Does small penis make you more vulnerable to being submissive?

Have to admit I have a genuinely small package. Flaccid it is barely visible and I can cover the head with a nickel.

Hard it is about "average" length, bit very small girth.

I've always been teased about it and always had a hard time getting hard in front of people. Cock toys have always been an issue too because even the smallest size is too big, cockrings or straps etc. Even chastity devices don't work because I can get my dick out of them because it is do small.

My question is does size make you more vulnerable to being submissive?

I've renamed this thread to make it more clear what is actually being asked.

The more general question "Does men's size matter" has been discussed elsewhere.

Maybe. It depends. If the guy "owns it" it may not affect his vulnerability at all.

If you know that your penis is below average in size, and if you've been mocked or made fun of because of it, then I suppose that may have an impact on how you feel about yourself. But I honestly don't think that size itself has a big influence on whether you're dominant or submissive. I think that's just how you're made.

I have an average sized dick, maybe a little on the small side, but it is the way you use it that counts. After all, a woman's clitoris is not deep in the vagina, so the smallest dick can stimulate some kind of orgasm. I think guys with smaller dicks tend to work harder and girls respond to this, stimulation is not isolated to the vagina and girls like to be caressed all over. I don't think guys with small dicks would necessarily be more submissive.

George

As is appropriate for Psychology corner, it's all in the way you respond to the physical reality. If you feel that you are somehow less "worthy" than people with horse sized appendages, that can certainly play into a "sub" dynamic. At some primal level, it is probably difficult to avoid an element of vulnerability - similar to the dynamic of a boy whose sexual development lags behind his peers. I experienced that throughout high school and late grade school, after skipping an academic year and being almost 2 years younger than most of my classmates.

...it's all in the way you respond to the physical reality. If you feel that you are somehow less "worthy" than people with horse sized appendages, that can certainly play into a "sub" dynamic.

i agree with pretty much all the responses to this. Some of the least Dominant "Dom's" i have encountered were bullies using physical means to compensate for a psychological deficit (or their seemingly unconscious feelings of inferiority). To me emphasis of physical size, be it muscle or phallic, carries with it the notion of physical force. Which is not to say i don't think that minimizing a sub's penis can't have all sorts of psych play attached to it, it can.

I think on a certain level, size can be used as a base form of Dom/sub, but my take is developed Dom's or sub's rely more on the cerebral than the physical in the exercise of their individual bent.

It's like Horsepower. No matter how big an engine you build someone will always have a bigger one. As long as it works for you, that is all that matters. I have a size 13 foot and I can tell you that correlation between the two is a myth! Performance in the field, that is all that counts.

. . . . I have a size 13 foot and I can tell you that correlation between the two is a myth! . . . .

My fantasy has been destroyed. 😁

My fantasy has been destroyed. 😁

I can tell you my dick is twice the size of my foot.

I can tell you my dick is twice the size of my foot.

Should you have size 26 feet then? lol

Does small penis make you more vulnerable to being submissive?

It certainly makes you more vulnerable to being ridiculed and laughed at ! ! ! ! 😁 😁 😁

Should you have size 26 feet then? lol

No, size 26 condom.

I can tell you my dick is twice the size of my foot.

Small feet??

Size 13.. That was tongue in cheek. I'm an old white guy. All you girls can relax.

Size 13.. That was tongue in cheek. I'm an old white guy. All you girls can relax.

Or hope!

Hope springs eternal.

Hope springs eternal.

you named your penis "Hope?"

Actually Willie but you hope he comes out to play.

I call mine "Speedy" cuz he always hits the finish line first!

It's how you use what you have that should count. I'm not saying just your penis. You've got fingers, lips, and a tongue that can help move things along if your penis isn't quite hitting the buttons. Use everything you have and hopefully your partner will be satisfied.

I was born with micro penis so had to use other things. My second wife is somewhat dominate and when my incontinence came along been in diapers for along time she is also younger it makes it hard for me to be dominate.

It's how you use what you have that should count. I'm not saying just your penis. You've got fingers, lips, and a tongue that can help move things along if your penis isn't quite hitting the buttons. Use everything you have and hopefully your partner will be satisfied.

i so agree with this! i had a fb once who was very large bodied and had a tiny penis, maybe two inches if that? Our relationship was 'anonymous' walk in (i was always face down), so i never really saw him, but could feel the girth of his body when he straddled me. He knew what he wanted and he knew how to use what he had. Even erect, it took a certain skill level for him to penetrate and fuck.

His penis never really felt amazing in and of itself, and i am not turned on by big bodies, yet i grew very fond of him and he could really turn me on. From the first meet, i could tell he was self conscious about his size on both counts, but for me a guys penis is a means of connecting with him on all sorts of different levels, so i was able to sincerely show interest in him from the start. To me, that is one of the wonders of really good sex: i.e., if the chemistry is right, each persons desire feeds the others, opposing forces attracting? Despite his insecurities, he still had an underlying drive as a 'Top' who gains pleasure through connecting with a 'bottom' (way over simply put) and it was that connection that made the sex so appealing, for me at least. Honestly, he could have penetrated me with pretty much anything (e.g. "fingers, lips and tongue" ad infinitum) as long as he was connected to what he used and to what he was doing.

I have a friend with a very small penis. However, he has NO problem being in charge. He is caring and loving but firm and demanding. His position of preference for penetration is either me on top, or spooning behind me. His tongue is magical as are his hands. He has no problem telling me what to do for him, what position to get into, giving me a spanking or any other dominate role. So no! I believe that the size of a mans penis is not a defining factor in his role, but rather a desire, a mindset and a will to take the dominate part of the relationship.

I am owner of a 5”erect dick, about 3” around which puts me far smaller than the big dick guys. Maybe I have been lucky, but I have never had a sex partner complain, especially if she has an orgasm and I deposit my sperm into her. No way to know if they discuss it with their girl friends however. Pre intercourse stimulation always helps I believe!!!

I believe a talented Mistress can reduce even the most rugged and endowed man to a humiliated and humbled submissive.

I've been a submissive as far back as I can remember. My penis size would be considered short and somewhat thick. I never thought it had any influence on me being a sub. More of a choice on my part. I've had domes who have given insults on my penis size, but it never really worked for me. I didn't feel particularly embarrassed or humiliated by it. For me, being a submissive is more surrendering yourself to another. To have them in control. Nothing to do with any physical attributes. More a mental or emotional thing.

I don't believe it makes every guy with a smaller penis more vulnerable to being submissive, but for me personally it definitely adds to me being submissive. Just another thing im embarrassed/like to get humiliated about. But that is speaking for me not everyone.

I really don't think it makes any difference whatsoever.

Some guys are big and some small, it really doesn't affect if you are submissive.

As the old saying goes regarding small or large, it really is what you do with it, not the size.

I also was very small, this obviously suited me, as I have hated it all my life and really desperately want to get rid of it.

However, for me as a former sex worker, having a penis was actually beneficial for getting bookings. Guys generally preferred pre op to post op. I guess that is what they want, as if they wanted a complete woman, they would have booked a genetic woman.

Although I hated my penis, it was my way to make money, and of being able to live comfortably.

Being small made it easy to tuck away and hide. Tucked and taped away meant I could wear lingerie and swimwear without any problems, and my genetalia undetected, as long as nobody interfered with me, and I tucked and taped it away properly again after each visit to the toilet.

The female hormones I take, helps to keep it small and generally I never get erections.

As a sex worker I would have occasional spells where I reduced or didn't take my tablets, to try and keep a little bit of life in it.

Again clients liked this on agency bookings, and I made sure that I kept things completely in control and never got erections without a massive amount of time and work, and even if I did it remained small and virtually useless to anyone, other than for me to pee with.

As the old saying goes regarding small or large, it really is what you do with it, not the size.

I won't speak for all women but I can tell you that your above statement isn't correct, at least for me. And if I am being honest with you I would say that most of us feel the same way. Small penis' just don't do much if anything for us.

Mashie