened a few times, because when I was busted for being extra-sneaky, I was rewarded with an extra trip to my father's workshop. Receiving his razor strop in the evening and again the following morning made it extra-risky to be extra-sneaky!

I remember my dad saying, "Son, your grandpa dealt with me severely when I engaged in premeditated deception... 40 in the evening and 40 in the morning... it worked well for me, and I suspect not sitting comfortably for a week will work well for you also!"

Dad: "Bend over the saw horse, son."

Me: "Yes, Sir "

I remember my dad saying, "Son, your grandpa dealt with me severely when I engaged in premeditated deception... 40 in the evening and 40 in the morning... it worked well on me, and I suspect not sitting comfortably for a week will work well on you also! Bend over the saw horse, son."

I read inter-generational physical violence perpetrated on minors. And a somewhat smug satisfaction in being allowed to dish it out in turn once old enough with children of their own. I call that getting even, but on the wrong persons ...

It is the same psychological mechanism at work as with non-medically required infantile circumcision. They did it to me so I'm gonna to it to the next generation when its my turn to be the big honcho.

Many reasons are listed here, but two are the most important. First, the parent sees the consequences of the punishment. Secondly, the child is submissive. As a child, I always had to lower my pants and pants at the beginning of the spanking.

When I was very small my mother did it, then she demanded that I do it myself. I felt subordinate preparing for punishment. Mom always said that she must see my bare buttocks. When he sees, he beats me with the right force, not too hard and not too weak. I was not ashamed of my mother, so that I had to undress was not embarrassing for me. I was never ashamed to undress with my mother. However, I didn't want anyone to know that I had to show my bare buttocks.

So it stings/hurts more to get the point across that you really fucked up and shouldn't do whatever you did again. Being spanked while wearing any kind of pants is a buffer so it'll prevent feeling the sharpest, stinging pain.

To make sure you don't spank to much as to damage the skin or muscles.

To make sure you don't spank to much as to damage the skin or muscles.

Now that sounds like contrary advice. Clothing, pants, underpants should protect a child's skin and muscles from the dire effects of a spanking.

Unless that is, the person doing the spanking goes off all half-baked enraged and out of their mind. Don't tell me that a paddle or leather belt or strop will do less damage to the skin when naked than when clothed.

Was looking at spring break videos on youtube - wow! the sight of all the gals in thong back suits - I couldn't help but think how spankable they looked. I then wondered if thongs had been popular back in my day (1950's), when you could get spanked at the drop a hat, would parents have left the thong in placed or would they still pull it down? Is exposing the genitals a big part of bare bottom spankings, after all, even a full back pantie could be pulled into the crack to expose the cheeks while keeping the rest covered..

Well I would speak from experience......... I would say it would be to get the point across.

My mother felt that baring me enhanced the correction and led to an easier path of atonement. Once this was done, I was given my spankings and that led to a clearing of the air and guidance to better decisions.

I think the embarrassment of a bare bottom is as much punishment as the actual spanking. My parents rarely spanked and never on the bare. I followed this mantra when raising my own 3 kids. They turned out just fine.

The humiliation and embarrasement of having to drop your pants and underwear. And the submission of bending over or laying down , and presenting your bottom for a parent to punish you , a lot of times is worst then the spanking itself.

Yes - humiliation, embarrassment, to show who's boss and in control of you, as well as because they wanted it to really sting.

I had never given it much thought, but there are a number of valid observations expressed here. In hindsight, those times when I really had my mom PO'd, my pants came down for her enhanced version of discipline. While it stung more than getting smacked with my pants up, I was still rather impervious to pain.

This brings up the idea of control and humiliation as factors. I'm sure that was my mom's way of overcoming my diminished or lack of response to pain. The same was likely true when the enema bag was put into play. I was most submissive with a bare bum and the control freak in command.

Thinking back, I noticed my involuntary reactions stirring at the thought of receiving a spanking or an enema. They certainly did when I observed some other unlucky soul about to be on the receiving end.

Mostly, I think it's to avoid wearing out the spanking hand before the bottom is worn out!

I've asked my mother about this in the past and she said for a few reasons. One was simply because it was how her parents spanked her. The second was she felt there should be some embarrassment. And the third reason was because 99% of the time she used her hand only so she felt it would be pointless to spank over pants, etc.

My mother considered the embarrassment of it as part of the punishment. After puberty I hated having to be naked for a spanking and her response was that I could avoid it by behaving properly.

My mother never did. She was always fully-clothed.

My mom says it stings more that way and also the embarrassment of being bare is part of the punishment. When I'm getting scolded and my panties pulled down, it feels like the point of no return and I know I'm for sure getting a spanking.

My parents occasionally spanked me bare bottom to around age eight, if I'd done something bad enough to deserve a bared butt spanking, and it was probably two reasons. First would be the embarrassment of baring yourself to be spanked, and second would be it hurts/stings a helluva lot more when you don't have clothing to buffer the blows.

Why do parents spank bare bottomed?

I doubt that the "why" question actually existed for most parents.

Of course, it is possible to list a variety of obvious reasons... Spanking hurts more on the bare. But at the same time the spanking parent can see the kid's behind and not overdo the spanking and avoid accidentally leaving bad marks or bruising. Spanking on the bare also allows to use lesser force and to produce intense but quickly passing surface sting, whereas spanking through pants would require harder, more blunt physical force and penetrating blows that can cause bruising. The intent of parental spanking is to produce a good cry and a lesson learned, while avoiding physical damage and marking other than red stinging sore bottom but back to normal soon, and this is easier and more controllable on the bare bottom.

Also pants-down spankings are more embarrassing, and this is the part of the punishment and the deterrent.

Pants-down spanking is both embarrassing and childish and reminds the spanked kid that he or she is not a grown-up who can do as he wants, but only a young boy (or girl) who has to behave and obey parents and their rules. Spankings are intended to remind the punished kid of his/her subordinate status as a child and to underline parental control, and bare spankings do this more strongly. Being paced through an embarrassing and utterly juvenile ritual of a pants-down spanking and having to obediently comply with the punishment, is an object lesson in submission to parents and their authority.

Finally, pants-down spankings are more dramatic and shocking for a spanked kid, and produce a stronger impression and memory.

I was always spanked bare bottom growing up, and even as a tweenager not to mention as a teen later, spankings were a humbling punishment, always taking me a few good pegs down and totally deflating my pre-teen or young teenager ego, and turning me into a meek and docile cooperative boy trying to be extra-polite with my parents and well-behaved (for a time).

But I doubt most parents tended to reason it out this way. I suspect most parents just spanked the way they themselves were spanked growing up, or according to a general notion of how a juvenile spanking is done they might have had, and at least in my childhood time and the neighborhood the notion seemed to be that parental spankings for naughty children were pants-down. Most parents probably did not overthink it and just followed their own childhood experiences or general idea.

P.S. Nevertheless, one of my most embarrassing childhood memories related to spankings was overhearing once a conversation between my mother and a neighbor lady, a mother of a younger neighbor boy.

I was 13 at the time, it was Sunday morning, Dad and my younger brother were gone somewhere, and I and my mother were alone at home when the neighbor lady stopped by socially to have tea with my mother. I was in my room reading a book, and my mother and the neighbor lady were having tea in the kitchen. The door in my room was closed so the neighbor lady was not aware and did not suspect I was home, and my mother must have been thinking I cannot hear them, because their conversation clearly was not intended for my ears. But the door was not closed tight, so I could hear them.

They talked at first about various ladys' and housewives' stuff not really interesting to a kid and everything like weather, then started talking about children (not too unexpected for two mothers), and then about children's behavior and misbehavior, and about discipline, and before I knew it to my huge shock and embarrassment they started to talk about spankings and discussing what we kids did (our misbehavior incidents) and our spankings for it. I felt mortified of embarrassment and sat in my room very quietly, trying not to be heard and somehow be non-present.

Both my mom and neighbor lady spoke of spankings with approval, and agreed without any argument that bare bottom is the way to spank kids, and although I do not recall exact words (although I do recall certain phrases), but at this point my mother spoke of me (my name was mentioned) and said that "at this age" boys see themselves as "big cool men" who can do as they wish, and that's what often makes them misbehave, and that taking a boy's pants down for a good bare-bottom spanking takes all that "cool" and "big man" stuff out, and that a good spanking also making the boy to cry like a little kid further impresses that he is not some big man who can do as he wishes, but just a boy and has to behave and obey parents and the rules set by parents, and that a bare-bottom spanking also greatly devalues any "heroic" or "big man" sense and motive of misbehavior for a boy. I remember clearly she said "bare-bottom spanking does not make boy a hero", and added "pants down it hurts their pride as much as their bottoms".

I was sitting very quietly, trying not to make a sound so as not to draw their attention to me being there, but I just did not know where to bury myself from the embarrassment. Luckily, at this point their conversation was interrupted by noises from the kitchen, sounded like my mother was refilling the tea kettle and putting it on the stove, and something else was being moved there, so whatever was said drowned in the noise and I could not make it out. When the noise subsided, they already changed the subject and were talking about something else, passing to the next subject of their small talk.

I stayed very quiet for some time until the guest lady left, and then quietly slipped out of the house and went to meet my friend for going to the movies. But my mind was somewhere else, I just did not know what to think about what I heard my mom saying and how to process it. And overhearing this conversation stayed an intense memory for me till this day.

By the way, speaking of my mother's words about "pants down it hurts their pride as much as their bottoms", I probably would not have agreed about the "more" part because dad's paddle hurt my bottom like there was no tomorrow, but my pride sure felt wounded too, that was true. Bare-bottom spanking does this, especially at this macho-man 13 yr. old stage. It is indeed hard to see yourself as a macho man when you get spanked bare bottom with your pants and underpants down over your father's knee, reduced to a kicking crying begging sniveling little kid, and then also have to stand in the corner after the spanking as was my dad's usual spanking procedure throughout my childhood.

The intent of parental spanking is to produce a good cry and a lesson learned, while avoiding physical damage and marking other than red stinging sore bottom but back to normal soon, and this is easier and more controllable on the bare bottom..

From many accounts that I have read here, it seems that many parents missed the memo on what their 'intent' should really be. It sounds like many cared not a whit about avoiding physical damage or marking.