Anally Exposed

Curious and I'm guessing the responses will be as varied as the subjects on Zity, but when having someone play with you anally, is it more exciting for you to be asked or ordered to spread your cheeks or to have your partner spread them for you? If you prefer to have them spread do you enjoy having both hands spread them, one hand, or the two finger method?

I recently had the experience of being on my knees and having my cheeks spread open wide with a hand on each butt cheek and I've got to say, that was amazingly erotic and stimulating for me!

I like my partner to take the control. Whatever she/he wishes to do will be a surprise, and most likely very gratifying. No matter the method, its still ass play.!!!

I agree with gape. Just let them have their way with me.

when having someone play with you anally, is it more exciting for you to be asked or ordered to spread your cheeks or to have your partner spread them for you? If you prefer to have them spread do you enjoy having both hands spread them, one hand, or the two finger method?

You don't have to spread my cheeks.

I'm trim and lean. The target is clearly visible.

Just lube me up. You will slide right in.

I agree with Switchablesusie, just lube me up real good and cum into the love tunnel.

It is really your preference that will decide which is best for you. Switching roles with your partner if their preference is different can be exciting for you too. Explore each...

I think my last week colonoscopy could have been more fun if drugs did not put me to sleep so fast. The young woman Doctor seemed to be very happy to see all of me. I was the first of several patients so it may have been the income she was thinking about for the day. The only thing I got to do was roll on my side before an injection of something that put me in a state of pleasant dreams.

It's always more exciting for me if I am ordered to spread my cheeks with both hands.

Being fully exposed is so erotic and exciting and sometimes embarrassing.

I like to have my butt cheeks spread all the way, either me holding them or my partner. The feeling is much more intense this way for me.

When a female partner plays with me anally, there is no ‘ordering’, as I do not identify with the ‘S’ side. It is strictly one lover playing with another to bring pleasure in a 50/50 dynamic. My lovers like to please me and get pleasure from that, just as it is returned.

When I play anally with a female lover, it can vary. If its a Dr/patient, or Dom/sub scene, then I LOVE to embarrass them, make them expose themselves, open their most private intimate place to the lights and cameras and my eyes. I will talk to them, asking how it feels, to open their ass, to have nothing hidden or private. Making them do it themselves is an extra humiliation that adds to the entire power dynamic.

Or it may just be me spreading their ass, diving inside with my fingers, or tongue, or toys, no dynamic apparent, just two people fully engaged with their entire bodies no matter the ‘forbidden taboos’ they may cross.

:TLDR; It depends, both!

All these methods are fun and exciting. It seems the most erotic for me is, I’m in the knee chest position and my wife says, “spread your ass checks for me.” I reach back with both hands and do as she asks. The span of time between my exposure and her touch, is very exciting. I am “all in” at this point and she can have her way with me.

Being a sub for me it’s being told to reach back or just spread your cheeks feels a bit more humiliating to be told to spread them for me.

For me I love to be dominated told what to do !!! Especially when she tells me to bend over spread my legs as wide as I can . Then she will spank me whip me till I’m red . Then screams at me to spread my ass cheeks as I do she realizes I have a plug in my ass she starts to wiggle it around then just yanks it out with no hesitation ! Then she sees how wide I am and just jams her huge dildo hard and fast . She loves to have control and so do I !!!

It's all fun but when I'm on my hands and knees and she tells me to open my legs further apart and then to hold my ass open for her it takes my breath away. At that point my chest and face are against the bed and I'm left struggling to keep my ass in the air

Any and all. I love to be spread wide. I love when she tells me what she sees and how it turns her on. Many women who’ve played with my ass were silent though breathing deeply. Others were very talkative.

All options are fine with me. I think it depends on the situation and if you and your partner are roleplaying would dictate which option works best. Just do it!!!! smiles.

I have had five rectal exams, two on the examination table on my side in the Sims position and three bent over the table leaning on my elbows. I think full exposure of the anus and a visual inspection of the anus adds a nice bit of embarrassment to the experience. One of the doctors who had me in the Sims position and one of the doctors who bent me over did good anal exposure and visual inspection. The others have just spread my cheeks enough to get the finger in. I have always hoped to have a doctor tell me to bend over the table and then say “now reach back and spread your cheeks for me.” I can think of no better way to complete an exam!

There is nothing more intimate than spreading someones cheeks and penetrating their most private place. To have to bare your bottom and then assume the position and wait for your cheeks to be parted knowing whoever is doing it will be seeing the secret browneye involves a lot of trust and not a little trepidation. It's my favorite thing to do.

I agree with Dave. It all depends on what's happening. If it's a thermometer, I like her to take care of everything. If it's an enema with a big nozzle, being told to hold myself open makes things seem more naughty, and more embarrassing.

It all depends on the situation. For me the most exciting is when someone is spreading my cheeks while I’m laying on my stomach with my elbows under me enjoying the excited feeling of being exposed in such a manner. It reminds me of what my pediatriation would do to me during exams and gets me very excited.

I love to be told to spread them! Just because I know whats to come (cum). Very exciting to be touched there, its such a private and sensitive area. You can feel the cool air on your hot rear passage and then a thermometer slips in and you know your partner is enjoying the view of probably your most private area of your body.

Depends on the situation.

During D/s, you're "told" to hold them apart because you've given away the right to being asked.

During other play, being asked is preferred.

I love to ear " Hold them apart " or " spread your buttocks, open your ass " This means that soon she will do me . . .

It totally depends on the situation, the type of play and the person involved. I also feel (perhaps weirdly) more in control when I am the one to spread my cheeks. Letting someone else do it makes me feel a lot more submissive, perhaps because it reminds me of visits to the pediatrician and doctor. However, leaning over something or being face down on the bed/sofa is always my preferred position for anything anal.

It's super erotic to have a partner on their back, legs either lifted and held wide open by the exposed party, or bent at the knees and held. I love seeing their face and the parted cheeks with the anus exposed at the same time as seeing the penis/testicals or vagina/clitoris . If it's a woman, it's extra exciting to see her vulva open with the vagina visible, labia exposed and clit hiding under the hood. It's a wonderful position to stick a finger into her ass and watch her clitoris jump and her vagina quiver as the finger goes inside. For a man, I like to penetrate his ass while holding his balls in my hand.

It's also nice to have a lady on her knees, legs spread in a tripod, with her head down so that I can rub her clitoris and see her asshole exposed at the same time.

Depends on the situation.

During D/s, you're "told" to hold them apart because you've given away the right to being asked.

During other play, being asked is preferred.

I had an ex who did D/s enema evenings with me as her sub. So lying on my back she would dress me in complete black latex and heavy tall Converse sneakers (two major kinks) and then cuff my wrists to my ankles and order me to keep my knees apart. Once she had to put a spreader bar on my knees so I'd be compliant enough for her to get anal access to put in a DBC and give me enemas. I find it most exciting and satisfying for her to make me spread my knees with orders and/or a spreader. Getting anal access is most fun when she used two hands.

Eric

I love having my cheeks spread especially when being examined. Feeling their touch and not knowing what’s to come is the best part. Plus it’s so humiliating feeling their hands on my butt and knowing they’re looking at my ass and about to examine such a private place being exposed.

I think there is nothing more erotic than spreading the cheeks and watching their face while I do it. A quick blush and watching their facial expressions while I am gazing on their secret place is too hot. They know the nozzle is coming next and the expression as it slowly slides in is priceless.

There was never any embarrassment or blushing when we played anally. Sometimes my wife would reach back and spread her cheeks for me to let me know what she wanted. We weren't med-fetters - just sexually very anally oriented. I don't recall ever asking her - she just helped out when she thought it necessary! Same with me.