Enemas and Anal intercourse which came first - unisex question

This is a question for either gender, assuming you engage in anal intercourse.

Did you first use enemas and then give anal sex a try or was it the other way around?

In my personal experience, I started with enemas first (age 14), then in a couple of years when I started having sex I graduated to anal sex which I enjoyed very much. For many years I thought it strange that my first anal sex experience was great - no pain at all. Then some 40 years later while discussing this in the old Noz chatroom with someone, he explained that the enemas I had been using for a time had expanded my inner rectum somewhat making anal sex easy. I'm curious if anyone else has had this experience (either gender).

BJ

It was enemas first. I started taking enemas when I was 8, was sticking candles, vegatables, fruits and other things up my butt since I was 8 or 9, was seen with my Sherema bag and colon tube when I was 16 by my father, started impaling boys with dildos when I was 17 and started giving boys enemas when I was 18.

Enemas. My wife, though used to enema, was very afraid of anal sex ("it's just too big!"). Years later, after she did me with a dildo, she convinced herself she could do it as well.

It is possible that enemas have gotten you used to receiving objects in the anus without triggering a clenching / tightening reflex, which is an issue for anal sex.

For me I started with enemas at 13 and then added lots anal sex toys as the years went by. It was about my mid 30's when I got my wife her first strap-on harness. We started out using an anal sex toy first for anal penetration then graduated to dildos later. So enemas first before anal sex.

I have had anal sex with my wife and she never has been into enemas. Fortunately we have never had any major poo accidents, but I would certainly would love to prep her with enemas first if she would let me.

Never having had actual anal sex, I would think that you would have to make room for the other person's goods beforehand.

Even if you don't have to you would want to do what you can to keep the experience from becoming unpleasant to them.

Any time you have sex, whether conventional or anal, if the satisfaction of your partner is not one of the things that makes it satisfying for you, you are doing it for the wrong reasons,

For me I started getting interested in enemas and doing those first. That lead me to start trying to play with other things in my butt and finding out I really like things up there but enemas started it all for me.

I haven't had anal intercourse, but have used fingers and toys (handheld, wouldn't mind a strapon).

Enemas started first, as I was given them and suppositories. Didn't like originally, but I guess that those and the constipation turned my attention to the anus more than many people, so I started playing some. Really haven't looked back.

I got enemas as a kid in the 50's. I think I was born anal erotic, the enemas were just my first introduction to the pleasures. Started some anal play when I was around 12 - used my sisters tampons, pencils etc. Didn't get into solo dildos until my 20's. One of the first times my wife to be and I had sex, she pulled out a plastic butt plug. Used it on her, but opened the door for me to get my own. We had lots of anal sex (both giving and receiving). Funny thing, she didn't like/want to use a strap on. Loved fingering me and using a dildo or butt plug. She was not into enemas - so that has always been solo for me.

Anal intercourse came first with a school mate in sixth grade. Also introduced me to masturbation as one lead to another. Enemas came much later in life. Have not done anal intercourse since then but lots of solo anal play!

Enemas first for me. I started getting those somewhere around the age of four. Anal intercourse did not occur until my mid-20s - after I admitted to myself that I was gay. I had been a full-blown klismophile for years at that point.

Anal sex came first. It started in my early 20's. I only do an enema if I know anal in probably going to happen and I am backed up and need to clean out. Now a decade later anal sex is a huge part of my sex life. I cant imagine not doing it.

I found I really enjoyed anal stimilation early on and that led me to find out about enemas and eventually try them.

Lots of anal plugging and dildoes and fingers and enemas nozzles and catheters for this old boy but never got around to anal as my exes never brought it up. I started enemas about age 15 when I was stimulated by my mom's rubber bag in her bathroom. Shortly later on I discovered orgasms and immediately started doing both at once and never stopped, now 66. Enemas and plugs are now very helpful to help me stimulate orgasms as I have pretty advanced ED. Fortunately my orgasms still work with the right rectal, enema, kink and D/s stimulation. Very satisfying even though solo now. Would love to be pegged or peg the right partner if I can find another.

Eric

Thank you all so much for the replies, I can see that I'm in good company 😃

Since everyone was so open, I'll share a little more of my own experiences. As I stated earlier I started enemas at 14 with the aid of my grandma, I came to really enjoy enemas and would often finger myself to orgasm after taking one.

On my 16th birthday after dinner one evening, grandma and I had a glass of wine and a talk... she said in a very matter-of-fact fashion the I would most likely start having sex soon and that was ok. She advised that I insist on the man always using a 'rubber'. Then she went on to say I should take an older lover for my first experiences and to always be clean "back there" as men are very passionate about taking a woman that way. She said to refrain from boys my own age as I would end up pregnant.

So, my first lover was my tennis instructor (25), we were an item for about 3 years before drifting apart. I'd guess that about 60% of the sex was anal, for regular sex he always wore a condom.

About my grandma, one of my uncles once commented to me privately that grandma, back the day, was a lady of the evening. She came to the US as a war bride. She never hesitated to discuss anything sexual with me in those teen years. She even encouraged taking a lady lover on occasion.

Again, thanks for all the comments.

BJ

My story is as follows:

Growing up as a straight male I’d never contemplated any kind of anal play as either the giver or receiver until porn (this is back in the day when porn came via the newsagent shop in magazines placed on the top shelf out of reach of younger eyes and hands) opened my eyes to the possibilities. Photo sets of attractive young women with impressive cocks buried in their bums piqued my interest in exploring with my girlfriends. Some were willing. Some not so much. None of those early experiences as a “giver” be it with fingers, toys or cock were particularly successful or rewarding. For whatever reason, my suspicion is that subconsciously either or both of us were holding back simply because of the poop factor.

Fast forward a few years to the early 2000’s. Although the internet which if we’re honest is primarily for porn (joking), had blown up, I still had a series of monthly publications arrive in the mail. I sat down one day to thumb through the glossy pages of my latest delivery to happen upon a very alluring young woman enjoying the pleasures of, I kid you not, a turkey baster the tip of which she had nestled sweetly in her bum. This got me thinking. I very quickly acquired a new baster of my own (I wasn’t going to jeopardize Thanksgiving by using our existing one) from the dollar store and got to work and blew my mind with how pleasurable the experience was in and of itself. From there I progressed in short order to a pharmacy red bag and nozzle and beyond.

Having learned how to attain a squeaky clean rectum and lower intestine and also having taken immense pleasure from the process my mind was opened to the other possibilities. During the last 15+ years all kinds of man made and organic toys/tools have provided me pleasure anally through slow and steady growth and experimentation. I’ve gone wide. I’ve gone deep. Mrs. LIK has defiled me with her fingers and her fist and a strap on. I love it all. I’m still a straight male but have broken the shackles my mind was locked in growing up to understand that loving playing with my arse or having someone do so is phenomenal fun.

So, for me, enemas came first but that was almost by chance. My love of enemas has grown over time to the point now where I enjoy them just for what they are. If a session is followed by some anal play, that’s great. If not, I’m fine with that. However, if anal play is forecast, enemas are for me a prerequisite.

Never connected enemas and anal sex,had a few girls who did anal,though dont think they would have resorted to being filled up with soapy water.

Don't know, maybe some ancient couple tried anal for the first time and realized the need to clean things up in there first

Enemas came first. Anal sex with wife can after she grew to like enemas received during intercourse. The next step was to have anal sex while she was holding an enema.

My first anal experience was a total mistake on my part. I guess she just moved one way and I moved another and whoosh, there I was!! Honestly didn't mean to, and was as surprised as she was. I remember a gasp, and as I was withdrawing, she moved her bum with me so that I stayed inside. She asked me to be still, and after a minute she started to move slowly. We were both feeling things we hadn't felt before, and lucky for me, she liked the feeling as much as I did.

So, anal came first, and it wasn't long that it became fairly regular. From that first time though, we gave each other enemas before and after a fun romp. I think she enjoyed the feeling of the enema as much as I did. She would often cum several times during our cleaning sessions, and she would edge me until I was going nuts.

It's been close to 50 years, and I still can't get that girl outa my mind. Dang!

Anal sex, since my first sex partner, as teen. Was in my 30's before I ever thought to try an enema.

Enemas came first. Anal sex with wife can after she grew to like enemas received during intercourse. The next step was to have anal sex while she was holding an enema.

Interesting progression. How did you get her to like enemas during intercourse?

Eric

My first anal experience was a total mistake on my part. I guess she just moved one way and I moved another and whoosh, there I was!! Honestly didn't mean to, and was as surprised as she was.

That was pretty funny. My wife has never gone there and isn't happy with her occasional enema for constipation either. You are a lucky man!

It stared about 6 or seven then I discovered I enjoy things in my butt,can’t stop the music I guess !

It all started with enemas during my pre-teen years. Later I moved on to fingers and any penile looking object. l would love to be pegged by some sexy female. I am now at the point that I would like to experience anal sex, as the receiver.

Anal sex came first for us. MrsFn and I started practicing anal intercourse, at times, while in our early 20's.

We only discovered erotic enemas about two and a half years ago now. That progression came about after I had read many posts here on Zity by people that really enjoyed them. MrsFn is very anally erotic, and I thought she would enjoy the enemas. We discovered them together in a good way so now enemas are just another method of pleasure in our repertoire.

Fn

It was enemas for me... discovered them around 15.

I was about 25 before I had a girlfriend who would do anal.

And, while buttplugs have been part of my life since my 20's, I was in my 40's before I experienced my first pegging.

Guess that makes me a late bloomer!

I had the one enema when I was nine and hated it. I hated everything that had to do with my butt. Then when I started dating women exclusively and one of the women moved in with me and she was totally hooked on anything anal. I did not mind fingering her or using vibes or whatever she wanted anally. But when it came to me it was a big NO. Then after sex one night, we were talking deep about my past and why I hated anal. We decided it was a cleanliness thing. She asked if I had ever felt anything in her and I said no. She told me that is because she uses enemas. The thought of enemas made me cring. All I could think about was the one I got when I was nine. But in between there, I let my fiance try anal on me and both times it hurt way bad. Anyway so back to the girl who moved in with me. She asked if I would give her enemas. I had no problem with that. I enjoyed fingering and licking her to orgasm while giving her enemas. It took a while until I got brave enough to let her give me an enema. But eventually, I let her. Little by little each time I took more and more water until weeks down the line when I finally took the whole bag and had a major orgasm. I had been letting her put small things in my butt little by little each time. Thermometers, then a finger, then a vibe that had this thing on it that was about as round as a finger in me. Then after I had the first major orgasm I was hooked. Now I love my butt being played with.

So I guess you could say it happened at the same time. I am still a clean freak. Nobody touches me back there unless I am clean.

Definitely enemas came first. My mom was an enema believer. From a young age I remember mom sitting on the toilet with the lid closed and me with my pajamas pulled down any time I was even slightly ill. She would have me lay across her lap and would use a bulb syringe to fill my bottom with soapy water and then holding her finger over my anus to keep the soapy water in as long as possible. I remember not liking enemas initially, but later learning to like and be aroused by the sensations I was receiving from the enema.

Although, I had put things like a hair brush handle, candles, and tampons in my ass, I didn’t have anal sex until I was in college. The first time happened after a lot of drinking. My boyfriend had been pestering me for anal and I finally relented. He lived at home and his parents were out of town. I was spending the weekend with him. We found his mom’s pink douche bag and I let him watch as I laid down on the bathroom floor and gave myself an enema to clean my back passage beforehand. Even going slow having his penis in my behind hurt like hell. I don’t think we used any lube except maybe the wetness from my vagina. Fortunately for me, he climaxed quickly. As with enemas, I initially didn’t like anal. For me it took awhile before It starting being enjoyable.

Enemas came first, but if I’d had the opportunity I would certainly have tried anal sex (or any sex!) first.

Enemas first. I grew up with them, then I played solo with them, then even played doctor with a female partner for a while and got them. Did not have anal sex till I was almost 20.