Did mom know the psychological impact of giving you enemas?

Mine always claimed they were for health reasons, but looking back i wonder now. I think to her it was a control thing, showing me that she considered me a little boi and she was in charge. It wasnt just what she did, it was how she did it. I was always stripped naked as soon as she made the announcement that i was getting my enemas. That always gave me a feeling of vunerability. I would have to stand in her bathroom naked and exposed while she picked out which bag she was going to use, which nozzle, put the nozzle on the hose and then lube it. The more i think about it, the more i believe she knew exactly what she was doing.

Back in the 50's and 60's the experts, (doctors, and nurses) told you what to do and you did it without question. You believed that they were much smarter than the rest of the world , and what they said was gospel. Back then life was all about structure and order, and new improved ways of doing things. US had won the worlds becasue of this and we were going to carry on these habits, of listening to our leaders, who put structure and order into our lives. This included doctors demanding regular use of enemas. SO, that's what mothers did, regardless of how they felt about it.

Back in the 50's and 60's ....... This included doctors demanding regular use of enemas.

I thought enemas for health reasons were a 'home remedy'. Not aware of doctors ever prescribing regular enemas - even back then.

I'm not sure I qualify as "younger generation" anymore

I just used younger as an example. I know some, my sub is one, who are over 50 but never received enemas. But boy do they get a sexual kick out of them. What got them started? Not someone giving them enemas.

I was only given enemas recovering from serious childhood illnesses during which I was bedridden, and (I believe) only on the doctor's advice. When older, I discovered different gear in my parent's room that wasn't used on me. So I concluded my mother was using it. I don't think mom thought about enemas as anything other than what was considered sound medical practice at the time.

In the late Forties, a psychiatrist named (Helen) Flanders Dunbar published a popular-press-oriented work called "Your Child's Mind and Body", in which she advised against enemas for children save on doctor's orders because "Many children have been made homosexual (via this act)." she then proceeds to contradict herself, citing an instance of a four-year-old conditioned not to fear enemas by participation in the process.

I never got enemas from family, but had a number of them during an eight week confinement to a body cast as a ten-year-old; I dreaded the disposables administered by young male nurses, but had a much better experience, and result, with warmed soapsuds from the traditional irrigating can, administered by mature women, enough so to start experimenting on myself when puberty came along. I still indulge about twice a month, as part of an enhanced bathing protocol and a "compulsive clean" streak.

As for Ms. Dunbar, I suspect that she failed to differentiate between pleasurable anal stimulation and genuine same-sex leanings. She raised a daughter, born in 1942, who may have been the role model "Josie" cited in her book. She was to die at the age of 57 due to drowning in a swimming pool at her home, which may have resulted from a heart attack, but foul play was not suspected.

The enemas I received from my Mom as a child were only given between the age of about 3 and 6 at the oldest. I never had a sense that they were given for any reason other than as a "cure all" for what illness I might have had at the time. I suppose because I didn't find them objectionable in the least, and later discovered on my own that I was an "anal erotic", that it was only natural for me to try enemas on my own as a way to stimulate and pleasure myself during masturbation. Yup...sure did! Been enjoying good enemas for over 60 years since.

Caresabouthealth wrote: "I'm a psych major and Freud's psychosexual explanations always was strange to me."

I know what you mean. I read his books in college and was intrigued until he said that "normal" women have vaginal orgasms, and that those who didn't needed therapy. Women who got off on stimulating their clits were "abnormal." I threw his book across the room and never read another word he wrote.

Lot's of people questions Frued's conclusions and assessments.

Sigmund Freud was such a schmuck. I'm glad he's dead. He would have used the internet and make a whole lot of ridiculous statements for people to refute. Now he can't defend his statements so we are ahead of the game.

Shrinks as a rule are in much greater need of psychological help than people at the lowest rung of the population.

Sigmund Freud was such a schmuck. I'm glad he's dead. He would use the internet and make a whole lot of ridiculous statements for people to refute.

Shrinks as a rule are in much greater need of psychological help than people at the lowest rung of the population.

Freud died in 1939. His using the internet would completely dispute the fact that Al Gore invented it! 😃

Agree with your statement about shrinks. A lot of other psychosfuckeups used the internet to promote his "theories".

Susie - Freud died in 1939. His using the internet would completely dispute the fact that Al Gore inventing tit! 😃

I'm pretty sure there was a typo involved in what Susie wrote. Her statement was probably meant to be something like this:

He would have used the internet and made a whole lot of ridiculous statements for people to refute

btw, on the 'invention' of the Internet: because a Belgian scientist contributed a small part in the development of the concept in some obscure way, there is a meme going round among the less educated in Belgium that the Internet is actually a Belgian invention ... and jut try talking them out of it ... ha ha ha.

Seriously. I bet that every country has a similar meme, national pride and all that.

I'm sure she didn't, or at least didn't think of it in those terms, but did recognize the physical impact and knew when it was time for me to begin self-administration. All the fussing, crying and begging during those childhood enemas slowly changed into relaxed compliance with our ritual, acknowledgement that a good enema was necessary, accepting the enema without complaint until she removed the nozzle, agreeing to a second filling, and (of course) my uncontrollable erection throughout the session. She knew.

. We all know Susie is NOT sexually suppressed!!

I'm not so sure. I think she has been slowing down lately, we haven't heard anything in the last 3 days about sex at all. This is a sad sad day.

My Mother made enemas easy and pleasant.

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Freud had a significant credibility drop with me when I saw the line in Civilization and its Discontents about the progress of man starting when we were first able to resist the urge to pee on fires. Yeah...

Having grown up in the fifties and sixties I was given enemas by my mom at a young age. I dreaded those early encounters with the bulb syringe, though I later developed a fascination with enemas. I'm sure she was just doing what she had to do to take care of my bouts of constipation and gave no thought to any proclivity that I may develop because of the enemas she gave me. No, I don't blame her for my fetish, I have to take credit for developing that myself.

@moliere Lol. Freud truly was weird and that's saying something coming from someone with a medical fetish. A truly disturbing man that Freud. Many people here with a medfetish or klismophilia are smart people, socially normal, and employable.

In retrospect I was telegraphing it with my body language, and I was oblivious at the time.

By the time I figured it out I was self-administering.

I was never fond of receiving enemas from my mom or grandmothers. I must have been very young, no older than six. They were given out of nessesity, or I assume, doctors orders. Doubt there was any sexual gratification on their part or their intent was to turn me into some future klismo. They were just doing the best they could with the current knowledge available.

As I got older, I realized most of my friends received them too. We never elaborated on the subject, we just all knew enemas were out there and what they were used for. Did my friends become klismos? Don’t know. What I have discovered over the years is kids raised in the sixties turned out to be great people, parents, and members of society. From my heterosexual experience, enemas have always been my “next level” in a relationship. A bonding that added to the excitement of sex with my partner.

When, who, or how, my “enema switch” was turned on, I have accepted the fact that it just was many years ago. I blame no one or no one thing. It is part of my sexually and when I enjoy an enema with my wife, I truly am glad to be alive.

What I have discovered over the years is kids raised in the sixties turned out to be great people, parents, and members of society.

From what one often reads, yours is not the prevailing view. You'd think that for some people, everything that is now thought to be wrong with the world and society all started back in the 60s ...

Refreshing to hear the opposite for a change, though I'm certain that kids raised in other decades also turned out to be just fine as well ...

agracier said

From what one often reads, yours is not the prevailing view. You'd think that for some people, everything that is now thought to wrong with the world and society all started back in the 60s ...

The generations born prior to WWI and produced the generation between the Depression and the end of WWII were without a doubt, hands down, bar none the greatest generations. Not because they made the most money but because they fixed the problems of WWII and produced the baby boomers who were the best CHILDREN who went on to make lots of money, be successful and set the economy in motion, but that unfortunately took a socialist turn where everybody felt entitled to have two cars, their own house and social security instead of being responsible for taking care of themselves. The greatest FAILURE of the baby boomers was their entitlement and that they were they were positively shitty parents. They gave their children everything. The baby boomers and Gen Xers were the WORST parents and produced really shitty children because they didn't give the children any rules to live by. The philosophy became one of letting the children find themselves and letting them do what they wanted in school and finding a job instead of doing things in school that would really prepare them for a good job. Giving your children freedom to take courses in gender studies and lesbian dance theory and not telling them who and what they are does not prepare them for the real world or make a child who will be successful or able to support him/herself which is why so many kids are returning to home after college. They are know-nothing idiots who are great at tweeting and video games but not at earning a living.

The Gen Z and Millennials really suck. We will have to see if they learned anything from their parents on how NOT to be a parent. I am not optimistic on that.

When I think of how badly parents have let their children run awry I keep coming back to my Ten Commandments for Children.

https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=747379

The greatest FAILURE of the baby boomers is that they were they were positively shitty parents. They gave their children everything. The baby boomers and Gen Xers were the WORST parents and produced really shitty children because they didn't give the children any rules to live by.

I really hate to admit it, but I agree with Susie. I'm a Baby Boomer and I was so consumed with myself, my career, my own activities that I pretty much ignored - or at least didn't spend as much time as I should have - with my kids. It was easier for me to send them off to the movies, camp, amusement parks than to spend quality time with them. Fortunately my wife stepped in and did the parenting and our kids turned out OK - no thanks to me! I think most of us Baby Boomers were self centered. Growing up in the sixties was all about self-gratification.

I'm a successful Baby Boomer. I opted out of kids.

And my mother giving me enemas had NOTHING to do with it!

I really hate to admit it, but I agree with Susie. I'm a Baby Boomer and I was so consumed with myself, my career, my own activities that I pretty much ignored - or at least didn't spend as much time as I should have - Growing up in the sixties was all about self-gratification.

I too am a boomer and I took a failing business and built it into something that supported me my whole life. I worked 60 hours a week for decades and still found time to coach baseball and do dad things. I probably did give and still do give my kids too much but they both grew into productive, hard working adults. I'm not sure I agree that boomers were the shittiest parents ever.

My mom is a baby boomer and I think she is an amazing mother. My father never really helped with rent. She commuted most of her life till we finally moved to the town she worked where there was more opportunity and less stress from commuting. There was strength and endurance in my mom that I so admire to also finally leave him. Never discount an entire generation as shitty when so many people work hard. Same with ethnic background, race: no certain entity is lazy or what have you. Any person can be lazy it isn't just because of their background. Looking at people with an open mind will enable such awesome friendships to enfold not putting them in categories.

Caresabout health.................

Well put!

@Likesenemas Thank you so much. Have a good day. Just telling the truth.😄

@caresabouthealth , your post just showed you are wise beyond your years. Your observations are not something that can be taught in school, but taught by example. You are also proof that there is hope for our so called generation of millennials .

This is one of the sillier (if not the silliest) discussions I've seen on Zity! It has also strayed far afield of the first post! Admittedly, my last enema from Mom was over half a century ago, and I frankly have no idea if she took psychology in college, but she gave us enemas to make us shit, either because we were constipated, or she wanted to clean us out. I SERIOUSLY doubt she consulted a psych book or psychologist before sticking the nozzle in our arses. Psychological impact? REALLY??? And then, of course, there's the business of straying to generational evolution and good/bad generations...REALLY? Here's how I look at it: Mom gave us enemas, for reasons about which I can only speculate. Two of us became klismos (and we're both very happy that we did.), two of us did not. What difference does it make? Two of us take enemas frequently, two never do (to my knowledge). So what? It only makes a difference if you (the reader) see something wrong with klismophilia. A psychologist would likely say that every member of this site has a psychological problem. What difference does it make? We're ALL "abnormal", but then, what's normal? In my humble opintion, anyone with zero psychological hangups is abnormal, LOL! I accept every one of the members here as friends, or at least friendly acquaintances. As for generations, betcha you never find one that is ALL good and outstanding, or ALL bad and worthless. Let's get back to discussing kinks, that's what this site is all about!