Female seduction

Is the art of a female seducing her man dead? Seems like all the women I meet don't know how, or are too prudish to try and seduce me. Most of them can't even ask for sex let alone try seducing.

Maybe they just aren't that into you.

The art of seduction is not dead. Once upon a time this was an art that taught in aristocratic families. But since the media took on the role of education of mass, since then everything changed. Once, My grandmother used to teach me how to interest a certain man to start courting me. Ex: View, smile, question, common interests, situation, opportunity ...My mother taught me how to turn attention to myself: Ex: clothes, conversations, situations, hoby ... I learned very quickly how to interest a man for me.

The second story is when the two are already in touch. When I seduce my lover to pay more attention to me: Ex: dear come here... I need your help, dressed in erotic lingerie, erotic chats, Would you love to kiss me here, ...There are thousands of situations. For which is impossible to give a standard recipe.

Is the art of a female seducing her man dead?

No. The chemistry has to be right and the conditions have to be right for anything to occur. My wife seduces me constantly, and she always did so very effectively. For us, the chemistry between us has always produced fireworks.

But if you are finding nothing is happening between you and these women, then it sounds as if there is nothing there, at least from how they see it.

I have been married over 16 years to my husband and I can most assure you that the art of seduction is not dead.

It may take many ways, a tube of bright red lipstick, a night on the town going commando under a skirt, a black catsuit, nothing on but just a bra, how could I forget a long leg girdle, pictures in the back yard. Just be creative.

If anything, women today are more assertive, confident, and sexually less inhibited. I can’t speak for women of today, but my belief is If they want you they will use all their seductive skills and assets.

Is the art of a female seducing her man dead? Seems like all the women I meet don't know how, or are too prudish to try and seduce me. Most of them can't even ask for sex let alone try seducing.

@rectal66 what do you - bring to the party? Are you just - expecting them to do all the work while you and they bask in your glory?

I don't know if prudish is a good word. Some women cling to the old teachings that asking for sex just isn't done. You use wiley ways to encourage your prospect. Then there are women who just don't get horny without encouragement.

I was with the same woman for approx. 8 years. We never had sex unless I started it. I longed to be kissed on the neck, ears, and whispered to "make love to me", but that never happened. I asked her why she couldn't seduce me or initiate sex and she said she couldn't, it was too hard for her to do that. I realize some people have old fashioned values, but not once in 8 years did she initiate sex or seduce me. When we did make love she did pretty much anything including anal, and swallowing, but she just could not be the initiator. Our sex life was great, just initiated by me all the time.

"Art"? All she has to do is reach in and grab what she wants to seduce me.

My first girl just took it out and pumped it until it didn't work anymore. Then she shoved my face in her delectable pussy and held it there until she got it working again.

@rectal66 said

I was with the same woman for approx. 8 years. We never had sex unless I started it. I longed to be kissed on the neck, ears, and whispered to "make love to me", but that never happened. I asked her why she couldn't seduce me or initiate sex and she said she couldn't, it was too hard for her to do that. I realize some people have old fashioned values, but not once in 8 years did she initiate sex or seduce me. When we did make love she did pretty much anything including anal, and swallowing, but she just could not be the initiator. Our sex life was great, just initiated by me all the time.

Some communication is non-verbal and subtle. It might not have been quite so obvious as you seem to expect it should be.

Has it not occurred to you that she might have had her own style, her own quiet signals that you simply didn't recognise? I've known many women send sexual signals loud and clear, and it can be all there in their body language, a look in their eye etc.

This isn't a matter of being old fashioned or not. If you expect women only to be sexually aggressive and pounce on you, and if you are oblivious to any other more subtle forms of seduction, then you might actually have missed a great amount. How you want women to behave towards you and what they will actually do might be different things.

The art of seduction is definitely not dead.

Some men would be happy having a partner that has sex at all and would be ecstatic if she did anal and swallowed.

I have to go with DrZ & Lora on their well made points too.

If you are not romantic, and wooing her at other times then maybe she is not “ feeling” it. Women like to be shown affection and appreciation outside of the bedroom too, not just when you want it for the sake of getting into her panties.

Does she show other signs that you are oblivious to?

I am naturally friendly & flirty, that is part of who I am though. Some people are more reserved and for some it is just hard for them to initiate.

If this is very important in your relationship and you have exhausted all attempts to get what you need and want then perhaps you need to keep looking until you have found your match in and out of the bedroom.

I was with the same woman for approx. 8 years. We never had sex unless I started it. I longed to be kissed on the neck, ears, and whispered to "make love to me", but that never happened. I asked her why she couldn't seduce me or initiate sex and she said she couldn't, it was too hard for her to do that. I realize some people have old fashioned values, but not once in 8 years did she initiate sex or seduce me. When we did make love she did pretty much anything including anal, and swallowing, but she just could not be the initiator. Our sex life was great, just initiated by me all the time.

It may have been how she was raised. The view she was raised with that a woman didn't initiate or make those kinds of advances on her man. It isn't wrong, but it wasn't quite what you were hoping to get from/with your woman.

@rectal66

' When we did make love she did pretty much anything including anal, and swallowing, but she just could not be the initiator. '

@rectal66 that was her seduction of you and you couldn't see that? There are many many women who will not perform oral sex on their husbands let alone swallow. Then the anal sex, again, not many married women or women in general would have anal sex. To hear you men tell it, you feel lucky if a woman will go down on you even without their swallowing. And if the woman does go down on you and swallow you proclaim that she is a 'keeper'. To hear other men tell their tale they would love to try anal or have regular anal sex with a woman but can't seem to find one of those creatures to save their life!

But for eight years @rectal66 you had a woman who would perform oral sex, swallow, and take you up her bum whenever you felt the urge. That's not seduction? 😮 It indeed may have been too hard for her to initiate a sexual encounter or 'seduce' you as you wanted,

I longed to be kissed on the neck, ears, and whispered to "make love to me", but that never happened.

And I can so understand that, but she took you as you wished and I very much doubt that she 'let' you have her the way you wanted. No @rectal66 she 'wanted' you to have her as you wished and I hope she wanted what you wanted, but no matter, she knew you wanted it and so she willingly went with you wherever it took her.

I also would not put it past you @rectal66 to have missed some subtle signs from her that she was thinking of sex too. Not because you are @rectal66 😉 no but because you are a man. Sometimes you men just don't 'get it'! 😧 🙄 Clueless beyond belief. 😁

I totally agree with @bridgette and @DrZ in their assessment of the situation. And you speak of her in the past tense and so I would have to agree with @Lora_C underlying sentiment that you may not have appreciated what you had right there in your own bed. That woman didn't refuse to go down on you, swallow you, or take her up her bum, and confessed to you that it was just too hard for her to initiate things like that. If you let her get away to search for a woman that would 'seduce you' I would wager that the other woman would not be so willing to take you orally or anally but more than willing to take you to the cleaners.

She turned out to be a total drunk. That is not the type of person I wanted to be with. I moved on even though she wanted to get back together. Sex is not a reason to stay with someone, at least for me. I didn't take her as I wished, she was willing and liked it, she just was not an initiator, and once in awhile it sure would have been nice.

She turned out to be a total drunk.

If she had serious drink problems then sex would hardly be your greatest concern.

I didn't take her as I wished, she was willing and liked it, she just was not an initiator, and once in awhile it sure would have been nice.

I'm not sure the comments made by myself and others have registered with you regarding how she might have been initiating sex all along. It's not everyone's style to be blunt.

@rectal66

'She turned out to be a total drunk. That is not the type of person I wanted to be with. I moved on even though she wanted to get back together. Sex is not a reason to stay with someone, at least for me. I didn't take her as I wished, she was willing and liked it, she just was not an initiator, and once in awhile it sure would have been nice.'

I sincerely hope she found someone who would appreciate and understand her. 🌹

Sometimes you men just don't 'get it'! 😧 🙄 Clueless beyond belief. 😁

I don't understand why you women say that all the time - but I hear it a lot from my wife!!! 😄

I don't understand why you women say that all the time - but I hear it a lot from my wife!!! 😄

@gwhap yes, yes, you hear it from your wife, but obviously you don't understand it. 😉 😁 😁 But she understands. 😁 😁 😁

@gwhap yes, yes, you hear it from your wife, but obviously you don't understand it. 😉 😁 😁 But she understands. 😁 😁 😁

WHAT???

Back on topic - my wife occasionally (rarely) came right out and said let's have sex or let's fuck. But there were LOTS of very subtle ways of "seducing" me. We rarely had wine with dinner - but once in while she would cork a good bottle and say "let's have a light dinner tonight - not get too full and tired". Shoulder rubs. She had a way of putting her head down and looking up with a snarky smile. Taking a shower before going to bed was a dead give away. Telling me she wanted to be nice and clean. Occasionally she would arrange a sleep over for our kids at a friends house and I would come home to her dressed in shorts and a loose top (we never really got into sexy lingerie - more like gym shorts and halter tops).

Personally, I don't think it is very hard for a woman to seduce a man - it's not in our DNA to resist or avoid sex!!!

WHAT???

?? - sigh.

Is it wrong for a guy to feel wanted and desired?

The art of seduction can be anything. It can be "That Look" as you are watching TV or maybe a quick smile at dinner. I think a lot of guys just aren't smart enough sometimes to see it for what it is. My wife didn't initiate sex a lot of times but when she did I picked up on it. I think a lot of it is upbringing as well. Someone raised in an open, not too religious setting is probably going to be much less uptight than someone that was. It also depends on personality. Not everyone is outgoing and and easy going. As people get more comfortable with each other can make a difference as well. There are many factors.

Is it wrong for a guy to feel wanted and desired?

You know it isn't - but you could use some lessons in communication yourself.

@gwhap yes, yes, you hear it from your wife, but obviously you don't understand it. 😉 😁 😁 But she understands. 😁 😁 😁

Translation: I know you that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is NOT what I meant.

Ok @rectal66 , I am seeing a pattern here. You have been given some great feedback but yet you are just saying the same thing over and over.

You are no longer with that girl (and I don’t see how 8 yrs went by without some clue she was a “drunk”).

Now it may be time to look at yourself in the mirror and see if there is anything that may need improvement that would make you worthy of what you desire.

@rectal66 said

Is it wrong for a guy to feel wanted and desired?

No one said or implied anything of the kind. But you are being advised by several posters not to expect women to go about seduction in a very obvious and unmistakable way that would perhaps be more typical of male behaviour.

Sorry, but women are often suggestive in ways more subtle than you seem prepared to accept. Have you made any attempt to analyse and pick up on the cues that women might have been giving you? I'm not seeing that in your posts.

Wouldn't it be an idea to look for signs such as mood and body language?

Every women is different. I am not going to seduce a man. I was raised that girls just don't do that. But i do love sex and kink. I am a submissive and i love being controlled by a man. If you want me to take your temperature rectally, i will do. If you want to take my temperature rectally, i will let you do it. It goes the same for enemas and spanking and etc. Yes, i will swallow, take it in the rear and etc. But, I am just not an initiator of sex. I will give you subtle hints, like bringing out the enema bag or putting the jar of Vicks on the night stand. I have always been the shy and quiet type. Once you get me going, we will have to time of your life.

Every women is different. .... I have always been the shy and quiet type. Once you get me going, we will have to time of your life.

Many men are also the shy and quiet type and not likely to initiate anything sexual for fear of offending or being rebuffed or doing something wrong. This type of personality trait/character is not reserved for ladies only.

I will give you subtle hints, like bringing out the enema bag or putting the jar of Vicks on the night stand. I have always been the shy and quiet type. Once you get me going, we will have to time of your life.

That, my dear, is seduction - the enticement of a person to have sexual intercourse or a sex act. It also goes both ways, one way to get a woman to seduce you is to first seduce her. We were about 60/40 in seducing each other (I was the 60). Making your partner feel wanted makes them want to want you.