What Happens to Your Sex Toys When You Die?

What’s going to happen to your sex toys in the event of an untimely death? Do you have a designated person that has clear instructions or will you let your kids/family discover your kinks?

My parents know about all our kinks but they will probably die before my husband and myself. My brother and probably his wife know our kinks but have not seen our toys but must know we have them. Our daughters know all our kinks and have seen all our toys in our equipment room. They are the most likely people who will deal with them when we die. I am certain they will divide our toys between themselves because they are kinky too. I imagine they will also give some toys to their children, just as I have given toys to them.

There is a saying that it is nicer for a gift to be given with a warm hand than a cold one. (Give your gifts while you are alive.

Oh my, I have never thought of that. Time to put on my thinking cap or I might be blushing in my casket.

My husband and children know about my kinks and have seen my toys. Some of them will probably go to my oldest daughter who frequents this site and what she doesn't want will be tossed in the trash. THat's sad to be because there are a lot of good times in that bag and a lot of money as well.

Mashie

Oh my goodness yes , those that have read some of what I have posted know that my wife and I were into chips dip whips and chains { ok the chips and dip were after } but after she passed at first I couldn't even look at her things , then after some time had passed I knew that I didn't want our son or daughter to find any of this even though I do know my daughter is a lot like me . So along story short I went out into the mountains to our spot and burned in the camp fire . Bad mistake do you know how much wood it takes to burn silicone and leather ?

I do

I will look down from heaven and enjoy the shocked looks on my friends and families faces when they begin to find them... with the realization of what each thing is for I will guffaw with glee!

We have a friend with instructions on what to do in the event something happens to me and my girl. But I don't have all the confidence in her to follow through. I can just see my kids, opening the safe under my bed only to discover a massive dildo and 3" butt plug and all the other massagers and misc toys! Not too sure that they wouldn't be surprised but I could just see it now!

Odds are strong I will die before my wife. She knows where I keep my toys. At this time I would almost bet she would discard them without even looking at them. They are kept in a gym type bag.

I wonder if I were to die with my favorite 12" double header in my ass if the mortician would remove it and give it to my wife or if it would be left in place. ;-)

I sorta hope mine will end up at a local flea market . Rubber and silicone are probably not suitable for resale, but plugs in glass or metal should be and i made a nice set of hand-made plugs many years ago. They are now curios and not really used any more. But they look nice, are highly varnished.

But then again knowing my son, he probably won't make much effort at sorting and selling things.

@Miss_Raven will either toss mine or keep them and with hers, I will ask her Dom if he wants the ones he gave her back. I would keep a few of them though that he didn’t get her.

It makes you wonder if sex toys are scattered all over landfills.

"What is this box? Why does it have a lock on it? There's stuff in here."

"Better get that opened."

"Hey does anybody have anything that can cut this lock off?"

"Uhhhh what the hell is this stuff?....."

"Is than an enema? It looks like several enemas. Why did she have this?"

"Well I think this is a butt plug, according to Google."

"Oh fantastic, a giant jar of butt Vaseline."

"Ummm please turn that off, I think it's a sex toy."

"Please stop squeezing that at me, that was in her ass."

"So does this stuff go to Goodwill or get thrown away?"

At least I'll be dead.

Well I do have some experience with this. When my late partner died her sister called me and asked me where she kept them. I told her and she got to them before mom did and chucked and easy $1000 worth of equipment and toys in the trash. I'm not sure if she looked or not. I still talk to the sister a couple times a year and she has never made any comments that she knew what was in there. As a nurse and with a lesbian partner I think she might have absconded with it.

I sorta hope mine will end up at a local flea market . Rubber and silicone are probably not suitable for resale, but plugs in glass or metal should be and i made a nice set of hand-made plugs many years ago. . . .

Rope, chain, rubber, sillicone and leather goods are always cleanable and useable amost forever.

Rope just needs to be thrown in a front loading washer (NOT agitator washer as the ropes will tangle on the agitator), chain just needs to be hosed and wiped, leather just needs some leather cleaner. Rubber and silicone can be thoroughly cleaned in the dishwasher on a "heavy scrub" cycle and voila, clean toys.

Thankfully all I have right now are a few condoms and a tube of K-Y that I sometimes use when I'm masturbating with kitchen tools or produce items. And an enema bag hidden in a shoe box tucked away in the closet.

But there have been times when I've had a number of vibrators, fleshlights, thermometers, exam gowns, speculums, etc. in my "toybox." I'm sure that would have been embarrassing for my wife to have stumbled upon that while going through my stuff in the event of my untimely demise.

Thankfully all I have right now are a few condoms and a tube of K-Y that I sometimes use when I'm masturbating with kitchen tools or produce items. And an enema bag hidden in a shoe box tucked away in the closet.

But there have been times when I've had a number of vibrators, fleshlights, thermometers, exam gowns, speculums, etc. in my "toybox." I'm sure that would have been embarrassing for my wife to have stumbled upon that while going through my stuff in the event of my untimely demise.

You threw out all your toys?

Wouldn't it have been better to come clean with your wife and have her join in the fun?

You threw out all your toys?

Wouldn't it have been better to come clean with your wife and have her join in the fun?

I have this habit of collecting a few sex toys, getting my jollies from them for a few months and then getting rid of them when I tire of them or before I think I'll get caught. Then a few months later the vicious cycle starts again.

My wife isn't into such things. Believe me, I've tried over the past 24 years to introduce some kink into the bedroom but I've been shot down and shut off each and every time. I know donning an exam gown or bringing a vibrator into our bed would go over like the proverbial lead balloon. It's not worth wrecking an otherwise harmonious marriage over.

Kc, I've been threatened with divorce over finding "my" enema bag. The funny thing was it was her deceased grandmother's bag. I was using it though. She said it was a deal breaker. so now everything I do is secret. Its a shame really.

Kc, I've been threatened with divorce over finding "my" enema bag. The funny thing was it was her deceased grandmother's bag. I was using it though. She said it was a deal breaker. so now everything I do is secret. Its a shame really.

That's too bad. But I totally understand why you now do what you do in secret. Trust me, you are not alone.

I think some of the people who post here who are fortunate enough to have found a like-minded partner have no concept whatsoever of just how bizarre, perverted or creepy others would find a medical fetish to be.

They will find a strapon, several vibrators, a dildo and an enema bag with a couple of funny nozzles. The shock factor begins. From there to my dresser drawer where they will encounter crotch less panties, various girdles, garter belts, fishnet hose and some very sheer see thru bras. Nothing out of the ordinary. Finding a male chastity device might make them begin to wonder just a bit more.

The real shock sets in when they find the flash drives containing hundreds of nude pictures some of which are rather explicit. Just hope somebody says "Looks like they had a good time."

@Breaze had better get rid of mine! Especially if I die before my Mother!!! Lol!

I have jokingly told a friend where mine are and instructed her to remove them before the kids find them. My daughter would probably laugh like hell and maybe keep a few, my sons are all pretty sure I only ever had sex once per child. Bless their hearts.

Okay off topic here, but I definitely know you're from the South @Peachfuzz ! Down here we can say anything bad about anybody we want to, as long as we follow it with "Bless their heart!" LMAO!

Now, how am I going to have someone dispose of a Ritter 100 exam table? Hmmm?

. . . . Now, how am I going to have someone dispose of a Ritter 100 exam table? Hmmm?

It's an enviable problem, but you do have a problem, don't you!

I no longer have a plan, I did see somewhere a picture of a box that had the disclaimer "Sex toys box if I'm dead just throw the box away trust me" So there is that idea

Good question...I guess my husband would take care of them. Some would wander into the trash and maybe some would be kept for the good memories. Two vibrators have recently "died" and I threw them out. So, no matter who dies first the toys end up in the garbage 😉

If discovered after you died, they will at least talk about you for a few days more. And, the this subject will probably come up at family reunions!

Maybe it is a great idea to leave your toys for others to discover. 😉

At least she died happy. 😃

Shoot I just realized I haven't included my sex toys in my last will and testament!

Shoot I just realized I haven't included my sex toys in my last will and testament!

Yeah, HA HA HA. VERY FUNNY.

DON'T DO IT.

Although wills are often intensely personal by design, they become public record at some point after the testator -- the person the will belongs to -- dies. ... Once the court has possession, wills begin channeling through the probate process, are eventually filed and become available for public access.