Anally Exposed

Two weeks ago while at my electrologist. She said roll over. The drape fell to the floor. She started working on what crack hair that I have left, getting deeper and deeper. So I reached back with my right hand and pulled my butt cheek open for her. She said thanks! That helps. I think she got them all!

Both ways is exciting - being told to spread them, as well having them spread. Add to that, what then happens next adds more variations that are exciting - such as having the anus studied versus a finger being quickly thrust in.

Having it be demanded of me is the turn on. To have to do it myself can create a stronger embarrassed feeling but it's that in any case. Feeling someone else do it so that my anus opens and feels more vulnerable is definitely a turn on and the start of something Big!

In the end, I'm inclined for "self-opening".

I do love the feel of two hands holding my buttcheeks apart. In particular, I find the feel of her figers extremely pleasurable when they are sinking along the inside of my crack. For this reason I often ask her to separate her fingers, so as to intensify the sensation. An then, when her lips or tounge then do the honors, it is bliss. But I don't feel very submissive, and her hands are not available for other things...

On the other hand, when I'm the one parting my own cheeks, she becomes free to do as she pleases. It also feels naughtier and extremely submissive, which for me are both pluses. I can then enjoy a slow and abundant lubing of my anal opening and rectum. And then her fingering of my ass becomes more than welcome. As I loosen, toy insertions highten the experience. If the toy is a prostate vibrator, wow! Couple that with with penis stroking and I'm in heaven. None of this is easy (or possible) if she is the one opening my cheeks!

Love to spread em myself but also to be spread, it's all good.

I suppose for me, it began early in life with the requirement of having a rectal temperature taken for my physicals. I suspect some of us have keen memories when we realized that this was a necessity. Childhood memories, those as a teen, and then adulthood became associated with mixed emotions. Certainly as a teen or about to become one, the idea of having my bottom exposed and cheeks opened produced all sorts of feelings. No longer just a quick peak but now heightened awareness that submitting to a thermometer was required. Eventually, there would come the shock of a DRE and realization that the anus and rectum are important areas to examine as much as my penis and testicles. No longer would I just blush as the doctor rotated each testicle or asked me to cough but soon I was having to face the exam table and spread wide. The snap of his glove and hearing the squeeze of the KY onto his finger brings me to full attention. There is no need to ask, "ready," it is going to happen. Memories of other times return. How many times did I ask the nurse, "Do you have to do it that way?" Now, it's far more intense and indeed helps fuel the memory banks!

Being a sub, I'm ordered to lay down and spread my legs wide. When growing up and getting a recital temp taken or enema, Mom would tell me to lay down and spread. So this stuck with me. I follow orders.

Depends on the situation.

During D/s, you're "told" to hold them apart because you've given away the right to being asked.

With other plays I would rather spread the cheeks open myself, which in most cases causes some embarrassment, especially if its not expected

Like many of the responses here, as well as from the OP, the crux of this question for me is the psychological impact.

i've been primarily anally oriented sexually from my childhood. For me, the underlying message when a guy is wanting me anally is His expression of need/desire to open a vulnerable part of me in order to penetrate and put a part of Himself in me.

i am 'bottom/sub' emotionally, so am particularly drawn to Top/Dom types. i see the draw as a natural phenomenon of opposites attracting.

For me, either way... whether He spreads me or wants me to spread myself, both of those are expressions of His need and desire to have me vulnerable to His penetration, to give Him access to me. So, for me the distinction in this question would be who initiates. I.e., in the Top/bottom Dom/sub dynamic, i'd likely not be presenting myself without His initiation, so the how of it is less of a factor than the why of it.

Either way, whether He asks me to spread, or spreads me Himself, both are expressions of HIs need/desire and have an equal impact on me depending on His attitude. The attitude is key for me in how He affects me emotionally. A clinical attitude doesn't open me. A forceful attitude closes me, shuts me down. Overt need/lust opens me. Subtle but persistent attitude opens me the deepest. i think the "subtle but persistent" approach has the most impact on me because when a Top/Dom exposes His own need/desire to me, i have a seemingly autonomic response in kind, like i cannot help it. It's almost hypnotic.

@tallslenderguy

I really connected with your response here, from the opposite perspective. I totally agree that what makes your being penetrated such a special experience, is the emotional impact it is having on you. You are placing yourself in such a vulnerable position for a man, in sharing how submissive you are with him, and letting him know you are there as a nurturing element in his life. I'm sure it would completely melt you to have that man gently spreading you open, as he watches you smile warmly. The two of you are feeling so naturally connected in this moment and you feel your body responding to these overwhelming emotions. It means so much to you to be in this position for him and to be so accepting of the role he has helped to seal for you. To be in this role for a man has been in your heart for a long time, yet you've needed a strong man who would protect you and comfort you as you surrender yourself to femininity. I could even envision you crying as you feel him start to penetrate you deeply...wishing there were a way that his seed could impregnate you and make him a part of you for the rest of your life.

I would rather have someone else spread my butt cheeks. I want to concentrate on my erotic feelings and not worrying if I spread them enough and how long to keep them spread. If someone wants to play with my butt then they should do the labor of spreading my butt cheeks. I just want concentrate on what I am feeling both physically and emotionally.

Me too @medfedcouple. There is also something very erotic and special having some expose your most private part. Feeling fingers slowly separating your butt cheeks sends chills and thrills up your spine that is so close to the action. Having someone demand you expose yourself is downright uncivilized in the enema world.

@easy123, you know exactly what I am talking about.

Yep, @medfedcouple, a lot pf people just don't understand that for the giver it's like opening a present for the first time, every time, and for the receiver, it is like being in paradise. 🌹

@easy123, exactly! The giver needs to enjoy their control and experience as the giver and the receiver needs to enjoy being submissive and all the feelings that come with surrendering one's bottom to another!

I want it to be Sirensong's idea to play with me anally (and mine to play with hers). I guess I want to be told what to do and when to do it as it puts me in a more receptive frame of mind. After all, the giver is the one who takes the power and the receiver is the one who gives it. @medfedcouple, I too, as receiver, want to just experience the psychological and physical pleasures of being touched and penetrated that way. As for having my cheeks spread, I love it when it's done to me, and I don't care how she does it.

When I'm the receiver of the ass play I prefer having the giver doing the spreading of my cheeks.

When I'm playing with someone else's ass, I want to be the one spreading the cheeks. I find it to be very erotic, especially when they are in the knee-chest position. I love the view.

I think it's more exciting to expose myself for my partner. Show that I'm ready and willing for what's next. Especially arousing as your partner can focus on having their way with your ass. Particularly having the cheeks out of the way for a nice enema nozzle or colon tube. Makes it far better a sight during video and photos. The cheeks spread to clearly expose that ass with a toy, speculum or nozzle seated deep in your colon. Letting your partner get a nice view giving your bowels a deep clean out or exam.

Definitely my partner spreading for me. I love the feeling of not having control and knowing my asshole will be exposed to him when he wants.

While I have not ever been asked by anyone to reach back and spread my cheeks, I think I would prefer for someone to use the "one hand with two fingers" method. The reason being that if they are only using one hand, the other hand is free and it makes me wonder what are theygoing to stick up me back there????

One of my favorite moments of the colonic session when my lovely technician ask me if im ready and proceed to spread my ass cheeks lube

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My preference is to have my lover spread my ass cheeks for me. This is more erotic and it heightens anticipation, not knowing what will go inside my ass - is it his finger, a butt plug or my bonus prize - his cock! I love to have my anal exposed and checked by him regularly.

Because I love the lack of control and the submission, I prefer her to spread my bottom open, however I sometimes reach back and spread my cheeks myself. For us it’s an unspoken cue that I want our anal play to become “fucking”. Usually with her finger or fingers. It allows her to get into a better position and to concentrate on fucking me deeply.

I recall the first time I spread myself for my current girlfriend, not for penetration but just because she was exploring my body visually. I was on my back and she was lying down looking at my anus. Holding my cheeks open for her, she put her fingers on my anus and pulled it open and commented that she could see the inner sphincter opening. She was really fascinated, saying she’d never seen a persons body like this before.

Either is pretty hot but it’s more humiliating to have to spread your own, to hold yourself open.

I enjoy she spreading me as wide as possible exposing me to her whim!!

Either is pretty hot but it’s more humiliating to have to spread your own, to hold yourself open.

Yes, I agree with Nurse Phillips here, in my case especially when my Domme ex would tell me to do it so she can first insert a nice butt plug, up to about 2.5" for me. Then it's followed by making me feel the plug holding me open while I listen to her running water and then come in to replace the plug with a DBC and large enema while I have to keep holding my cheeks open. Fortunately, when I'm with her doing a D/s enema as her sub, the submission, embarassment and humiliation is desired and extremely erotic.

Eric

I see it was almost a year ago to the day that I answered this - saying both ways are exciting.. now I should add I also liked it when I was told to bend over, knowing that my partner was looking to see my cheeks open up on their own so he could check me out. I had one fellow who liked instructing me to go a few steps up on a stair case then then bend over.

I love being told to spread them and put a toy in me.

I love being told to spread them myself and I use both hands. I like the other person having the ability to use both their hands!

Not sure if the insertion of a colonic speculum counts as anal "play", but when the Twinkly Granny does it, and she uses that Silicone Nozzles speculum retention nozzle, it is a case of "hop on the treatment couch, take up the knee chest position" and she does the rest. The rest being lubrication of the nozzle, spreading me and then, quite firmly, popping it in. Then it is attach the hoses, me to turn onto my back and away we go.