Natural lubrication, especially post menopause

My wife, in the first times of our relationship, sometimes needed a little bit of artificial lubricant in her vagina (not for long). Even later, we used lubricant for intercourse during periods, after removing a tampon. We however prefer natural lubrication, supplemented by saliva from oral sex.

We wonder how much dryness she can expect after menopause.

It varies a lot. There might be a slightly noticeable reduction or she might be really dry. Everyone is different.

My wife had a hysterectomy and it killed her sex drive and lubricity. Looking back on it she had some painful periods and bleeding but I think the doctor should have left her ovaries. I wish I had known then what I know now. It really ruined her sex life and mine too.

Like @Moppys_jalopy , my wife too has had a hysterectomy. Only her uterus was removed due to a fibroid tumor. She still has her ovaries. I know it varies with each woman, but we have experienced quite the opposite of most. Her sex drive has grown by leaps and bounds over the last few years since her surgery. I have also commented to her, on more than one occasion lately, that her pussy seems to get wetter than ever now. She has agreed and even commented that she knows she is getting wetter now.

I know we are the exception here, but I have to think that our good fortune is partly because we love exploring together, and I am learning more and more how to fulfill her wanton desires and engage her mind. She even told me just yesterday that I have been keeping her in an almost constant state of arousal lately.

I am one lucky guy, being married to this total babe!

Fn

You are a lucky guy, sounds like fun.

@DrFn I love this part,

I know we are the exception here, but I have to think that our good fortune is partly because we love exploring together, and I am learning more and more how to fulfill her wanton desires and engage her mind. She even told me just yesterday that I have been keeping her in an almost constant state of arousal lately.

I didn't originate the saying, but the mind is the most powerful sex organ in the body and if you add communication to that, then the sky's the limit! 😄 And the icing on the cake is having a partner who is willing to explore whatever it is you want to do and thinks of things on their own to try. 🌹

I didn't originate the saying, but the mind is the most powerful sex organ in the body and if you add communication to that, then the sky's the limit! 😄

@Ms_Lila , I could not agree with you more here. MrsFn and I have both been learning more and more how to communicate with each other and that has led us to where we are and where we are going...together.

Sorry for the quick hi-jack of your thread @Pecan_nutjob. I wish you and your wife all the best.

Now back to your regularly scheduled program.

Fn

Susie is spot on , it varies from woman to woman and also if the ovaries are kept it may depend on the cycle as well.

Lila and fn are also spot on. The mind plays a huge role into how a woman feels sexually. Making her feel wanted and desired, appreciated and loved will boost her confidence and make her feel sexier. Open communication with yourself to her, share your wants and desires and make her know you wont judge her that will make big bounds in her openess in the bedroom. Have fun together, have date nights, bring back the romance.

Let her know that changes in her body or how its reacting will be something the both of you will deal with together.

There is nothing more meaningful than a hug from the one you love and to hear the words “ we got this” .

I am sorry for those that lose interest in sex and are not willing to work through it for their partners. it’s extremely selfish and I apologize for saying, but also loveless of them.

I know we are the exception here, but I have to think that our good fortune is partly because we love exploring together, and I am learning more and more how to fulfill her wanton desires and engage her mind. She even told me just yesterday that I have been keeping her in an almost constant state of arousal lately.

I am one lucky guy, being married to this total babe!

Fn

@DrFn

You do have something special - keep treasuring it!

Like Moppy and DrFN experience, after hysterectomy 18 plus years ago for fibroid tumor in uterus, all of the apparatus went out and the vagina was shortened. Intercourse still possible but little or no desire on part of lovely wife. She did try to accommodate my desires and we did use lube and lots of foreplay, just was not destined to last as we got older, so sad to say. Still could get aroused enough every few years to give it a go, no orgasm joy for her though. So I did not pressure her then, now or before, just so you understand.

So I turned to other outlets with her blessing which did not include affairs, sex workers, etc.

My first wife experienced vaginal dryness after menopause. I met my second wife after she had already been through menopause, and she was also somewhat dry. In both cases, we simply kept/keep a bottle of lube on the night stand. When we want to start playing, I squirt some on my fingers and work them in and around her vagina...

Post menopause in the SO has been both dryer and a thicker and gooier natural lube. Nothing a bit of lube won't cure there. The head issues are much harder to address.

My natural lubrication was always sufficient until I went thru menopause. Then things dried up a lot. So much so that we can't have sex without adding some Astroglide--this stuff is really slippery but when things are a bit tight down there it makes him feel wonderful penetrating me. It's also great for using on sex toys, too.

Yeah when the menses paused so did my natural lubrication. I still lubricate some but nothing like I used to - I used to habitually soak through underwear. We use lube more than not now - although if we’re doimg CNC play being drier makes it kinda fun as it really makes it feel like I’m being forced. He really has to jam it in so I really feel taken.