Sweet Julie, your post reminded me of an incident that happened with my (ex) wife. several years ago. we have not lived together since 2001 but we are still very close but not sexually intimate.
one night my wife called me at my home and she was in tears because pain meds had constipated her so badly that she was impacted and about to go to the emergency room.
I calmed her down and told her to come down to my house and I would take care of her.
"don't worry about it, honey, I've given you thousands of enemas. it will be alright".
she came to my house and took off her clothes and laid on the bed.
I first massaged her back and bottom with mineral oil to relax her then gave her about 10oz. or so of mineral oil in an enema. I had to squeeze the bag really hard to get the oil past the blockage but I did and we laid there and spooned until she had to go. I massaged her back and sides while she released the blockage.
then a mild soapy enema was given to her followed by a baking soda rinse.
all was well after that. she mailed me a thank you card the next day.
anyway, it made me think about what you said about an enema being even more intimate than sex. we shared a nice, intimate evening together again and It was not of a sexual nature to either of us. enemas are more intimate than sex sometimes. think of how many here have this enema fetish yet never share that with their s/o.