Having my gyno exam next week

There is nothing wrong with remaining a virgin if that is what you want. It's better than being a skank.

She didn't say that's what she WANTED.

She stated that's what she IS.

I never said there was anything wrong with being a virgin and I said I was sorry for assuming that at age 34 that she was sexually active.

Some people would call me a skank because I have a husband and a boyfriend. I just call myself lucky, lol.

Mashie

Mashie, you're a dirty girl!

Lol, I am a dirty girl and loving every minute of it too.

Mashie

If I were female, I'm near certain everyone would call me a whore. Fuck em.

It’s what I am and I have no problem being that. I have no interest in flippant sex. Dominating someone doesn’t always have to be a sexual thing. Punishment or discipline - what I was looking for - is not a sexual thing unless you make it that way. When your parents spanked you as a child - was it a sexual thing? Of course not! That is how I look at it - nonsexual punishment.

Susie, Mashie, just cause you are like that, don’t mean that everybody is like you! Specially Susie....your comment about just spread your legs was way underneath anything of a Niveau

She decides that she wants it that way and that’s how it is, better accept it

Some people would call me a skank because I have a husband and a boyfriend. I just call myself lucky, lol.

I personally think that double standard needs to go. I think all of us men should be grateful to the women who love sex. Whether it’s in a monogamous relationship, or a single woman that has sex with different men, or a friends with benefits type arrangement, it’s all good!

If it wasn’t for the women who love sex, most guys would be going without sex for long stretches of time!

I think one thing I took out of what Annie204 said that I don't know if I ever worked into a play exam was about walking out and feeling that everyone else waiting in the room kind of knows what just happened. All in it together, but still... have to give some thought and compassion to it.

Walking out past the waiting area I feel like everyone at the clinic knows I just got a vagina exam!

@DocV said

. . . . She decides that she wants it that way and that’s how it is, better accept it

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@Southern_Sass said

It’s what I am and I have no problem being that.

She did NOT say she WANTS to be a virgin, she said she IS a virgin. There is a difference between the two.

@DocV, You are making an assumption that a 34 year old woman WANTS to be a virgin. That's possible, but there are VERY few people who WANT to be a virgin, especially by the time they are in their mid-thirties.

Finally, I don't have to accept it or not accept it because I really don't care. The situation is what it is and it doesn't affect me, hence there being no need for me to accept or not accept it. Whatever she IS or WANTS to be is fine with me, I am simply differentiating the difference between WANTING and what IS.

It would be interesting to know if she WANTS to be a virgin or if there are other underlying reasons like religion, saving until marriage, medical concerns, fear or personality issues causing her to still be a virgin.

And here we go .....

@Southern_Sass said, “ When your parents spanked you as a child-was it a sexual thing?” Key word here “CHILD”

You were not 33 ! If you were then damn straight it would have been a sexual thing because there would be no other reason.

And, “That is how I look at it-non sexual punishment”

Then why do you want it if its non sexual ? You must like it in some way.

@bbw4doc said, “ Its better than being a skank” What exactly is YOUR definition of a skank ?

I have to add, that as usual its the same people on the same side of the fence that are always opposed to whatever it is that Susie says and as of lately add Mashie to the “ other side”. Its really sickening and I am not the only one that notices.

@Mashie I too am a lucky “skank” right along with ya !

Maybe getting IT good by amazing lovers is the new term for Skank or hell maybe just getting laid at all is. LOL

I know I am in good company with many females here that enjoy a healthy, active love life . ?

A good sex life (that means IN PERSON--NOT CYBER or online) also improves your general health and quality of life.

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/sex-and-health#1

@SwitchableSusie said, A good sex life-that means in person ....

HELL YES !!!! ????

With bona-fide (couldn’t resist lol) hot blooded, heart pumping, heavy breathing, moaning, generous, eager, YUMMY MEN !

And I can’t wait to do it more Lol

At mine and my wife’s doctor’s office, we prefer to have our physicals performed by a particular female PA that works there. I know that it is standard practice if the preferred provider isn’t available for some reason after you make an appointment, they will call and offer to either reschedule the appointment or offer a different provider for the original appointment. I know that they have a second female PA that works there, but my wife and I prefer the one we always book with, so if they ever call because she isn’t available, we would reschedule.

It’s a shame that many practices don’t take the patient’s preference for providers into consideration.

How was your exam after @strawberrygirl

There is always a "first" and hopefully it went without any trauma? Usually it all goes well after a few times to the gyno and seeing a caring physician or nurse practitioner. With our reliance on the internet, one needs to be mindful of what you read. I may have felt embarrassed during an exam but never mistreated. Of course, my private thoughts have tended towards what will get me aroused but during the official exam itself, it's all business for the doctor and me. It's good to have those private thoughts/fantasies. Take care.

Julie

@Annie204 , @Southern_Sass

It's been 1 year since your last gyno exams.

Please schedule new ones now and give us a detailed report.

If you want to find new gynos, I'll happily look around for you ;-)

Work is finished for the week and i'm off to the clinic to have my annual medical! Not a gyno exam but she always looks between my legs to some degree. Details will follow 😃

I had to strip to just my knickers for my medical and then she told me to put my t-shirt back on so my breasts were covered. She did the ordinary medical including eye and ear tests then asked me to lift my t-shirt up to my chin and she looked at and squeezed my bare breasts. She squeezed hard, it was almost painful! She then asked me to remove my underwear so she could check "down there". I had to answer some questions stood in front of her bottomless with my slit showing then I had to climb up and do the frog leg position. She just looked at first and then I felt the lips get pulled wide apart very firmly at different angles. I felt my hood get lifted for about 10 seconds and then my minora were stretched wide and she looked into my vagina. She pushed 2 fingers up and I made an audible *ah!" in pain as I haven't been fingered for a while and she stretched it wide. She asked me to squeeze and hold her 2 fingers while they were up my vagina, and she slowly withdrew them and I was done. I noticed while pulling my knickers up that my middle pink bit was swollen and sticking out the lips.

Your middle pink bit doesn't lie. Sounds like there was a positive healthy response.

I had to answer some questions stood in front of her bottomless with my slit showing then I had to climb up and do the frog leg position.

@Annie204

What questions did she ask? Why did she have you stand in front of her with your genitals exposed?

I had to strip to just my knickers for my medical and then she told me to put my t-shirt back on so my breasts were covered. She did the ordinary medical including eye and ear tests then asked me to lift my t-shirt up to my chin and she looked at and squeezed my bare breasts. She squeezed hard, it was almost painful! She then asked me to remove my underwear so she could check "down there". I had to answer some questions stood in front of her bottomless with my slit showing then I had to climb up and do the frog leg position. She just looked at first and then I felt the lips get pulled wide apart very firmly at different angles. I felt my hood get lifted for about 10 seconds and then my minora were stretched wide and she looked into my vagina. She pushed 2 fingers up and I made an audible *ah!" in pain as I haven't been fingered for a while and she stretched it wide. She asked me to squeeze and hold her 2 fingers while they were up my vagina, and she slowly withdrew them and I was done. I noticed while pulling my knickers up that my middle pink bit was swollen and sticking out the lips.

beautifully described examination procedure

How time flies...it's clinic time for me again this week. Details will follow of course. It's the general medical not gyno but it always ends with me having no knickers on and the lady having a look and feel

Medical done! My appointment was late afternoon so I needed to leave work early and everyone that could hear (including men) knew that I was going to the clinic to pull my knickers down. The medicals are arranged through the workplace and we all know the guys get their testicles felt and the ladies get their lips pulled back.

It was a different lady doing my medical this year and she asked me to take off all my clothes then put my t-shirt back on. It was a long t-shirt this time so I presume she felt my vulva would be covered enough by that.

My slit definitely made a few appearances like when my arm span was measured and I lifted them, and of course when I had to hold up my t-shirt to bare my breasts so she could have a feel.

She asked a few sexual health questions and I had to confirm I am still a virgin engaging only with other women.

Then she had me climb up, hold my t-shirt up above my waist and do the frog legs position so she could examine my vulva. I felt the outer lips go back and the middle bit pushed side to side then my clit hood got lifted and she didn't push it down again. She stretched the minora wide to check my opening and location of my hymen before the kegel test. Because I got fingered 10 days ago I didn't stretch my vagina before the medical as I thought it would still be ok - it wasn't! It really stretched and hurt when the 2 long fingers got pushed up especially when I had to squeeze them while she wiggled them. When I pulled my knickers back up I could feel my clit connect with the material as my hood was slightly up.

First thing I did when I got home was pull my pants down in front of the mirror to see how different my vulva looked.

When i went to the gyn last week, he covers his gloved finger with lube and I felt like saying “easy on the lube, dude. I'm so wet on my own.” ❤️

Medical done! My appointment was late afternoon so I needed to leave work early and everyone that could hear (including men) knew that I was going to the clinic to pull my knickers down. The medicals are arranged through the workplace and we all know the guys get their testicles felt and the ladies get their lips pulled back.

It was a different lady doing my medical this year and she asked me to take off all my clothes then put my t-shirt back on. It was a long t-shirt this time so I presume she felt my vulva would be covered enough by that.

My slit definitely made a few appearances like when my arm span was measured and I lifted them, and of course when I had to hold up my t-shirt to bare my breasts so she could have a feel.

She asked a few sexual health questions and I had to confirm I am still a virgin engaging only with other women.

Then she had me climb up, hold my t-shirt up above my waist and do the frog legs position so she could examine my vulva. I felt the outer lips go back and the middle bit pushed side to side then my clit hood got lifted and she didn't push it down again. She stretched the minora wide to check my opening and location of my hymen before the kegel test. Because I got fingered 10 days ago I didn't stretch my vagina before the medical as I thought it would still be ok - it wasn't! It really stretched and hurt when the 2 long fingers got pushed up especially when I had to squeeze them while she wiggled them. When I pulled my knickers back up I could feel my clit connect with the material as my hood was slightly up.

First thing I did when I got home was pull my pants down in front of the mirror to see how different my vulva looked.

Glad to hear you have a full bill of health, though the new doctor seems a bit cheeky by not pushing your hood back down.

Do any of your girlfriends at the work talk about their exams? Are they any different for those who are in sexual relationships with men?

@toplate yes we do discuss it a bit. Their external exams are quicker. It's just a quick look between their minora whereas mine get stretched wide and held open while she takes a good look.

We have gyno exams too separate from the general medical and the only difference is they get a bigger speculum.

“It's just a quick look between their minora whereas mine get stretched wide and held open while she takes a good look.”

@Annie204 Did you ever ask the doctor what is the purpose of the stretching wide and taking a good look?

“It's just a quick look between their minora whereas mine get stretched wide and held open while she takes a good look.”

@Annie204 Did you ever ask the doctor what is the purpose of the stretching wide and taking a good look?

Because she can?

For science?

My guess is looking for anything abnormal. With a hymen it might not be as invasive as normal but maybe a doctor can answer.

I felt the outer lips go back and the middle bit pushed side to side then my clit hood got lifted and she didn't push it down again.

When I pulled my knickers back up I could feel my clit connect with the material as my hood was slightly up.

Please forgive my ignorance and surprise, but I’ve never heard of this concept. I’m a middle aged man, and while I don’t have one myself, I’ve been face to face with many vulvas, and I’ve never encountered a clitoral hood that had the ability to stay put in an up position. I have worked with clitori that swell and enlarge when aroused, and push their way forward for a while, but the hood has always behaved as if its default position is spring loaded down.

I would love to learn more about this, and hear how many women feel their hoods tend to stay where they are put. Is this common? Do you ever choose the wear it up for fun or arousing purposes? Do you have the sensory feeling to know if it is up or down without looking or touching with your fingers?

Always amazing to learn new things here on zity.

Maybe, some day in the future, muscle control will evolve to the point where women will be able to wink with their hood. sigh. I was born too soon.