Craigslist personals taken down; harder to hook up

I am not sure, but I think that I already mentioned that also local printed and online classifieds can be a good replacement for CL personal, especially in major cities. Just my experience 😃

There's not much since Craigs is gone for ads. There's always an ample supply of marrieds looking for casual sex on the side, if someone wants that. BDSM groups are just swingers, and they play with each other…my experience based on living in 3 states. All of this is beginning to be a big waste of my time.

There's not much since Craigs is gone for ads. There's always an ample supply of marrieds looking for casual sex on the side, if someone wants that. BDSM groups are just swingers, and they play with each other…my experience based on living in 3 states. All of this is beginning to be a big waste of my time.

@sundaybrunch I found Craigslist to be pretty useless, I advertised extensively at one point and mostly attracted either professional women, or timewasters probably men pretending to be women, although you get a lot of that anywhere. I did meet with one genuine woman through CL. But I've mostly met with women from Yahoo Groups, but the relevant ones were shut down some years ago, and in more recent years from placing ads on UKGyn and Zity. I guess it depends what you are looking for….

I have found that “Doublelist” is a good alternative to Craigslist.. you might want to check it out.

I did actually meet up with and examine several wonderful women from CL. None of them were specifically looking for medical play but rather stumbled across my ad and decided it stirred their interest enough to try it. All of them were great encounters that ended up with more exams that followed.

As with any online encounter, women especially should be cautious. Some wanted to meet prior to the exam, some did not. All of them did end up committing to the exam after the initial meeting.

@sundaybrunch I found Craigslist to be pretty useless, I advertised extensively at one point and mostly attracted either professional women, or timewasters probably men pretending to be women, although you get a lot of that anywhere. I did meet with one genuine woman through CL. But I've mostly met with women from Yahoo Groups, but the relevant ones were shut down some years ago, and in more recent years from placing ads on UKGyn and Zity. I guess it depends what you are looking for….

I'm going back 10-15 years ago, and Craigslist was good, and maybe that's demographics of where I lived at the time. There were a lot of normal people looking for kink. But you had to be careful, and really find out what someone was like. You don't meet right away, but you also don't spend months online with emails. After a few emails, would go to a phone call. If that seemed comfortable, then a meeting in a public place, like a coffee shop. Daytime hours, and you have to be somewhere in a few hours…so you'd be missing… but never play the first meeting. The men with names like, “Bob” were more dominant than the “Lord Masterdragonheart” guys. It's the quietly dominant guys who are the best.

Someone told me long ago, there's no companionship in this, so don't ever look for it--you're just wasting your time if you do-- so I never have. He is right though, when you look at the personals. I've only dated vanillas, because they are the ones seeking relationships. It really does make sense, when you look at all of the men who are married to vanillas. I'd say I've been “friends” with a few spankers, but we never met outside of our planned sessions. I am talking about real life, not any staged online “play”, cyber, or sexual activity.

@drmyk2 , I kind of have to disagree with you. I've had ads on DoubleList and nothing ever pans out for me. Most times, my ads get rejected! The best results I've had to date have all been from Craigslist!

@IowaGuy oh I agree with you it’s certainly not craigslist. Unfortunately it seems to be the only alternative I have found… Thus far.🤞

@drmyk2 , I kind of have to disagree with you. I've had ads on DoubleList and nothing ever pans out for me. Most times, my ads get rejected! The best results I've had to date have all been from Craigslist!

Clue me in…I used to use Craigs, but they stopped letting people put up ads to meet. Where are you finding ads on there?

Try and stay away from Craigslist,lots of golddiggers and bad people! Try Silver Daddies instead,just choose your state and age group !

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Try and stay away from Craigslist,lots of golddiggers and bad people! Try Silver Daddies instead,just choose your state and age group !

" Silver Daddies". Says, “Dating for mature gay men.”

I'm not a man, I'm not gay, I'm not silver, and probably not mature.

" Silver Daddies". Says, “Dating for mature gay men.”

I'm not a man, I'm not gay, I'm not silver, and probably not mature

Your reply gave me a laugh - thanks..

@codjer Try and stay away from Craigslist,lots of golddiggers and bad people! Try Silver Daddies instead,just choose your state and age group !

Have you tried it? Any charges/gimmicks?

Your reply gave me a laugh - thanks..

You're quite welcome!! 😉

This is a question that I have been asking for so long.

How many people on here actually want to meet someone who shares similar kinks and desires. How many people on Zity have profiles and never go online? How many never respond to any message? How many people here are married or have a SO or have already met someone and in a relationship?

Why do people join Zity? To meet people, just read posts and look at pics or what? And there is a big difference between males and females in regards to feeling safe and or scared who they meet is some crazy person.

I would say 10 years ago no matter what site you went to more people were willing to meet. Today I feel that 90% of people online are just online to chat, look at pics, fake, teasers/porn or just will never act on their desires.

So as the expression goes “keep trying”!!!!!!!!! Oh and now we have to factor in “Covid-19” for the last 14 months and for another 3, 4, 6, months?

How many people on here actually want to meet someone who shares similar kinks and desires. How many people on Zity have profiles and never go online?

I did not join with the intention of finding anyone to meet in real life. That was not my intention at all and never has been. Zity has always been a site for reading and sharing information, stories and ideas. There was never any expectation of much else.

At least it was so for me. Over the years I've decided that medfet play and such is more enjoyable in the mind, as a solo fantasy. Meeting up with people can be nothing but a source of frustration and dashed hopes.

This is a question that I have been asking for so long.

How many people on here actually want to meet someone who shares similar kinks and desires. How many people on Zity have profiles and never go online? How many never respond to any message? How many people here are married or have a SO or have already met someone and in a relationship?

Why do people join Zity? To meet people, just read posts and look at pics or what? And there is a big difference between males and females in regards to feeling safe and or scared who they meet is some crazy person.

I would say 10 years ago no matter what site you went to more people were willing to meet. Today I feel that 90% of people online are just online to chat, look at pics, fake, teasers/porn or just will never act on their desires.

So as the expression goes “keep trying”!!!!!!!!! Oh and now we have to factor in “Covid-19” for the last 14 months and for another 3, 4, 6, months?

A long time ago, someone said online (not this website), that she would never meet anyone in person, because she “didn't want to be killed”. I thought that was odd, because a lot of people think going on Match.com, etc., is safe. It might be reaching to say that kink sites might be a tad more safe, because people have more to risk with meeting others. I think if I felt like that woman did, I would just forget about my desires.

I agree that 10 years ago, or more, people were more willing to meet. Every meeting did NOT produce a big kink or fetish session. Sometimes, you met up with someone for coffee or a lunch, and both decided it wasn't a mutual thing. But it seems like with ads, people are looking for casual sex. I also think there are more submissive men, than dominant ones now.

Like a lot of others, I had to learn that you don't spend time emailing for months. I also didn't send a photo right away, unless I thought there was a good possibility things were what I wanted. That after several emails, it should go to a phone call. If that is mutually agreeable, then a meeting for coffee, and you don't necessarily play the first meeting.

I learned that people can be real actors. I had someone really misrepresent himself. I had two that said they were single, and turned out to be married. I found out, because their wives emailed me. It was pretty terrifying. There was no sex, but still…one guy was only married four months, and the wife accused me of “wrecking our marriage”.

But there were many good people I had met.

I don't get people online who are married…if you have someone to play with, you have it all. Every single day. Every single week. I know I wouldn't be!

I also feel most people just want to “play online”. It's like talking about eating a steak. I know there's a lot of limitations. One's privacy, one's job, one's family. You have to feel like the other person is safe, and if you decide not to ever meet with them again, then both sides agree, and part ways, and there's no bad feelings, revenge, etc. It's an unsaid matter of honor.

At least it was so for me. Over the years I've decided that medfet play and such is more enjoyable in the mind, as a solo fantasy. Meeting up with people can be nothing but a source of frustration and dashed hopes.

In my opinion, if you meet someone who meets your needs, it's truly wonderful, and you have lots of good memories.

I think it's easier to let go with a stranger, that you trust, than someone you'd be in a relationship with. I once met with a real medical fetishist. It was amazing. I'd actually prefer to pay a real disciplinarian, like the men get to…because there's more safety involved. I suppose a lot of men do not want to take money from a woman for kinky play, because it comes really close to being illegal…taking money for sex.

I wouldn't want someone I cared about to know my deepest, darkest secrets and desires.

I used to feel that it took meeting 5 people to find one really good one. Sometimes, meeting someone, you just say bye and walk away, because there's no connection at all.

Now pay attention my friends if you go on Craigslist, the personals are disguised under Activities,General,Groups,Missed Connections,and Events . Check it out. Jerry.

We must be searching for different things, because in my city, “Activities” is looking for a dog-walking partner or fellow golfer. “Missed Connections” really is just that. And I'm not looking to play with any groups. Yard sales, used equipment, discussion groups…I don't see any personal ads.

A long time ago, someone said online (not this website), that she would never meet anyone in person, because she “didn't want to be killed”. I thought that was odd,

I suppose it's odd, unless you watch a lot of movies or TV shows about serial killers and murder. Then it will seem that this is something that will one day happen to you too.

I suppose it's odd, unless you watch a lot of movies or TV shows about serial killers and murder. Then it will seem that this is something that will one day happen to you too.

You are way much more likely to be killed by your nearest and dearest than a stranger. But all the same use your common sense and play safe…