With having kids at home, Tanner's and my sex life was taking a nose dive, because we always tried to make time for "proper sex" in bed, lights turned down low, sexy music, even if it was just to fuck. We were always trying to set aside time for "mommy and daddy" but that WAS NOT WORKING for us. And we've only been married a little over 10 years and still have, or more accurately "had" some romantic bullshit notions.
But with the kids, even our meals where there was a steak turned into "fast food" and our schedules really cut into our sex life. Now since we've opened up to each other, fucking is definitely an option. 😄 Like @Ms_Lila said, sometimes we just get enough off or out of the way to get fucked. 😈 There's a LOT to be said for just fucking to fuck or be fucked.
I think we are getting to the point where we are going to adopt the "SOD" (sex on demand) thing which sounds sort of similar to what @SwitchableSusie or @Ms_Lila have said.
I also agree with
@SwitchableSusie said, "Are virgins over-rated? I don't know, I'm not a man. From my standpoint, their lack of experience, care needed with intromission and emotional care most virgins need makes for less than the best sexual experience, although I don't doubt that if you lose your virginity with someone you truly love it can be a very special experience for the woman and some men."
But after that, then comes the fun and what makes it all worth it, for me anyway. It can be both, but this post is about fucking, and how fucking becomes satisfying or gratifying evolves from that romantic or emotional involvement or commitment.
Fucking should be fun and approached that way, because most of the times I just want to fuck, and fucking the guy I love is where it's at.