Tips for holding enemas

I cannot hold my enema. Once I’m full and I take the nozzle out, I pant and get cramps and have to go. Any tips for holding it? And best holding position? When I got my first enema from a nurse she had me lay back with my knees up to my chest and she held my ass cheeks together which worked fine, then she had me on my knees with my butt up as high as I could, which also worked. But that was a small enema, and i have no trouble holding those. How do I hold a big one?

I have found the most success with lying face down and clenching the buttocks together. This will work unless the enema is very strong in which case, a fast trip to the toilet is needed to prevent accidents. It also helps to take the enema slowly without holding the bag too high. The trick is to minimize any premature cramping. Once the bowel of really full and cramping begins in earnest, its best to find the toilet! This presumes you are not using some retention device.

Slowly injecting the solution certainly helps. A small preliminary enema can clear the way for a larger volume. The type of solution can influence retention time as can temperature. See my post on "Watching the Enema Bag". Leaving the clamp open so the enema can ebb and flow works well for me. This is especially true if I cleansed beforehand in order to minimize the backflow of stool.

Robse01

The universial solution for almost everything..."PRACTICE"

Sometimes it's fun too

Use a butt plug with a somewhat wide base or an inflatable one or a Double Balloon Catheter inflated to hold your enemas in. I can hold up to 5 quarts (I'm about 6 feet tall), more usually 4 quarts, for as long as I like. It's usually 30-60 minutes, just for enjoyment and orgasm stimulation. If the solution tends to induce strong urges to evacuate, my hold times may be less.

Eric

Trouble with a butt plug it that the wide, conical portion stretches the anal sphincter going in. The thinner neck that follows it then sometimes allows leakage. The idea plug is one that is narrow to insert, THEN becomes fat. Such critters are called inflatable balloon nozzles and most nowadays have 2 pleated balloons, each inflatable by its own attached hand pump. The larger balloon is inserted and inflated up to about tennis ball size (this doesn't hurt since it is already past your anus). The smaller balloon remains outside so that when inflated (to a smaller size) it acts like a lock, keeping the inner balloon in place. These run about $90 but are THE toy/tool for retaining enemas whether given solo or by an insistent administrator. Since they go in small and become inflated, they avoid the leakage problems of big butt plugs over stretching the anus. Once you try one, there's no going back to archaic means and crossed fingers to prevent a mess.

Go slow and try more than one. Once you clean out it should be easier to hold the next one. Hanging the bag low, going slow and rubbing your stomach helps. You can also lay on your back and this sometimes helps. If all else fails, get a balloon nozzle. It isn't going anywhere then. Practice will help.

Most important things:

1)RELAX! no tension! you only hurt yourself by being nervous, or scared! I find it helps to only look at the full bag ONCE before you get into position.

2)Choose a position before you start and stick with it. Knee-chest does give the best propagation of water through your bowel, but if you are the nervous Nelly, it may be better to use the Simms position in this case.

Whichever one you use, stay still and in position till it's time to run.

3) when you do your set up have washcloth or a hand towel in easy reach when you are in position, so that it can be readily available as a bite rag or a twist rag or at different times in the same enema, both!

4) When you make the decision to take the enema, have a "target hold time" in mind. I usually try to retain 15 minutes. Often the second round is the hardest to hold.

5) Have a digital clock positioned so you can read it without any glasses or contacts.

6) Eliminate distractions! Cell phones tablets, laptops all have off switches. don't be afraid of the off switch!

Any children or pets present should be dealt with so that they will give you at least an hour of "quiet time" during the enema.

7) Music is OK to a point, but I would keep it to a style you already listen to, so that it keeps the creative side of the brain busy so it does not keep bothering the intellectual side. Keep it mostly familiar, and not loud!

😎 Use a bed, sofa or cot that you have slept well on before so you are comfortable there.

9) OK to wear a knee-length nightgown or dorm shirt. or a long tee shirt. It should be machine washable in case there are any mistakes. Bra is optional, as long as it does not interfere with your breathing when you take a couple of deep breaths. NO PANTIES! they just get in the way, both during the enema itself and during expulsion.

10) Start off with just plain soapy water, WARM BUT NOT HOT!! to YOUR touch. No matter what anyone else thinks.

11) Hang the bag the right height to give you a flow rate you are comfortable with. For me it's about a quart per minute. That's fast enough that I feel it in a matter of seconds but not so fast that my body refuses retention.

12) Insert the nozzle SLOWLY and POINT IT TOWARDS YOUR NAVEL! No excuses just do it. Whatever nozzle you use, make sure to get it ALL THE WAY IN!! A flared nozzle is harder to get in, but acts as a butt plug, helping retention.

13) No hurries! I'm an experienced enema taker and I average over a session one enema per hour. This might be fast for an inexperienced user.

14) ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS Take a few minutes after insertion and RELAX AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN!

15) Take the valve in your hand, Take at lest 3, more if you think you need them Slow, deep as you physically can breaths. Then Breathe in, open the valve, and breathe out. Let it run. Focus on staying relaxed, and in position. Let it flow!

OK to look up at the bag occasionally and see how you are doing. DON'T stare at the bag, you will only psyche yourself out! It's OK to clench up, but keep the rest of your body as relaxed as you can.

16) When you are really not sure you can hold it, twist that washcloth up, and take slow. deep breaths until the urge subsides. There will come a point where it does not quite subside all the way. This is a sign that you are getting close you might want to stick that bite rag in your mouth and be ready to bite down the moment you need to! When you can't hold it any more walk fast but don't run to the toilet. it's OK to bend over, or put your hands in the air or both. Once on the toilet just relax and let it flow OK to push a little but not hard!!!

Do these things EVERY time and you should make any realistic retention targets, without any balloon nozzles or anything weird like that.

But that was a small enema, and i have no trouble holding those. How do I hold a big one?

Ignore the bit about having a washcloth or towel to wring or bite on and taking a soapy enema. Unless you are into painful enemas, which it doesn't seem you are, stick with warm water with a little bit of salt for balance. Figure out how much you can comfortably take and increase the amount slowly from there, even if it's just another cup or two at a time. If you have time, try to do two or three bags in one session, increasing the amount you take and hold with each bag. As you empty out, you can take more water in. You then work on increasing your hold time as you do this.

And, you might be someone who just can't take a big one. I used to be able to take 3 qts regularly. Now I sometimes struggle with 2. My colon seems to have a mind of its own. It can be frustrating at times, but I'm working on not letting it bother me. I'm not in a competition with anyone, and I want the time to be pleasurable.

Also, if you find you are having trouble holding in one position, change positions. You do NOT have to pick one position and stay in it (unless you have a Dominant telling you not to move).

LisaK's methods are much too rigid for people. One method is not going to work for most people. People need to try different things to see what works best for them.

Certainly staying in a knee-chest position for 15 minutes is NOT easy for most people and the knee-chest position is flawed for large volume enemas because while the water will initially flow down-hill, but to get into the ascending colon it will have to flow UP-HILL, plus knee-chest is not a comfortable position even without holding an enema. Lying flat on your back is the best position to relax.

Masturbate!

Lisa K fancies herself the "Grey's Anatomy" reference source for enemas when actually, nothing could be further from the truth. Why anyone would want to pursue her 15 step process instead of inserting an expandable nozzle that works every time and guarantees a tight, painless seal, only she can fathom.

.................inserting an expandable nozzle that works every time and guarantees a tight, painless seal,.................

Works for me, like you said, every time. And in addition to a snug painless seal, the inflatable balloons feel wonderful all by themselves even before you start the water.............

Eric

..............the water will initially flow down-hill, but to get into the ascending colon it will have to flow UP-HILL, plus knee-chest is not a comfortable position even without holding an enema. Lying flat on your back is the best position to relax.

Yes, I agree, especially about comfort lying on your back. Also, from your back move or roll around to wherever it's comfortable. I often move to left or right side down from my back during different parts of filling to get the water to move around better. Most of my long retentions are best on my back. Sometimes I even fall asleep there.

Eric

I have two simple suggestions:

1) Do multiple enemas starting with a volume you can comfortably hold then increase the volume on each successive enema. I would think in terms of doing at least three enemas or possibly more. With each enema your colon becomes more clear of poop making room for the following enemas to come.

2) Elevate your hips so the enema can run down your colon or up into the descending and transverse colon. I will lie on the bathroom floor and face a wall. I will place my feet on the wall and lift my hips up so the enema drains into my colon. An enema that stays in your rectum will cause a strong urge to expel- this reduces your hold time and the amount of volume you can take.

The threat of having to do another .... if I did not keep it enough .

The threat of having to do another .... if I did not keep it enough .

Mar1978,

An interesting idea and incentive to hold your enema(s) as long as possible! I'm not sure how many here would find that useful, (especially since many here enjoy multiple enemas in a row), but since I enjoy taking enemas from a Domme partner, I often use this idea to spur me on to hold as long as possible. While filling and holding, I enjoy feeling submissive, forced to hold as much and as long as my Domme insists I do for her pleasure, listening to me moan and ask for leniency. Thanks,

Eric

The method of your nurse is the right way to proceed, when severe cramps happen. Cramps usually disapear after a few (painful) seconds. But what I suggest, is to take a small (bulb for instance) cleansing enema for a good clean out. Then the next and large enema will flow through you bowels with no obstacles, and therefore without cramps

Breath deeply as it goes in ,i get them on doggy style position,seeims easy to hold that way

Double Balloon Nozzle.

Double balloon nozzle is guaranteed to work if properly inserted and inflated!

The best tip for retention is a larger bulbous one or an inflatable, but a butt plug can also help. 😜

Best position for me is on my back. Worst is standing or sitting. Doggie/knee chest is a mix, more cramps but you can move and sway. to help ride them out. For me Sims is a bit harder than on my back but still pretty good. Remember to breathe deep!

On occasions when my insides are giving me fits and I'm blocked up, I don't worry about how long I retain the first enema. I try to hold a few minutes, but if I can't, what pours out of me is usually the "hard stuff" causing the blockage. And it's not always fun. I can usually tell when there's more to come and I'll need a second enema.

That's when I try to retain as long as I can. Attaching a rectal tube gets the water higher up, going slow and being comfortable lying on our bed (Simms or on my back), with my husband coaching me through any cramping, that's when I can take and usually retain a full bag, getting a lot more stuff out and feeling like I've had good cleanse. PS...Hubby especially likes when I'm on my back. It's a nice turn-on for both of us. Enough said. ?

If I want to hold and be comfortable as possible then agree with vikki v.

Take the first nice and slow and expelled when feel need to.

The 2nd is much easier to hold from then on. Rubing tummy, back and clit also helps.

If I am being made to hold it and comfort isn't at the forefront of mine or givers mind then it's inflatable balloon and just having to ride it to out.

It took me a long time to figure this out, but there are several things that help you take a good enema. First, don't feel compelled to take the whole bag, but do what you can. Second, make a soothing solution. Soapy can make me cramp, but baking soda seldom does. Finally, take your time and don't hang the bag too high. Finding one of those moments when you don't feel rushed is good, too, so I try to remember to put on some favorite music. Mozart does nicely.

Relax and breathe deep!

I find waiting about 10-20 minutes between enemas helps. Its hard for me to take an enema right after I release one! Take 20 minutes inbetween enemas to help you relax your colon even more

First you need to expel any gas in your colon. I insert three or four glycerin suppositories or inject half an ounce of liquid glycerin and wait for its effect. When it forces me to go, the gas inside is expelled. While I wait, I prepare my enema. Ideally it is 105 to 106 degrees and the closed fountain syringe keeps it warm until I'm ready for it. I enjoy a slow injection of the warm enema and if the quantity is large, I use a colon tube to fill my colon before my rectum. I place a pillow under my hips and lie on my back. A small purgative enema is good preparation for a larger enema as an empty colon allows you to take and retain a large enema with less difficulty. After my large enema is inside, I find that a butt plug or an anal vibrator

help considerably with the retention, especially the vibrator which I always insert after any crampy enema.

My hold time is directly related to my orgasm. After my orgasm, important muscles relax and it's all over. 10 or 15 minute holding is possible without an orgasm, or a postponed one. During that time, I relax in a different way.