Foursome that should be a threesome

We met someone. Well, someones.

To make a very long story short, I have always been bisexual (pansexual, really. Which is like the not an asshole version of bisexual) but due to a very religious upbringing I repressed these desires, only to come out to my husband 15 years into our relationship.

So. We met a couple. I haven't been with a woman in a long time, and I've never gone down on a woman. Husband (H from now on) and I meet a couple online and theres mutual interest. It's not an exaggeration to say they are young enough to be our kids.

We meet. I could go into boring detail, but the short version is we go back to their place and (as previously agreed) she and I have make out and have sex. Omg. First, it turns out, I'm really good at fucking women. Second, H is really happy to watch.

But the dude of the couple... NO attraction to him whatsoever. NONE. As the evening continues it's pretty clear that what H does to my new ladyfriend, her husband wants to do to me. Which is a big no. I told H and he said No shit! He already knew. Smart man he is.

So H and I have agreed that this will be a ladies only men watch situation. I just know that it's going to go bad because I am so not interested.

But I cant figure out a way to kick him out of the action.

It will probably go bad in a few months. But I'm hoping to show this hot baby girl a thing or two before we do.

Okay. Just had to tell someone since I cant tell anyone IRL.

Wholover said

. . . . . It will probably go bad in a few months. But I'm hoping to show this hot baby girl a thing or two before we do.

Okay. Just had to tell someone since I cant tell anyone IRL.

Not telling anyone in your real life will be your loss.

Of course, you do need to be prepared to lose everything you have in order to get what you want. It isn't always an easy decision.

Not telling anyone in your real life will be your loss.

Of course, you do need to be prepared to lose everything you have in order to get what you want. It isn't always an easy decision.

Maybe a better way to say it is, I don't have a close friend who has been in a similar situation and has any good advice whatsoever based upon learned experience.

My BFF has ALL the salacious details, just no point of reference to offer advice. Also, I don't advertise my kink, out of discretion and civility. I've never done anything that would cause me to "lose everything" (what does that even mean?) but I certainly don't want to have a conversation with my MOTHER about it. ;-)

I reckon you whisper to the girl that you want her alone , threesome not four.

Her husband doesn't have to know .

Enjoy?.

Maybe a better way to say it is, I don't have a close friend who has been in a similar situation and has any good advice whatsoever based upon learned experience.

My BFF has ALL the salacious details, just no point of reference to offer advice. Also, I don't advertise my kink, out of discretion and civility. I've never done anything that would cause me to "lose everything" (what does that even mean?) but I certainly don't want to have a conversation with my MOTHER about it. ;-)

Let me explain. If you are married and NOT in an open relationship, you could end up in a divorce. One party could lose everything--kid's custody, money although the women are ridiculously favored in a divorce by the courts and it's practically always the man who gets raped in the money department, the house, the car, retirement funds, parts of the spouse's business even if the wife had nothing to do with it, among a host of other things and if you don't believe that, you are very wrong and need to speak to people this has happened to.

The situation could be reversed and the other couple might not want both you and your husband and might just want one of you. Someone will end up being a loser.

THAT'S what lose everything means. You would need to be prepared to lose everything to get what you want, [which in this case could be a kinky playmate or group of playmates] if your spouse or theirs doesn't agree with your desires.

Let me explain. If you are married and NOT in an open relationship, you could end up in a divorce..

THAT'S what lose everything means. You would need to be prepared to lose everything to get what you want, if your spouse or theirs doesn't agree with your desires.

Oh. Yeah, then no way. Not even a consideration to put my very committed relationship at risk. We go into any kink together and any nonmonogomy is ethical and together.

Hence, the problem in this case, and why it's unlikely to go on very long. Pretty sure the dude wants a swap situation and it is not happening.

I guess I know the answer, really. Have fun while it's fun and then say bye.

My SO and I had a younger girlfriend. She was really attracted to my SO and not a all to me. But, we were a package and she gave it a try, and discovered something. We really really played well together. She was not a kinky s my SO, but we just had electricity between us. Oddly enough the SO started getting jealous which was funny because if you go on in this pursuit and you play with the guy, you will find out that once you get him off a couple of times he will probably want to sleep or eat. Regardless you should not have too hard a time getting lots of solo girl time. Also, what about your hubby? Your hubby might enjoy her as well. And before you say you are not into him having her or he is not into it, let me tell you that with near 100% certainty, at some point he will expect the same latitude, perhaps not with her but it will happen, just be prepared for it. It can be a hard beast to balance, but a shitload of fun.

Your hubby might enjoy her as well. And before you say you are not into him having her or he is not into it, let me tell you that with near 100% certainty, at some point he will expect the same latitude, perhaps not with her but it will happen, just be prepared for it. It can be a hard beast to balance, but a shitload of fun.

So the thing is I would gladly have a threesome with me and my husband and her. I dont want her husband to touch me at ALL. And so... our current arrangement is me and her together, boys can watch and/or fuck their own wife.

Ideally I would like her to join us, but since I don't know any magic spells to make her husband go away...

And to be clear, I have a wide range of tastes, but... people... he... he... took a b**g hit as his wife and I were fucking. Like in the same room. His only redeeming quality was that he didnt turn out to be a murderer.

Its unfortunate. She is this sexy woman who is a lot of fun and curvy with a big sexy ass I could do naughty things to for hours... and her husband is repulsive.

I can tell you that I have been there. The first time the friends' husband was not attractive at all. I did not want him to touch me. I flat out said no. The second time she and I stated the men could only watch. But her husband broke the rules and tried to touch me. After that, it was just she and I which worked good. Then she ended up divorcing him and almost moving in with us. She might as well have. She was sleeping with us etc. She knew her ex was after the car. One day we drove by the dealership and saw what looked like their car. We got home and her ex was waiting for us asking if we had seen her. We said not in three days. He stated she sold the car back to the dealership. The same man who sold them the car in the first place took off with her. We never saw her again. Then there were a few others. But you really need to watch out. I mean don't let your man think he can do as he pleases. I would come home from work sometimes and smell a perfume that I did not wear. I found some panties under the bed but that could have been the first girl I was talking about. Then I would start my period and not have any tampons. The first few times I wrote it off as maybe I used them all. Then I would be out again. I am not talking every month. Just every couple of months. Then I started keeping track. A neighbor told me that my ex and some girl would meet at our place sometimes after I went to work. I finally caught him and my ex best friend. He will never get a 3-some with her because she is 100% straight. They both lost a lot of friends over it. If I were to ever date men again I would be cautious. But for some people it works out.

You might have to seek out a new solo female than. Unless her hubby is happy with this arrangement. In any relationship there is give and take, and the more people you mix in the more things are probably not going to be exactly what you want, at least not all the time. In this case it sounds like a couple where you like the guy more or a stray female would be good for you. Now finding them is the challenge.

Now finding them is the challenge.

You ain't kidding.

We are getting together again this weekend. I'll let you know how it goes and/or if it implodes.

But you really need to watch out...

I finally caught him and my ex best friend. He will never get a 3-some with her because she is 100% straight. They both lost a lot of friends over it. If I were to ever date men again I would be cautious. But for some people it works out.

Thanks for the warning and I'm so sorry it ended that way. With your BEST FRIEND? what total assholes! That would put me right off relationships altogether.

UPDATE

We hooked up again. Dude was less repulsive but also at my house so not as stoned/ripping bong hits.

I feel like in 20 years they will remember us as that older sexy couple who taught them new ways to have sex and a new word for vagina. I'm basically the male protagonist in a Tom Robbins novel.

She has the most luscious ass though y'all. O spent fully half an hour just worshipping it in every way. That was new and fun for us both.