Choosing to wear "protection"

Hi All, I was surfing then net for a while trying to find information on people that chose diapers/protection over surgery. Actually, I've done this several times. The result is always the same. There is no objective information about people that choose to wear diapers for incontinence over surgery. The medical profession takes the position that ALL incontinence is controllable and must be cured. I'm of the opinion ( honestly,partly due to my dl) that I'd rather wear a diaper than be cut up in surgery.

I guess I'm having a problem with this subject as I was tactfully chastised during a wellness checkup for wearing diapers over the urologist route. I'm fully aware of the health problems that can occur from diaper wearing (duh). For me, the idea of just casually strolling on down to the urologist office and get my privates probed in a very uncomfortable and humiliating manner is far worse than just wearing a diaper. The idea of it has even caused anxiety issues for me. The result of such a visit will clearly be a TURP surgery. I don't want to go through that. Sorry. I don't. I also worry about the cost. In America you never really know what the cost of a procedure was until about a year and a half after the procedure. I'm old. Sort of set in my ways, and would rather wear a diaper than go thru all of this. BPH in my case isn't even life threatening and just causes urge problems. So why does the medical profession have to be condescending. Yeah, I'm ranting. So does anyone have some thoughts or

opinions?

I'm not incontinent. At age 60, I've worn diapers when I'm able (once or twice a week) because all my life I've had a fetish for wet cloth diapers (I love the way they feel, I love the way they smell, I love looking at me when I'm wearing them, occasionally going out in public while wearing them, and lately I also love to poop them--and when it's done, I love getting myself off in them, and boy do I get myself off!).

But I've always said that if I ever do become incontinent, I'll choose to wear my diapers--and at that point I'll have an excuse to be more out in the open about it. Nobody has to know how much I'm secretly enjoying it!

Doesn't matter what the medical community says, as long as I'm of sound mind, I'll have the final word on it and that final word will be "DIAPERS!"

I agree with both of the answers.I,ve been urine incontinent for along time and didn,t want surgery my problems are caused by being a diabetic.

I’ve always liked diapers and do have some issues as I have gotten older. Most nights and weekends I wear diapers and find it better to be padded. Have to wet and messy clothes.

In my case my incontinent condition was caused by surgery, since having my prostate removed for cancer I have had stress incon. My wife says I should go back to see if they could fix it but I tell her I don't want to risk them making it worst. Really I like wearing diapers and like my level of incon.

I was told that surgery had no garuntuees of a successful outcome so decided to stick to nappies 24/7

Having had all the tests and been told the only option was a severe surgery with only a 50% chance (it is slightly better nowadays) it is a chance that the operation will make things much worse than they are now, so nappies work for me and I am happy to stay well padded and get on with my life without any surgery at all ☺

Excuse me whilst I go and unpack my next crate of nappies !

I agree with Stevewet and Squirmy. Surgery or medication or the combination of both is not the answer to every medical issue. Surgery is just as dangerous as some side effects of medication drugs. Just because you take medication for a headache doesn't mean that the headache went away and not return. I had a spinal cord injury which has caused me to be 100 % urinary incontinent with back pain. I was informed by three different surgeons that surgery would only have a successful rate of 15% at most. I chose to wear protection (diapers) 24/7 rather than taking the chance of becoming worse. I live my life as normal as possible with back pain and wearing diapers 24/7 which is better than a surgical procedure mishap that only had a 15 % success rate.

Most Doctors have the belief that a patient in diapers is miserable and that they as doctors and all the modern medicine techniques they learned are failures .

That's a fact!

Also a fact is drugs and surgery are invasive and should be a last resort for anything that ails short of broken and life threatening problems that can't be re mediated by any other known way.

There are many incontinent people in this world both known and unknown ( cheap absorbent products are plentiful and OTC) Lots of people dont have the desire or insurance to take a "leak" up with a doctor ,so many IC people are never formaly diagnosed ( common sense dictates if something leaks you find a way to control it ) in some cases you put a cork ,others a bucket .

In the case of humans the cork doesn't work ,it's harmful, buckets are heavy and tedious "if only there was a sorta tempoary cork, sorta bucket easy to empty or change when full or convient" Holy shit there is, its official term is "Diaper" . I have been IC 26+ years and have no problem with diapers ,they do what i need or ask ,to stem my leaks .

What you need to remember Doctors are paid to sell drugs and surgery as the cure ,the odds of success are greatly inflated ( with surgery they create whole new problems and 14 surgeries later they are contemplating selling you on the 15th, they havent fixed the problem you came in with all those years ago ,however they have bought a new house in the country with a two car garage ,Thank You never gets mentioned for those gifts).

Truly most people I know who start on the surgery merry go round only get worse ,become dependent on pain medication or other drugs to combat the results of the surgery that was supposed to be one and done ,problem solved . If diapers provide that basic quality of life your after ,that's your answer ,well the doctor is trying to sell you on drugs and surgery ,your answer to that is no Thank You, they are consultants ,you are there co equal or at worst there boss it's your body, your life , your future wellness and happiness .

If they were a plumber and you hired them to fix a leaking pipe and they did but in fixing the pipe they broke your toilet ,would you pay them and say "job well done" ,Not in this reality or any other .

Someday you may decide that having your plumbing messed with by a surgeon is right for you,people change ,if so you can go back and take them up on the surgical go round.

Here's a lesson I learned when I restored old cars as a hobby that seems appropriate , an old car in some cases is a "survivor"wash it, compound the paint, give it wax and tune up ,it's more valuable and way more impressive to look at a "survivor" car then it is to dump tons of time effort and energy to banish all traces of a flaw ,welding ,Hondo, painting ,hoping it up all have there place ,can't dispute that , however that car is only original once ,it has only made it to today as parts car fixer up or a survivor,it's up to your wisdom and judgement what it sees tommorow as, your ability to decide what's best for the car will make the difference in many cases between a million dollar car and one you get less then 25 % of what you put into it ,our bodies and drugs/ surgery is much the same ,cars can be bought and sold without breaking a sweat, your mortal coil as far as we know currently is trapped in the body ,the temple it's in .choose carefully !

If you can't tell I spend time in "deeper subjects " like philosphy ,theology,auto mechanics and science to make me a more informed educated robust person , i have studied or worked and done "hands on" wearing diapers .

Fortunately my urologist has never been one to want to try and talk me into buying what he's selling ,he's been with me since I started this journey ,few doctors have that lasting ability ,i have a trail of fired doctors in almost every other profession ,because they tried too hard to sell something I wasn't buying and one of fired the other in frustration ( i have seen many of them again years later ,and we are friends now ,time the "great equalizer" has given us both perspective. They may have 5 cents more degree in caring for many people ,than I do ,however I am an expert in all things me ,at the end of the day I have to cross the finish line (its an essential bias we all need and should have ) . I am always the long worded idiot in every room ,sorry.

Peace

Most Doctors have the belief that a patient in diapers is miserable and that they as doctors and all the modern medicine techniques they learned are failures .

That's a fact!

Also a fact is drugs and surgery are invasive and should be a last resort for anything that ails short of broken and life threatening problems that can't be re mediated by any other known way.

There are many incontinent people in this world both known and unknown ( cheap absorbent products are plentiful and OTC) Lots of people dont have the desire or insurance to take a "leak" up with a doctor ,so many IC people are never formaly diagnosed ( common sense dictates if something leaks you find a way to control it ) in some cases you put a cork ,others a bucket .

In the case of humans the cork doesn't work ,it's harmful, buckets are heavy and tedious "if only there was a sorta tempoary cork, sorta bucket easy to empty or change when full or convient" Holy shit there is, its official term is "Diaper" . I have been IC 26+ years and have no problem with diapers ,they do what i need or ask ,to stem my leaks .

What you need to remember Doctors are paid to sell drugs and surgery as the cure ,the odds of success are greatly inflated ( with surgery they create whole new problems and 14 surgeries later they are contemplating selling you on the 15th, they havent fixed the problem you came in with all those years ago ,however they have bought a new house in the country with a two car garage ,Thank You never gets mentioned for those gifts).

Truly most people I know who start on the surgery merry go round only get worse ,become dependent on pain medication or other drugs to combat the results of the surgery that was supposed to be one and done ,problem solved . If diapers provide that basic quality of life your after ,that's your answer ,well the doctor is trying to sell you on drugs and surgery ,your answer to that is no Thank You, they are consultants ,you are there co equal or at worst there boss it's your body, your life , your future wellness and happiness .

If they were a plumber and you hired them to fix a leaking pipe and they did but in fixing the pipe they broke your toilet ,would you pay them and say "job well done" ,Not in this reality or any other .

Someday you may decide that having your plumbing messed with by a surgeon is right for you,people change ,if so you can go back and take them up on the surgical go round.

Here's a lesson I learned when I restored old cars as a hobby that seems appropriate , an old car in some cases is a "survivor"wash it, compound the paint, give it wax and tune up ,it's more valuable and way more impressive to look at a "survivor" car then it is to dump tons of time effort and energy to banish all traces of a flaw ,welding ,Hondo, painting ,hoping it up all have there place ,can't dispute that , however that car is only original once ,it has only made it to today as parts car fixer up or a survivor,it's up to your wisdom and judgement what it sees tommorow as, your ability to decide what's best for the car will make the difference in many cases between a million dollar car and one you get less then 25 % of what you put into it ,our bodies and drugs/ surgery is much the same ,cars can be bought and sold without breaking a sweat, your mortal coil as far as we know currently is trapped in the body ,the temple it's in .choose carefully !

If you can't tell I spend time in "deeper subjects " like philosphy ,theology,auto mechanics and science to make me a more informed educated robust person , i have studied or worked and done "hands on" wearing diapers .

Fortunately my urologist has never been one to want to try and talk me into buying what he's selling ,he's been with me since I started this journey ,few doctors have that lasting ability ,i have a trail of fired doctors in almost every other profession ,because they tried too hard to sell something I wasn't buying and one of fired the other in frustration ( i have seen many of them again years later ,and we are friends now ,time the "great equalizer" has given us both perspective. They may have 5 cents more degree in caring for many people ,than I do ,however I am an expert in all things me ,at the end of the day I have to cross the finish line (its an essential bias we all need and should have ) . I am always the long worded idiot in every room ,sorry.

Peace