Honest question for cardiophile guys (and gals)

It's no big secret that I'm looking for someone with whom to take my online fantasies a step further and have a real-life meet-up - whether that be for pure cardiophilia activities, or resus-related, or both. And, for me, the whole thing is so intensely sexual I can't imagine it not making me want it to lead to other things too.

However, I'm not the most attractive of women, and I worry that if I was to meet up with someone it would be a complete disaster because the attraction wouldn't be there (on his part, anyway).

So, I wanted to ask ....if you're a true cardiophile, and hearts turn you on, are you as fussy about the other person's looks as you would be if you were looking for a bf / gf? If what you're meeting up with the other person for is pure fetish-fantasy stuff, stuff you can't / don't get with a 'normal' partner, do looks matter so much? Would their passion for your shared fetish be enough to make it worthwhile, or would ugliness put you off?

And please - answer this honestly, not just in the way you think I might want to hear 😃

I think this fetish transcends superficial qualities like attractiveness. To me, attractiveness isn't nearly as important as the ability to enjoy each other's heart and feel comfortable. If your partner has a desire to participate, I don't think the superficial stuff like height/weight/cup size/penis size matters. I don't go into a steth session with the goal of having sex, necessarily. It's also something you need to talk about in detail with the person you are meeting.

I've seen how you post and I can tell that hearts really are a thing for you. I believe you'd be a lot of fun to meet, but I am totally unavailable.

To be comepletely honest, the cardiophile side overrides pretty much anything. The fact that a girl is into it too makes me a million times more attracted to them. Like it’s been said before, it trascends superficial things like looks. It really doesn’t matter what they look like to me. I just want to experience that intimate and unique situation with someone who really gets it on the same level. I’d love to get the chance to try out a meetup irl. Never done it before but I’ve always wanted too.

For me, a woman who has a beating heart in her chest, likes being stethed, and understands the importance of being bare chested for heart auscultation is among the most attractive of women.

Here is my honest answer:

1. I do NOT care about the other person's looks, shape, weight, size, etc, as long as she is good-hearted (both literally and metaphorically). Especially if her heart beats hard enough to be easily felt/palpated. I've always been heavily into feeling/palpation, so my main criteria for female attractiveness actually is: palpable heart = hot woman, not palpable heart = not hot woman. I know it might sound crazy but is true.

2. Judging by what I see in your pics I do NOT think at all that you are "not the most attractive of women" (I know it probably sounds like a corny compliment, but is true again).

3. I honestly DO envy the guy who will have the pleasure to steth you, but I wish to both of you a happy stething. 😃

The heart is the reason the cardiophiles are there. That's what is important.

It’s not about what a person looks like, The reason for being there is mutual - to listen intently / share the wonder of a common interest ❤️

I don't have much to say that wasn't said by previous posters. I also see external appearance as secondary when it comes to exploring my fetish with a woman.

That's not to say I don't have limits. I have eyes, for goodness sake, and I don't believe in the saying "in the dark they're all the same". But I've played with girls whose appearance one might easily classify as below average, and, as a matter of fact, I had a splendid time with all of them. Everything was totally erotic and the memories we created will stay with me always. With one of those 'below average' girls I ended up in a relationship which lasted over 18 months. That was about 15 years ago, and I regret breaking up with her to this day.

But I'd also like to suggest another approach: rather than worrying whether he's going to like your appearance, why don't you simply meet up with someone for a coffee or a drink and see how it goes? If anything, it'll be two people who share the same rare interest spending some time together. They might hit it off, or they might not (and if they don't it won't necessarily be down to either one's appearance). I believe they call this approach 'one step at a time'. 😃

In the end it's all about plucking up the courage to go outside your comfort zone. I would like to think you should feel safer doing this with someone who's sharing your excitement about such a meeting - and therefore might well have similar concerns and insecurities. One thing's for sure - daring to do it is its own reward, and unless the person you meet is a total asshole, I can only see it doing good things to your self esteem.

Be well, be happy, love yourself.

Lub-dub 😉

First, i think confidence is huge, and secondly the fetish means a lot more than looks to me.

This is a really interesting question. I seem to be part of a minority. I am definitely as choosy with heartbeats as I am with SO's. I basically don't watch any hb videos where the face isn't shown, or if I don't find the person attractive.

If anything, I think I'm actually *more* picky with heartbeats than with SO's! Especially if we're talking about in-person stething

I'm used to most girls who aren't shy about getting naked with a stethoscope don't show their face, and they can be understood. For me, the physique is more important, because I love slender girls. So for me this is the only criterion.

Honestly, i guess fetish sex and love related sex are 2 different things. so i guess looks doesnt matter that much.

You have to decide what exactly you want , a medfet partner or partner into medfet as well . Judging from your post it appears to be the latter. As you said:

It's no big secret that I'm looking for someone with whom to take my online fantasies a step further and have a real-life meet-up - whether that be for pure cardiophilia activities, or resus-related, or both. And, for me, the whole thing is so intensely sexual I can't imagine it not making me want it to lead to other things too.

Playdocs generally don't combine medfet with other things more sexual ( some do ) but the majority don't. With regards to "attractiveness" everyone is different , what I find attractive another person might not , it's a personal thing.

Also you need to take some time when deciding to "meet someone" and follow some simple rules :

1. I would encourage to get to "know " online by emails. speaking to them , before deciding to meet in person and deciding what exactly you want .

2. Always meet in a public place with no intention except meeting to see if you are mutually compatible .

3. If you decide to meet for medfet related , then always have a contact that knows who you are meeting , where and when .

4. Always have a "safe " word when ensure that you want to stop .

Hopefully this helps

RN