Being upfront of wearing a diaper for a professional service.

My question is do you let a professional know in advance that you are wearing a diaper? What I mean by professional services is a new doctor, physical or massage therapist, etc. Everytime Im seeing or scheduling an appointment for the first time for some kind of professional service I always let them know upfront. I think it's best and respectful because there is no surprises for you or the professional. I think it helps both to be more comfortable. Anyone else do this?

I hope it is clean and at most only slightly damp, or else it should be changed BEFORE going into the examining room.

Switchablesusie I totally agree with you and a very good point. I would never be disrespectful to anyone in that manner. I have changed and cleaned myself up many times before the appointment in the restroom at the place of service if needed.

I do the same and agree on all counts. As I have genuine incontinence it is sometimes unavoidable that I get wet or soiled while waiting even after a recent change. I always off before I am exposed in any way to change. More often than not they have just said no worries or we have to rip open the diaper anyways etc...(I think most offices are to busy to have to disrupt things mid appointment. In that case it is on the provider at that point. But, it sucks when you are stuck in that position and I try to avoid it at all costs. I also try to war conservative diapers. Otherwise though, I make no effort to hide them or be embarrassed by them. They are just underwear...I find if you treat the situation that way it makes the providers much more comfortable as well.

I recently had to have a prostrate exam and during my stay in the waiting room the bladder let go ?

I got to see doc and she asked me to drop underwear and I apologised for the wet nappy and she just said "no need to apologise that is what you are here for"and it was treated as if of no consequence.

That was proffesionalism ?

I was diagnosed with an enlarged prostate and BPH (no indications of cancer). I went to the doctor afterwards to discuss the "issues" it caused. It was killing me to try to make the 50 minute drive to his office and felt it was better to diaper up (actually reusable training pant type briefs and plastic pants) than show up in wet pants. I use this set up often in public situations. While I have enough control to avoid a soaking, a decent sized wet spot is very possible.

Anyways, without notice I was referred to his nurse practitioner. She discussed my ongoing symptoms and then asked me to pull down my pants for a rectal exam. Making it more stressful was the fact that she had to invite another nurse in to witness, as this is the law for different sex patient/caregivers in our state. UGH.

While I didn't disclose my incontinence wear beforehand, it was obvious that I was wearing protection (dry) with my pants down. Nothing was said and the discussion afterward turned to her attempting to lead me into seeing a urologist. I related to her I have an unrealistic fear of urologists and that I would rather deal with the problem than pursue a surgical solution. (Rotorooter. EEK)! Her response was to tell me "most men would rather have the problem taken care of". I viewed it as a tactful way of saying that she didn't approve of how I was handling the problem i.e. diapers. She finished up with saying that if I decided in the future to do something about the problem, to let them know.

I've found that when I've dealt with visits to other health care professionals, incontinence problems are not really an issue. Nor are the diapers. However, how you deal with your incontinence problem.... now that's another question....

I had a rhinoplasty surgery yesterday and I was upfront about having overactive bladder mixed with urge incontinence. I told the pre-op nurse and she said I could’ve worn it for surgery but I told her I already took it off because I was told no underwear. After surgery was done and I was brought back to my room to stay the night, I tried to use the urinal container next to the bed. I ended up peeing in the container mostly and some on the gown and bed. The nurse asked me if I needed a new gown and if she needed to change the bedding. I said the gown was fine because it didn’t get much on it and I told her about my bladder issues and that I regularly wear diapers. She went and got me a diaper and a bed pad. I had no issues after that and I just used the diapers. I could’ve tried to get up for the restroom but I was connected to too many things. The nurses were very nice. I was a little embarrassed because I had to mention the diapers and incontinence problems to the nurse in front of my dad. I told my dad that I was embarrassed for having to mention that in front of him. He said that everyone has their issues and it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. That made me feel better because I never want my dad to think less of me for anything. He is an excellent dad.

When I first lost continence ,i would catheterized drain the entire bladder but most times be wet before I got to my appointment it drove me crazy especialy if I was going to be examined ,the idea of going out in clean underwear and all that rot ,my Urologist nurse said it best ,"the doctor wouldn't prescribe diapers if he wasnt expecting a wet one" . My other specialist honestly I don't know or care ,i may have mentioned it during conversation ,but there has never been a formal deceleration of I use diapers !

It would be amazing to think a doctor dense enough to have not figured it out ,i dont roll around in 30K wheelchair because it was an impulse purchase .although my Urologist happens to work and be affiliated with a different hospital network ,so he's not even mentioned in my chart . Having an intensive care frequent flyers club card ,most nurses either know me or with remember my wheelchair ( its very distinctive, no one else in the county drives one,and the company that makes it is the only company that has four blacks my chosen variant is Matte black powder coat ) so they know I am diapered ,26+ years of hospitalizations half of the nurses and i can call each other by name if we run into each other somewhere outside of the hospital .