Diapers. ARE they unusual? ARE they unnatural - for ADULTS? Are adults who don't NEED diapers but LIKE/LOVE to be in them unnatural? Are they sick? Are they crazy? Are they weird? OMG! Diapers are the thing we GREW UP IN, until our selfish, lazy, "tired" parents decided WE needed to be "potty trained" - peeing and pooping in the "sanitary" toilet, whisking an integral part of us away without us understanding it, except that it was a "good thing". Peeing and pooping were NATURAL for us. And, the sensation of excretion, and the sensation of it being contained close to our skin was just fine, NATURAL, and NOT offensive. Only POTTY TRAINING made us aware of the seriousness and "filth" of excretion. Were it not for potty training, a whole lot more of the adult world would still be in diapers, and quite happily so! Now, it's for the incontinent among us, and so much with an element of shame to have to wear something absorbent to take care of what we cannot control...
DL or AB? AB usually means that a person needs to schedule time or design some sort of "session" to fulfill their desire to be "babied" or relive babydom. DL, well, a person can be diapered and use them, very discreetly, under regular adult clothes. It just depends upon HOW discreet a DL wants to BE, or NOT!
We all have our own thing. We only learn shame and loathing from other people. Wanna' be a DL? Be one. Wanna' be an AB? BE one. What I have learned in being a DL over the last FORTY years is that the only shame I need to feel is the shame that EYE feel that I NEED to feel. Or NOT. I have learned that when EYE became comfortable with WHO I am and HOW I am, and that my being different, being a DL, LOVING to be in diapers while NOT NEEDING them, and while the rest of the world might not understand the fact that I LOVE being a DL and am WAY comfortable with it, and indulge myself often, my being a DL is ME. Screw the rest of the world. If I don't impose ME on anybody else, if I don't make anybody else uncomfortable, if I don't require someone else to tolerate me to accomodate me, I'm doing my own thing. I'm doing what pleases me. I'm doing what fulfills me. I'm doing what makes ME comfortable. And, THAT is being in diapers whenever and wherever I want, and using them fully as I desire to.
Screw the rest of the world! Enjoy what you enjoy! Diapers are NOT a bad thing, and being a DL or AB is not a bad thing, either. To be honest, the sooner we all look at ourselves as being ELITIST, having OUR own thing, the better we all will be. We are NOT sad and sorry because diapers are the norm with the infant. Diapers ARE a viable and acceptable product for humans of ALL ages! Geez! Be REAL! It's FACT!
So, Dudes and Dudettes? Where are YOU? Oh, yeah. There are Dudettes out there as well as Dudes. I married a woman I fell in love with before I blew her off to find my perfect DL woman. I WILL convert her. I WILL bring her around. She WILL become a DL wife, and accomodate me, to HER benefit, as well as mine, in time. I KNOW it.
Lovingly bring your SO in. Be kind, be intelligent, be smart. HAVE PATIENCE. Pushing a SO to accept you or your situation will defeat what you hope to accomplish every time! Make having your SO MORE benefit from accomodating you than what YOU will feel in fulfillment! Male or female, REREAD this! How YOU present the situation will impact how you end up being fulfilled - or NOT.
Think. Be intelligent. Be all that you can be. Be all that you can OFFER to the special person in your life. The REST of your life depends upon it...