First ever exam next week after lifelong fetish.

I just scheduled my first ever gynecologist exam. I'm 23 years old and my only experience with real doctors has been extremely cursory physical exams. All clothes stayed on. Never had my breasts or genitals touched or looked at by a doctor.

The appointment I made is with a private clinic. It's just one doctor and one receptionist who works there. Not even a nurse as far as I can tell. The doctor is a female in her 60's.

I've had a medical fetish for a long time. Since childhood. I'm afraid the doctor won't be able to go through with the exam because I've never been sexually active and can't even insert a tampon.

I'll update with a description of what happened after the exam.

(By the way, I've actually been a member here for a couple years but deleted my old account and made a new one. This is only my second or third time actually posting. I hope people enjoy reading about my exam later.)

Sounds very interesting. She will probably use a small speculum and get it done. Keep us posted. I have been learning more about giving exams on the site and am getting into it. Have fun

Look forward to reading about your exam, thanks in advance for sharing.

I’m sure you aren’t the first virgin your gynecologist has examined and, based on her experience, will provide reassurance about any of your concerns. Take the opportunity to discuss questions you might have. Perhaps jot them down before you go so you don’t forget them. Good luck!

You are just like me. I'm 20, a bit younger and never had sex(planning to wait till marriage) or used tampons so I look forward to hearing about it. I'm cheering you on. You'll do great.

HUGS, Megan

Please don't worry, she is over 60 and probably has seen and heard everything. My advice would be to not hold back and ask any questions that you want. I know that you said it was your exam but there is a first time for everything, we all went through it.

I was very similar to you when I had my first one...was 20, had never had sex and never used tampons. My doctor used a pediatric speculum. I am also almost a nurse practitioner/nurse midwife, so I have done MANY exams on patients like you. My best advice is relax and ask the doctor to explain everything she is doing as she does it. If you have any specific questions, please reach out to me! I would be happy to try to answer.

Please don't worry, she is over 60 and probably has seen and heard everything. My advice would be to not hold back and ask any questions that you want. I know that you said it was your exam but there is a first time for everything, we all went through it.

That is absolutely NO CONSOLATION to the patient.

The DOCTOR may have seen everything, but the PATIENT has never been seen.

THAT is the difference and why patients are often apprehensive.

It will probably be pretty straightforward. You will get a breast exam, cervix swab with a small speculum and probably a quick rectal exam to feel the shape of your uterus. It may be uncomfortable but it will be quick and painless.

I would love to hear an update afterwards. Someone was even kind enough to post a few pictures a while back if that’s something you could consider.

@Indie

Hope it goes well. Would love to read about your exam and your feelings during and afterward.

The exam is today. I'll update afterward.

Good luck! We all hope it is very enjoyable for you and all that you had hoped for!!

Lndie hope all goes well and you enjoy the experience. Look forward to hearing how it went. Hugsss Teri.

I really like the support TeriRN is getting in here! Hope you enjoy!

I'll give a more embellished detailed description when I feel up to writing it. For now I'll just fill in the basics.

I had the last appointment of the day at a small practice as I said. The receptionist asked if I had to empty my bladder first and I did. Then I followed her into the exam room and she showed me my "set up." It was a light pink cloth top that had the same opening front and back so she said it didn't matter which way I wore it. Then a drape for my legs that was pink with orange and blue polka dots. I undressed and put own the gown and the leg drape. There was a scale in the room so I was wondering if I'd have to be weighed with nothing to cover my legs.

I waited on the table for a few minutes and the doctor came in. She thought I looked familiar and kept asking if we had met before and I said we hadn't. When she learned I'd never had sex or used tampons she left the room to get the smallest speculum. She put it in the drawer to warm up a bit. It was metal. She explained I didn't really need a pap smear or much of an exam since I'm not sexually active and cervical cancer comes from HPV which is sexually transmitted.

She took my blood pressure and said it was low. She felt my thyroid and said I have the neck of a dancer. She had me raise up my arm and felt my breast. I had to lift my bum up because I was sitting on the edge of the short gown. She said it was baggy on me. Then I lifted my other arm and she felt the other breast as she was chatting about something I can't remember.

She pulled out the leg rest and I laid back. She had me put both arms up at once and she felt my breasts again. She mentioned doing self exams once a month and reminded me that my rib cage sticks out a bit and not to confuse that with a lump.

She then had me scoot up and place my heels in the stirrups. She lifted the table up electronically. She said to let me know if it hurt and even with the baby speculum it hurt a lot as I expected so she gave up on it quickly. She tried to use her index finger and again it hurt so she tried her pinky finger and gave up on that too.

She said there shouldn't be any concerns since I wasn't really having any symptoms. Then she explained some people are born with hymens that are like "swiss cheese" and are tight. She said if I had sex it would definitely hurt and asked if I planned to have sex anytime soon. She referred me to a surgeon to make an incision and open it up and said I should do it "sooner rather than later" especially if I plan to have sex.

When I was getting dressed I could see a small wet spot at the edge of the paper on the exam table. I didn't feel comfortable taking photos this time around. On the way out she gave me a paper that said "call me if you decide you want vaginal surgery" and wrote the name of the doctor.

Excellent update. Thank you for giving details and thank you for maintaining the boundaries you needed in order to feel good about sharing.

I did wonder if she would conclude that you had hymen problems and not be able to have the vagina exam, just the vulva.

I didn't get the internal either my first time as she could see my hymen was intact when she pulled my inner lips apart. I had a typical crescent shape though so no need for surgery, though it hurt and bled when I was fingered a year later roughly with 2 fingers.

Do you plan to have the surgery?

Do you plan to have the surgery?

I’m not sure. She mentioned that for the surgery I’d be put to sleep so I assume I’d need someone to drive me there and home. I’m also not sure if insurance would cover something like that. I’ll have to get more info before I decide. I’d love to be able to use menstrual cups and not be afraid of having intercourse though.

Glad that your visit went well and that you'll be more comfortable about seeing the GYN in the future. I'm sure that if you decide to go ahead with the surgery it will be a minor procedure that wont take very long. All the best.

While I hope all goes well for you in whatever you decide I would like to tell you that you should get as much information as possible regarding female health. There is something that you said the dr told you about not needing a pap smear that did not sit well with me. As far as I knew it is indeed possible to get cervical cancer while still being a virgin, along with other reproductive cancers as well.

I did a quick search and took this from the American Cancer Society Website

Do We Know What Causes Cervical Cancer?

In recent years, there has been a lot of progress in understanding what happens in cells of the cervix when cancer develops. In addition, several risk factors have been identified that increase the odds that a woman might develop cervical cancer (see What Are the Risk Factors for Cervical Cancer?).

The development of normal human cells mostly depends on the information contained in the cells’ DNA. DNA is the chemical in our cells that makes up our genes, which control how our cells work. We look like our parents because they are the source of our DNA. But DNA affects more than just how we look.

Some genes control when cells grow, divide, and die:·

Genes that help cells grow, divide, and stay alive are called oncogenes.

Genes that help keep cell growth under control or make cells die at the right time are called tumor suppressor genes.

Cancers can be caused by DNA mutations (gene defects) that turn on oncogenes or turn off tumor suppressor genes.

Human papillomaviruses (HPV) cause the production of two proteins known as E6 and E7 which turn off some tumor suppressor genes. This may allow the cervical lining cells to grow too much and to develop changes in additional genes, which in some cases will lead to cancer.

But HPV is not the only cause of cervical cancer. Most women with HPV don’t get cervical cancer, and certain other risk factors, like smoking and HIV infection, influence which women exposed to HPV are more likely to develop cervical cancer.

That was a great reply bridgette but I think that being that young really makes the odds low. I'm not a health professional though so I'll leave that to them. Great response

Thanks Mops 😃 Yes, you are correct that the risk for someone so young is low, as long as there are no other risk factors. ie; family history or a smoker but just like most cancers early detection can be a life saver. Also being able to detect early changes is very important.

Without looking it up,I believe the recommendation for beginning pap smears is when sexual activity starts or at 21 years of age.

I have to mention if a female doctors pinkie won't fit that is one tight orifice!

And not to harp on you @Indie, but as a virgin, I urge you to read the info and get the Gardasil vaccine against HPV. You only have once chance to do this, (before sexual contact) and you don’t want to be a 50 yr old woman with cervical cancer saying ‘darn I should have done that!’

Ask any woman who’s had an abnormal Pap or cancer if they’d recommend the vaccine and I bet you’d get 100% yes. Cancer is seriously ‘not fun!’

I urge you to read the info and get the Gardasil vaccine against HPV. You only have once chance to do this, (before sexual contact) and you don’t want to be a 50 yr old woman with cervical cancer saying ‘darn I should have done that!’

I second this! I have a friend who's mother was quite conservative and refused to give permission for the Gardasil shot. A couple years later she tested positive for HPV and had an ASCUS finding on a pap smear. Luckily, everything has cleared up and thus far she is good, but now she will always have that worry in the back of her mind.

As an interesting side note... I learned from her/her doctor, that once the primary HPV infection is cleared up by the body, they can still give the Gardasil vaccine to protect against the other strains of the virus. So, even if you are sexually active and/or have had an HPV infection, you can still talk to your doctor about the vaccine.

And not to harp on you @Indie, but as a virgin, I urge you to read the info and get the Gardasil vaccine against HPV. You only have once chance to do this, (before sexual contact) and you don’t want to be a 50 yr old woman with cervical cancer saying ‘darn I should have done that!’

Ask any woman who’s had an abnormal Pap or cancer if they’d recommend the vaccine and I bet you’d get 100% yes. Cancer is seriously ‘not fun!’

@CJ1999 I got the vaccine when I was a teenager, so I'm all good there

I got the vaccine when I was about 45 I believe so it is never too late to get it. Glad to know you already got yours. One less thing to worry about.

As far as the surgery is concerned I don't believe they put you to sleep for that. It's just a little snip and it's all done. Much less pain than having sex would be, trust me on that. Go for it you will be glad you did.

Mashie

I got the vaccine when I was about 45 I believe so it is never too late to get it. Glad to know you already got yours. One less thing to worry about.

As far as the surgery is concerned I don't believe they put you to sleep for that. It's just a little snip and it's all done. Much less pain than having sex would be, trust me on that. Go for it you will be glad you did.

Mashie

Obvious question, Mashie; where did you get that shot?

Nick

As far as the surgery is concerned I don't believe they put you to sleep for that. It's just a little snip and it's all done. Much less pain than having sex would be, trust me on that. Go for it you will be glad you did.

Mashie

@Mashie Hmm the doctor made it seem like they would put me to sleep. Do you know what the procedure is called so I can google it? I'd much rather do it without being put to sleep if that's possible.