What Happens to Your Sex Toys When You Die?

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Well i personally don't care, but the wife is very shy with this sort of thing so she doesn't like the idea of having our vast toy collection being found, so all i could really do is store them all in 2 black plastic lockable carry boxes (tool boxes) which has a combination lock on them, they are just stored on the top shelf in our wardrobe, and the 5 or 6 toys that are the wife's favorites and regularly use are in a cardboard box under the bed for easy access, most are pegging harnesses and several types of silicone or TPE suction cup dildos to use with them, and a few other vibrating type toys.

Everyone uses sex toys, although many will never admit to it, but i don't really see why anyone has to get stressed over dying and having someone find them.

The saddest thing about sex toys for us is the wasted money, because every year we keep buying newer and better toys that are not that cheap to buy, and we end up not using the older ones any more.

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I care very much about other peoples' opinions - too much, probably - and that extends to after I die. After a lifetime of being outwardly straight, I'm afraid any of my friends and relatives would be shocked and disgusted to find my suppositories, enema stuff and anal toys. Then there's the SSD on my office computer with videos and fiction that would be equally disturbing. It is a constant low level anxiety. Gotta come up with a plan soon.

I care very much about other peoples' opinions - too much, probably - and that extends to after I die. After a lifetime of being outwardly straight, I'm afraid any of my friends and relatives would be shocked and disgusted to find my suppositories, enema stuff and anal toys. Then there's the SSD on my office computer with videos and fiction that would be equally disturbing. It is a constant low level anxiety. Gotta come up with a plan soon.

Ok so i too have a lot of naughty personal home videos and photos of me and the wife that we shoot ever since 25 years go, i have them all stored on 2 small SD Cards that i have hidden in our home where nobody will ever think to look, and i mean nobody will find them, so if i die, they will die with me, however i do have what is known as an online cloud storage service with a company called “IceDrive” and i pay $49 per year for 1tb of online storage, and i have uploaded all those videos and photos into my cloud storage, and they are sync'd to my laptop so that i can access them whenever i want while my laptop is turned on, if it is turned off my cloud service folder will disappear from my laptop, and only i know my login name and password to access the files if my laptop is turned back on by someone else, so this means that if i die, nobody can ever access those same files from my laptop either.

As far as your toys and other personal things go, well that is a different problem as these are physical items that you probably use on a regular basis, so you need to have them stored somewhere close by, so in the reality of it all, maybe you can never really hide them completely.

Anyway, once you die, you die, why would you worry so much now what others will say or think about you.

I have arranged for my good kinky friend who will pop round and remove all of my worldly items you have collected over the years. The benefits are that he becomes the owner of all the loot. The only problem is what if he dies before me?

@fullbottom Then there's the SSD on my office computer with videos and fiction that would be equally disturbing. It is a constant low level anxiety. Gotta come up with a plan soon.

You're working from the assumption that people will take the trouble to search your computer and any external hard drives or sticks. My take is that most people will be too lazy or uninterested in doing so. And if they are even slightly password protected, there will be less inclination to spend time trying to figure out access.

I fear that many interesting documents and content is going to be routinely lost from now on. In the past, people left paper behind, letters, writings of all kinds, drawings, sketches etc. Now with all of this being digitized, a large amount will simply disappear forever, instead of being found by friends, family or buyers at flea-markets for instance. This being quite a loss for posterity.

This is also why I take the meme/trope that nothing is ever lost on the Internet with a huge shaker of salt.

I am 70 years old and this has been something that has weighed heavy on my mind so i have tossed 99% of my toys and my delicious fuck machine , i have kept 2 normal size dildos and 1 vibrator but i am having a semi issue with parting with my cherished enemas bag collection that i have had since 1967 i just need to pick out 2 of my must have favorite bags to keep and i am keeping my Dr Tullar Bulb syringe and 2 dildos and 1 vibrator and 2 enemas bags and a douche bulb will not draw all that much attention because i do not want to be remembered by my family as that crazy enema freak Aunt like my Aunts were remembered for

My wife is very concerned about our black gym bag of toys which include various dildo’s, pegging harnesses , a couple of enema bags and assorted nozzles and bulbs, a few butt plugs , some e-stim equipment and a couple of wooden paddles. Our pictures and videos I have stored on micro Sd cards stored in a very inconspicuous place and some stored on a cloud service which I will probably transfer the Micro Sd cards to. But at the end of the day I really don’t care because most everyone has sex toy. Not too long ago I was fixing some house hold things for my step daughters who is close to 50 year’s old and has been divorced for years and while replacing a light switch in her walk-in closet I pushed some clothes back and a small black cosmetic bag fell off the shelf to the floor, it must have unzipped and a small dildo fell out, upon inspection it contained one more larger dildo and a anal prob and a bottle of lube.

Below it this: “Anyway, once you die, you die, why would you worry so much now what others will say or think about you.”

For us it's not what others think about us as it is distressing family — kids in particular have a hard time accepting parents sex life being in the original don't ask, don't tell mode.

We have a suitcase full of older enema equipment which includes a large number of black nozzles we picked up in drug stores at the end of the days when drug stores actually sold a black enema nozzle sometimes in a box of its own, sometimes the store would have a bigger box with loose nozzles of different shapes, sizes, to choose from. We've likely got a dozen or two of these. Hate to throw this mini-collection out. I wish there was a syringe museum I could send them to.

bridgyguy also mentioned IceDrive and I'm going to check them out. Thanks! While we've a few photos it would be nice to store I'm down on one knee to show respect to bridgyguy and his wife to have, need, 1T of storage. Hats off.

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We have a suitcase full of older enema equipment which includes a large number of black nozzles we picked up in drug stores at the end of the days when drug stores actually sold a black enema nozzle sometimes in a box of its own, sometimes the store would have a bigger box with loose nozzles of different shapes, sizes, to choose from. We've likely got a dozen or two of these. Hate to throw this mini-collection out. I wish there was a syringe museum I could send them to.

i do not want to be remembered by my family as that crazy enema freak Aunt like my Aunts were remembered for

Don't worry about family. Just as one shouldn't worry about what strangers think. What business of theirs is it?

A better thing to consider is that by throwing away such collections and items, you are denying collectors and enthusiasts the opportunity to buy and cherish/use these kind of things, to add it to their collections. To keep objects intact that will one day have significance.

Preserving things and objects that have given so much pleasure, should obviously trump whatever nosy and uncharitable notions family members have about you. Who knows what kind of hypocritical tendencies and habits they themselves have that they keep hidden?

Give others the chance to cherish what you yourself once cherished.

Thank you for bringing this matter of untimely death to my attention. I will make sure my loved ones discover my kinks. I shall bequeath my sex toys to them in my last will and testament.

Bequesting your sex toys in your will……."and to my nosey neighbor, I bequest my 3 inch diameter dildo be delivered to her rectally!"

Give them to Goodwill? 🤣🤣🤣

Bequesting your sex toys in your will……."and to my nosey neighbor, I bequest my 3 inch diameter dildo be delivered to her rectally!"

…DRY 😈

I really don't give a shit who finds them. I'll be pushing up daisies and in a hundred years from now no one will know who I was and they could really care less who I was. oh well by then they will be antiques. might be worth a dollar or two.

Don't throw anything with a battery in the trash. Batteries should be returned for recycling so drop your rechargeable toys off at the battery store. I'm just kidding about dropping off but not about keeping them out of the trash.

I'm saving mine for my kids to find when they clean out the house after I die or go the the nursing home.

I'm enjoying the humorous replies - thanks for some good laughs 😃

Hmmmm…too many crafts, trades and skills are being lost….got to find a willing apprentice! Volunteers??!!??

I can just hear my son saying, “That cheap bastard! I could have used all the money he spent and wasted and on those girdles, panties, stockings, bras, pantyhose, photos, magazines, enema bags… and now how the hell am I going to get rid of all this stuff without attracting attention!”

That's funny that you mentioned that! I was thinking about my 4 quart enema bag, so what will happen when I pass? We won't be around to be embarrassed, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.

The family get to share the spoils ... haha

I don't care, i will be dead!!!!

I don't care, i will be dead!!!!

Spoken like a true Stoic.

It's a problem I ask myself from time to time, especially after the accident that almost cost me my life. My wife knows where all the objects we play with are and the hd where all our movies are. It's actually not easy to get rid of everything; there are about thirty self-made enema nozzles, about fifteen plugs, a continuous washing system, a colon hydro system, all self-made and some purchased sex toys. She'll have to get rid of everything she won't use for her. For the content of the HD, I resolved by publishing all the videos on a site (yuvutu) where we can see them, so I will eliminate the physical support, while you will have to dispose of all the rest. What if she has to leave first? I do not want to think about it...

I am 70 years old and this has been on my mind for a number of years and i recently tossed out everything , i want to be remembered as the cool aunt and not the crazy crack pot aunt , now i have regrets of tossing everything but i did keep one normal run of the mill dildo that is useless to me and now i bought a few monster sized ones again so now i am back to square one , gonna be remembered as the crazy crack pot aunt

Since I bought a tool bag with a lock and put all inside I will leave instructions to burn it without opening.....or the locksmith they call to open it will have a surprise 😁

Be safe

Za

I have a number of thoughts about this, especially as I see many of my friends and relatives starting to get tragically ill -and do wonder about friends/family finding something now, just as much as after I’m gone….

1. I can’t remember now where I stashed some of my small collection of toys… even now, while I’m very much alive, I skip a beat every time I open a storage bin, or clean out a drawer wondering if that’s where I stashed that toy or worse, a DVD from the ‘90s 😳.

2. What would it be like if I suddenly became incapacitated and knew where the toys were, but wasn’t able to dispose of them?

3. As we see even here on Zity, profiles become inactive and I always wonder if the person lost interest, forgot their password, or worse…. It’s almost as if there should be a “Zity mausoleum” for those who’s profiles have gone dormant, or “a trigger” for when the profile disappears into the ether….

… I will leave instructions to burn it without opening.....or the locksmith they call to open it will have a surprise 😁

@Zaboots I will confess that if I came across a bag that said burn without opening I would not be able to resist the urge to peek inside. That’s just too tempting. On the other hand, if someone did burn my bag they would be left with campfire pit full of kinky metal and glass objects. The conversations around the fire that night would be very entertaining.

Jeez - are we really talking/thinking about this? Lots of interesting/amusing thoughts here, but.....After all is said and done, does it really make a difference? Somehow I think if my "legacy" consists of ???'s, lewd/humorous comments about my sex life, more ???'s and disparaging remarks that's GREAT! I certainly won't care; my wife (if she hasn't already taken care of things) won't care; and so, who gives a tinker's dam!!??!! Personally, I hope someone gets a kick out of it....and maybe has some use for the "leftovers"!!

I feel weird because we were talking about this last night while watching a movie. There was a girl who was killed but she really wasn't dead. The police went into her room and she had a lot of wigs. It was if she had a wig fetish. Then one of the cops said come here and look at this. He had her dresser drawers opened. He showed the lead detective each drawer which was full of toys. The lead detective said," I guess she wasn't into lingerie and underwear like normal". This other cop says wrong and points to two other dressers and said they are full of underwear. She had a huge walk in closet.

That is sort of the way they figured out she was still alive after a year or two. They were still investigating her death and went to an old friend of hers who said she had not seen her in a year before she read that she had died. The friend had a photo album and the lead detective asked if they could borrow it and she said yes. Then he and all the other cops took off and headed to the girl's mother's place who had all of her belonging stored. They asked her family if anyone had taken anything and they said no. The lady showing them or letting them in the room was her mom. One of the cops opened the dresser and said, "Boss they are still full." The mother said oh lord why would anyone want all of those? I saw them and could not believe it. Then she pointed to a big box she had taken from a beach house she and a girlfriend had that was in her girlfriend's name but she died years back. They opened the box and it was full of yet more toys. He asked the mother if she owned any businesses that may deal with those types of items. Then three cops came up and said not there. The mother said I swear I have not touched anything. She said she would never touch anything like those. The lead detective said no we are not looking for more of those items. He pulls out the photo album and told the mother that they were looking for dresses. The mother was like, "Oh that was her favorite dress and so was that one and that one, and that one and all the ones in the photo album were the ones missing". Can you say busted? It turned out that she had killed her girlfriend and collected millions in life insurance years earlier. But she knew if she started spending it people would start wondering where she got all of the money and some had suspected it anyway. We started talking about this again. My sister is like if you die I want all the toys. Her girlfriend was like yeah those cost a lot of money. Mom and Dad would freak out if they saw all the toys we had. I have two nightstands that are actually Chinese Chests so they hold more than a regular nightstand. But that girl in the movie had so many. It would take like ten of my nightstands. We also started wondering because we went back and watched all the scenes with toys and none were in boxes. So we started wondering how they got that many sex toys. After the movie what did they do with all of them? We were thinking did one day they ask everyone who was in the movie to bring in their sex toys? Mark them so after the movie you can take them back.

Did they buy a bunch and open them? Who had the pleasure of opening all of them? That would have taken hours. Can you imagine going into a sex store and having five shopping carts or more and just grabbing toys and filling the carts? After the movie did they say take what you want? If they did did anyone take some? Did they hand them out to the homeless? I wish I could remember the name of it. It didn't have any nudity in it at all. The R rating was because of the language and blood. Then this gets brought up again today. Lol